Hi Guys,
So I haven't posted in a while because I had to take a break from this "game" for various reasons, but I have a quick question for you because I'm back in but starting to get messed up about this.
Last year before I was forced to take a quick break I started making great strides. I was actually at the point where I noticed I was getting a lot more eye contact from girls, and I was able to approach and start vibing with them. Good Kino, I was funny, good body language, etc.
Here is my problem, and I've read some threads here about the biggest opportunities they've blown and stuff so maybe I'm not alone. My problem is that I'll be in a situation where I'm 90% sure I've got to close the deal and make a move but that's when I actually freeze. So I can actually build attraction and be at the point where I just need to escalate, but I get so nervous that I literally freeze up and don't end up doing anything.
Just a couple of examples of what I mean just so you can visualize this, there was this girl I met who came over my house by herself to watch this show that we both watched, and at the end of the night when she was standing at the door to leave we just stood there. And we kept standing there for 10 minutes, it got to the point where she basically was just stalling as if she was waiting for me to do something, and I was literally too nervous to do anything because I was thinking things like "Nah you're imagining this" or "what if you're wrong you'll be embaressed". Stupid stuff like that. So she left and I basically kicked myself in the face.
Another example, I drove this HB8 out to a club and towards the end of the night we took a seat in this secluded area. I'm stroking her long blonde hair and stuff, and I was about to escalate right there but I choked. We then pull into my garage, and just like the last girl, she sits in my car for 10 minutes, just stalling for me to make a move, and rather than do anything I sat there freaked out thinking "Oh man what if I make a move and get burned" and stupid stuff like that.
The best way to describe it would be like getting nervous before giving a speech or something. My question is does this ever/did this ever happen to you when you very first started getting better at this, and how do you get over it? Keep in mind I'm very inexperienced with girls so I'm thinking I just need to suck it up and keep pushing through it but I just wanted to see if anyone had any other useful tips. Last year that is what I did, I just pushed through it and escalated even though I was nervous as hell but I need to get over this.
The last thing I'll mention is that if anything is messing up my inner game right now, its that I'll keep going over these type of situations over and over again in my head and kick myself because I'll actually be nervous I'll blow it next time too.
So I haven't posted in a while because I had to take a break from this "game" for various reasons, but I have a quick question for you because I'm back in but starting to get messed up about this.
Last year before I was forced to take a quick break I started making great strides. I was actually at the point where I noticed I was getting a lot more eye contact from girls, and I was able to approach and start vibing with them. Good Kino, I was funny, good body language, etc.
Here is my problem, and I've read some threads here about the biggest opportunities they've blown and stuff so maybe I'm not alone. My problem is that I'll be in a situation where I'm 90% sure I've got to close the deal and make a move but that's when I actually freeze. So I can actually build attraction and be at the point where I just need to escalate, but I get so nervous that I literally freeze up and don't end up doing anything.
Just a couple of examples of what I mean just so you can visualize this, there was this girl I met who came over my house by herself to watch this show that we both watched, and at the end of the night when she was standing at the door to leave we just stood there. And we kept standing there for 10 minutes, it got to the point where she basically was just stalling as if she was waiting for me to do something, and I was literally too nervous to do anything because I was thinking things like "Nah you're imagining this" or "what if you're wrong you'll be embaressed". Stupid stuff like that. So she left and I basically kicked myself in the face.
Another example, I drove this HB8 out to a club and towards the end of the night we took a seat in this secluded area. I'm stroking her long blonde hair and stuff, and I was about to escalate right there but I choked. We then pull into my garage, and just like the last girl, she sits in my car for 10 minutes, just stalling for me to make a move, and rather than do anything I sat there freaked out thinking "Oh man what if I make a move and get burned" and stupid stuff like that.
The best way to describe it would be like getting nervous before giving a speech or something. My question is does this ever/did this ever happen to you when you very first started getting better at this, and how do you get over it? Keep in mind I'm very inexperienced with girls so I'm thinking I just need to suck it up and keep pushing through it but I just wanted to see if anyone had any other useful tips. Last year that is what I did, I just pushed through it and escalated even though I was nervous as hell but I need to get over this.
The last thing I'll mention is that if anything is messing up my inner game right now, its that I'll keep going over these type of situations over and over again in my head and kick myself because I'll actually be nervous I'll blow it next time too.