My life just nosedived into oblivion....

[x2xgamer]

Alright, I'm 17 years old and I'm a freshman in college. My life has been pretty great, up until yesterday. My 16 year old EX-girlfriend is now pregnant and shes about 4/5 weeks late with her period. She was on the pill, but occasionally there were some days where she missed it.

I met with her yesterday before she went on vacation for a week and that's when she dropped the bomb on me. I told her how I think she should have an abortion because of her weight (100-ish pounds), we both smoke cigarettes and I AM NOT ready for this kind of responsibility. The thing is, she loves me alot and I can see her having this baby because...well you know how girls get.

I told her yesterday that I loved her because I'd be a pretty big ******* to say that I didn't want to be with her when she is going through this. I made her promise to me that she would at least THINK about having an abortion, but she got stressed when I tried to convince her about it. Her mom is a strict catholic, and she listens to pretty much everything her mom says. She says she would "never be able to live with herself" if she got an abortion.

I simply don't know what to do guys...I'm Muslim and I can't talk to either of my parents about it simply because I'm too scared. I don't want my first kid to be a bastard, nor do I want him/her raised by my EX girlfriend and her mom.

WHAT SHOULD I DO? Moral repercussions aside, how can I convince her that getting an abortion is the best thing to do? I feel like i just hit rock bottom, I can't drive, I can't do anything, my mind is consumed with this and its driving my insanity away second by second, I can feel it. Helppp

 

[Lust]

Well, the baby is just as much yours as it is hers.

Why did you say that you loved her if you may not?

Be straight forward and to the point, forget about being a gentlemen. Tell her that if she was to have a baby it would RUIN your life, and that you are not ready for that kind of commitment, and that you would not be able to support her.

I would make sure she understands how I feel completely, and if this was to happen to me, I would let her know that I strongly suggest her having an abortion, and that if she did not, she would have to understand that I would not be there, because I don't have the time or energy at this stage of my life to commit to something like that.

Forget about hurting her feelings, this could mess up the rest of your life.

 

[Maxtro]

Wow, every mans nightmare. Her having and raising the kid will absolutely ruin both of your lives. It will screw up hers more than yours though.

I think that you and your parents should talk to her and her parents. She has two options abort or put it up for adoption. Most women are retarded when it comes to them being pregnant and she needs to get it hammered into her skull that raising a kid when she is 16 is absolutely horrible. Do not give her any hope that you will be there to help. The thought that her boyfriend will help her raise it or even get married to her is a big reason that women decide to go through with it.

In the worst case scenario you will be stuck paying child support until you die. While she will most likely drop out of High School and be stuck flipping burgers for the rest of her life because she will never get an education. Heck at her age and size there is a pretty good chance that she can die during childbirth. Most likely her family doesn't want that to happen.

 

[Nighthawk]

I feel for you, but it's her choice. Ideally it would be an equal decision, but realistically, she's going to have or abort the baby and be stuck with raising it if you don't want to.

I don't recommend trying to lecture her into having an abortion. I know women that made that decision on their own (as she probably will) and never forgave the man for trying to force her into it, so bear that in mind too.

 

[SickAgain]

Get a fvcking paternity DNA test. Just fvcking do it. You MIGHT be able to breeze through this unscathed. And there's nothing wrong with abortion for me before the 1/3 trimester.

 

[x2xgamer]

im still in shock though thats the thing

im terrified of having to be stuck with her for the rest of my life.

 

[Potbelly]

Get the abortion by ANY MEANS NECESSARY. Yes, paternity test....abort the fetus some how. It's not a kid. It's not a baby. It's a fetus probably not even a fetus. It's like a damn embryo...sack of cells like hair on your head.

 

[Phyzzle]

Dam right paternity test!!!!

Don't you remember your own thread?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128399

You don't know jack about this kid until the test. Don't sign anything, any permission slip or certificate "just as a formality" until you know.

 

[Last Man Standing]

You are having a hor's baby - you have officially just entered hell!!!!!!

If she opened her legs to you then she most likely opened her legs to all others - get a DNA test!

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I banged a girl once and got her pregnant and she got an abortion.

Thank GOD she had that abortion or my life would be a living hell!

 

[Potbelly]

I banged a girl once and got her pregnant and she got an abortion.

Thank GOD she had that abortion or my life would be a living hell!

AHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH pure humor.....ahahah dude...excellent post. Classic.

 

[Potbelly]

You are having a hor's baby - you have officially just entered hell!!!!!!

If she opened her legs to you then she most likely opened her legs to all others - get a DNA test!

ROFL

LMS - TRUER WORDS HAVE NEVER BEEN SPOKEN HAHAHA HILARIOUS!!!!

OP, I think you're fvcked, figuratively that is.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH pure humor.....ahahah dude...excellent post. Classic.

No, actually I wasn't trying to be funny. That post is true.

 

[Potbelly]

Let me count where you fvcked up. This post will be for pure comical relief. I hope you like jokes:

Alright, I'm 17 years old and I'm a freshman in college. My life has been pretty great, up until yesterday. My 16 year old EX-girlfriend is now pregnant and shes about 4/5 weeks late with her period. She was on the pill, but occasionally there were some days where she missed it. SUPER BIG FVCK UP!

I met with her yesterday before she went on vacation for a week and that's when she dropped the bomb on me. I told her how I think she should have an abortion because of her weight (100-ish pounds), we both smoke cigarettes and I AM NOT ready for this kind of responsibility. The thing is, she loves me alot and I can see her having this baby because...well you know how girls get.

I told her yesterday that I loved her BIG FVCK UP!because I'd be a pretty big ******* to say that I didn't want to be with her when she is going through this. I made her promise to me that she would at least THINK about having an abortion, but she got stressed when I tried to convince her about it. Her mom is a strict catholicwho cares. she probably sleeps around, and she listens to pretty much everything her mom saysYEAH FVCKING RIGHT. I BET HER MOM DIDN'T TELL HER TO FVCK YOU AND GET PREGGERS. She says she would "never be able to live with herself" if she got an abortionTell her to STFU and get an abortion.

I simply don't know what to do guys...I'm Muslim and I can't talk to either of my parents about it simply because I'm too scared. I don't want my first kid to be a bastard, nor do I want him/her raised by my EX girlfriend and her mom.

WHAT SHOULD I DO? Moral repercussions aside, how can I convince her that getting an abortion is the best thing to do? I feel like i just hit rock bottom, I can't drive, I can't do anything, my mind is consumed with this and its driving my insanity away second by second, I can feel it. Helppp

BY THE WAY: You're muslim, she's christian. Pray to your respective Gods and be like, "yeah I fvcked up pretty bad! I think you should kill this little baby for me just this once. Pretty pleeeeeaase??"

Also, that's BULL**** how she "listens to her mom." THAT'S FVCKING BULLSH1T YOU IDIOT. CAN'T YOU SEE THROUGH IT!?!? SHE HAD SEX WITH YOU...UNPROTECTED...BEFORE MARRIAGE...GOT PREGNANE.. ..AND YOU SAY SHE LISTENS TO HER MOM'S RELIGIOUS BULLSHT?!?! FVCK THAT SH1T MAN!!!!

OPEN YOUR DAMN EYES SHE'S LYING TO YOU. GET HER TOHAVE THE ABORTION THROUGH ANY MEANS POSSIBLE.

OR YOUR LIFE IS OVER.

 

[Potbelly]

No, actually I wasn't trying to be funny. That post is true.

oh my bad...but it was still funny though. If you read his post, then read yours, it's pure comedy. I couldn't stop laughing for 10 straight minutes. I'd stop, read it again and laugh hahaha. Oh my god...greatness.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Let me count where you fvcked up. This post will be for pure comical relief. I hope you like jokes:


BY THE WAY: You're muslim, she's christian. Pray to your respective Gods and be like, "yeah I fvcked up pretty bad! I think you should kill this little baby for me just this once. Pretty pleeeeeaase??"

Also, that's BULL**** how she "listens to her mom." THAT'S FVCKING BULLSH1T YOU IDIOT. CAN'T YOU SEE THROUGH IT!?!? SHE HAD SEX WITH YOU...UNPROTECTED...BEFORE MARRIAGE...GOT PREGNANE.. ..AND YOU SAY SHE LISTENS TO HER MOM'S RELIGIOUS BULLSHT?!?! FVCK THAT SH1T MAN!!!!

OPEN YOUR DAMN EYES SHE'S LYING TO YOU. GET HER TOHAVE THE ABORTION THROUGH ANY MEANS POSSIBLE.

OR YOUR LIFE IS OVER.

I'd say if he does not get the abortion he still has the hope that a DNA test proves the baby is NOT his.

But who wants to go that far? Just pony up give her 300 dollars and get her to have an abortion. You can even be a nice guy and go to the clinic with her.

 

[Potbelly]

Also don't forget, GET A GODDAMN PATERNITY TEST. YOU MUST SEE THE RESULTS. DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS.

RED SIGNS:

1: EX-gf??? EX????
2: super religious mom...but goes to get pregnant??
3: contacts your ass outta nowhere?

Clearly she's wacko...get a damn test and report back.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Also don't forget, GET A GODDAMN PATERNITY TEST. YOU MUST SEE THE RESULTS. DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS.

RED SIGNS:

1: EX-gf??? EX????
2: super religious mom...but goes to get pregnant??
3: contacts your ass outta nowhere?

Clearly she's wacko...get a damn test and report back.

But who wants to go that far? I say talk some sense into her. Take her to lunch, tell her how bad having a baby will be for both of your lives and convince her. A REAL Don Juan can convince a woman to do anything. Are you a DJ or not?

 

[Potbelly]

Well at this point I think he can get a paternity test via getting fetus DNA.

How far along is the baby? (not that I care, ask this yourself)

Ideally, the girl will get an abortion, kills your problem real fast.

 

[penkitten]

take responsibility .
she is most likely going to have this baby, and afterwards, you can get a dna test done.
if you do not want to be with her, tell her now , before she starts setting her heart on things that are not going to come true.

do a search on the site for "abortion"
there are lots of threads that contain alot of stuff that you should read.