My Life's Hit Rock Bottom

[DonGorgon]

You are obsessed due to lack of options, a common place that many me find themselves in... We must always have at least 1 other option . never ever have only one female option.. WHY? Cause then you have no power.

 

[vonbock]

slaoG:I know you eman well about it is never too late. If I am 18 and date a 16 y.o, no problem; I am in my mid 30's and date a 16 y.o then I get my name on the newspaper and barred from my profession. I know girls that have such specific reuqirements, that if you are above a certain age then they don't give you the time of day. You can only do with that you have at that time, but you can't say its never too late. Just like clubbing, you think differently in a club when you ate 30 than when you are 21.

 

[DonJuan11]

How come the original poster hasn't responded to all the advice? Or is it a joke?

 

[slaog]

slaoG:I know you eman well about it is never too late. If I am 18 and date a 16 y.o, no problem; I am in my mid 30's and date a 16 y.o then I get my name on the newspaper and barred from my profession. I know girls that have such specific reuqirements, that if you are above a certain age then they don't give you the time of day. You can only do with that you have at that time, but you can't say its never too late. Just like clubbing, you think differently in a club when you ate 30 than when you are 21.

Yeah you can't go back to your youth but you can start thinking about the present. Who wants to date a 16s year old anyway. You should be aiming for hot 20 something year olds. Most women prefer older men.

Girls have requirements alright but really all they want is to feel good in the company of a real man. Its not like women don't change there mind or it's not like women to know what they want is it.

 

[NoName]

How come the original poster hasn't responded to all the advice? Or is it a joke?

I'm here, I've just been quiet.

But anyway, you're all right. I pretty much look in the mirror and say "Hell yeah, you're the man" every day (not literally, of course). But it never does anything except boost my ego for a few minutes, before I realize that the guy staring back at me is not the kind of person I'd like to be. He's not living the life I want to live. He's playing the victim, not the hero, of this sordid little drama. I can't respect him. I need to change.

Like I said, it's not as though I haven't tried to change. It's just that it's easy to fall back on old habits when there's nothing else to fall back on. I know it's not going to be easy, and each time I've tried harder. But every time I just fall harder.

I was hoping that by posting here I would get, not quite someone to hand over the answer on a plate, but somewhere I could get support when I start regressing back to my old, pathetic ways. A kick in the ass, if you will.

 

[Southern_PU]

I have the same problem you do man. I too have bad habits I want to get rid off but I can't, I end up going back to comfort some. Note there are not related with women, but habits to make myself more effective with my work, stop chewing my nails, etc.
It's hard... but you always need to think about the person you'll be when you overcome them.

That motivates me.

And on the bottom line, NOBODY can solve your problems (or mine).
You can only ask for help, advice, support but the change MUST be done by yourself.
Take responsibility of your habits & emotions. After all, you created them.

So you are feeling shy? If YOU don't do something to overcome it, you'll die with all the regrets and all the "what if".
Nobody can make you a better man except yourself.

 

[JDA70]

Your on what's called the downward spiral.
The good news you can make out of this.

Need a kick in the ass?

Ok.

Sounds like you got depression but I can't say for sure.
Best thing to do is go get tested to see if you got depression,
are bipolor and or have OCD.
Check out some stuff online.
Here... read this it's really cool.
http://ocdtruth.com/


Don't worry about your grades.
Just do the best you can at that time.
You can always drop out and get
a GED and go to collage.

OMG did he just say drop out and GED?
Yeah I did. Lots of people have done it
and went on to a happy life.

Here is a new hobby for you.
Go talk to girls. If you don't know them do it anyways.
If you do know them then make a move.
If you know one is interested then go get her now.
That is an order mr! :cuss:



Seriously...don't give up.

Your a writer so what do you call these?

If you keep doing what you've been doing
you'll keep getting what you've been getting.

Go out on a limb that is where the fruit is at.

 

[vonbock]

slaog:yes you are right 20 something year old would be perfect. Unfortunately, once girls know you are studious type, you are put into nice guy category. What I would give to be that guy at the club at 21, who has all the money, nice car buying everyone drinks and surrounded by and partying with lots of girls. Hey 16 y.o gosh you are just starting. There is no need to be depressed. I should be the one depressed.