My last stand

[evoke]

I can't go about torturing myself anymore.

The other night I had this party, I invited my LJBF/one-itis/whatever, and she didn't seem too thrilled to be here. She was out of her comfort zone (a lot of people she didn't know), and perhaps she didn't like the fact that I had to focus on other girls. She kept saying these annoying things like "Don't expect much from me tonight. I'm not in the mood." to "I'd rather be at home touching myself.". She really needs to stop assuming so much.

She did follow me around all night, and at one point just plopped down on my lap, but then she started complaining again, so I took her home.

The entire car ride consisted of me telling her how much of a pain in the ass she is, with her constantly switching on and off, and that she has some serious ****ing issues.

When I dropped her off, she said I can call her whenever, and I just said, "For what? So you can tell me you're tired, or that you wanna stay home and finger yourself? No thanks!". "Tee-hee, screw you.". Indeed.

Then, after a bit of drinking, I sent her another one of my ill-conceived text messages. I told her how frustrated I was with her and that I'm tired of having to restrain myself around her ever since she said she just wanted to be friends. No reply.

The next day, I figured I had nothing at all to lose, so I sent her yet another annoying text message. This was our conversation:

Evoke: Ya know, every time you sit on my lap, I get a chubby. How bout that.
Her: I knew that actually- at least I figured. Sorry.
Evoke: That's ok. Pretty much anything'll set it off.
Her: Haha. You need to keep that thing on a leash.

I don't even know where the **** this is ever gonna go, but I'm gonna stop being too petrified to ever make a move on her. If I lose her, so be it. I have plenty of other prospects that won't offer resistance.

 

[wanga]

I hope you realize that once you are LJBF'd you cant do **** except next her. Stop letting her rule your life and live life by your own rules.


Understand one thing, you can't be with her.

Get over your one-itis for her and go meet ten other women (GMTOW). My suggestion to you is to just break all communication with her.

 

[wowiehowie]

I once had one similiar to yours. Sex was stictly on HER terms. and then she would complain that I didn't want to phuck her. So that sh!t didn't last too long.

I would remember the times when she'd get super horny. We'd make out, do some heavy petting, and not too long after she'd try to pull out my johnson. Guess what? He'd go droopy in NO TIME!!!

That did a number of negative things to her.

1st, she would think that I didn't find her attractive enough to phuck her. (Chicks don't handle this too well)

2nd , it told her in a very non-verbal way that she couldn't use me whenever she wanted to, you know strictly on her terms.

So, in a way I didn't really know that I was fightin' back against her.

Us guys can basically phuck just about anything, within reason. But, something inside of me said "this ain't right" So my brain says to my johnson, "were shuttin' you down for a while. " I was a bit concerned about the having "ED" but shortly after I broke it off with her, ole johnny came back to life!


I kicked her in the arse soon after, - and you should too!

 

[librito]

evoke said...................................................I don't even know where the **** this is ever gonna go, but I'm gonna stop being too petrified to ever make a move on her. If I lose her, so be it. I have plenty of other prospects that won't offer resistance.

I have news for you my brother DJ. she was never yours, so how are you gonna lose her?
thats the same way you should act, you dont have anything to worry about because you have nothing to lose. dont follow her and you'll see that she is gonna stalk you.
the reason why she doesnt call you is because she knows you'll call her first.
right now she is the one dictating the terms because she is the one being followed by you. play her game and you'll become the leader of this situation.

 

[evoke]

I don't have a problem meeting other women. Last friday at the bar, I was surrounded by a bunch of beautiful South American girls. The next day most of them, and their friends, were at my house. That is normal for me. Girls always approach me. They throw their phone numbers at me. I could make a call right now and have one over her in 2 seconds. All I have to do is walk into a place, and all attention is immediately on me. I can be talking to the most stunning women you could ever see, and be totally, unflinchingly, game on. And I am NOT good looking at all. Or at least I don't think so, but **** that anyway.

With this ONE particular girl, I have a problem. She's the reason I came here.

She used to worship the ground I walk on (I've known her for about 4 or 5 years, but only recently starting hanging out with her). She could be out with her BF (she's been single for a year now, cause he broke her heart, apparently), and she'd leave him to come talk to me. Later, she'd be seeing someone else, and once again, she'd focus 110% on me. She used to go out of her way to "run into" me at places. She begged me for my phone number, even after one of her ex's convinced her that I was a virgin. Blah blah blah...

But like it always goes, as soon as I gave a **** and asked her out, I began acting weirdly. I could no longer act like myself, the person that she was attracted to in the first place. Instead I became this awkward, nervous wreck around her. To the point of having a breakdown right in front of her. And that's when she dropped the speech.

It's not like I haven't tried walking away. Every time I have she finds me. It's no good. It's like there's this energy, and she's even mentioned this, that holds us together. People see auras, and they immediately think we're together. We just fit.

It's my own stupid fault that things didn't work out. The girl has given me so many chances, and I've blown each and every one. I'm like this deer caught in headlights as soon as she's there. Just today, after writing that pointless post above, I went to Best Buy with my roommate. There she was, buying some CD's. She came over, said her hello, showed me what she was buying, and told me she had to go to school tonight. I don't know why she told me that. Then she walked off, grabbed some more CD's, came back over, showed those to me (and it was mostly bands we've talked about, was she trying to impress me?), gave me a hug, and left. The whole time I just stood there like an idiot.

I am so lost, and nothing I do puts me on the right path.

 

[wanga]

Did you read my reply at all?


1st off why are you qualifying yourself to us? The fact that you can get any girls # or that they throw #'s at you does not change the situation.

You dont wait 4-5 years before you start trying to lay someone. Once a friend always a friend mate, there's NOTHING you can do to have her change her mind.

One option you have is to stay friends with her and use her as social proof, when you go out to parties, go with her and game other women.

You should not allow one person to dictate your life, you are above everyone, just let that ego crap go and either leave her or stay friends, you cannot escalate into a relationship at this stage.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by evoke
I can't go about torturing myself anymore.

The other night I had this party, I invited my LJBF/one-itis/whatever, and she didn't seem too thrilled to be here. She was out of her comfort zone (a lot of people she didn't know), and perhaps she didn't like the fact that I had to focus on other girls. She kept saying these annoying things like "Don't expect much from me tonight. I'm not in the mood." to "I'd rather be at home touching myself.". She really needs to stop assuming so much.

She did follow me around all night, and at one point just plopped down on my lap, but then she started complaining again, so I took her home.

The entire car ride consisted of me telling her how much of a pain in the ass she is, with her constantly switching on and off, and that she has some serious ****ing issues.

When I dropped her off, she said I can call her whenever, and I just said, "For what? So you can tell me you're tired, or that you wanna stay home and finger yourself? No thanks!". "Tee-hee, screw you.". Indeed.

Then, after a bit of drinking, I sent her another one of my ill-conceived text messages. I told her how frustrated I was with her and that I'm tired of having to restrain myself around her ever since she said she just wanted to be friends. No reply.

The next day, I figured I had nothing at all to lose, so I sent her yet another annoying text message. This was our conversation:

Evoke: Ya know, every time you sit on my lap, I get a chubby. How bout that.
Her: I knew that actually- at least I figured. Sorry.
Evoke: That's ok. Pretty much anything'll set it off.
Her: Haha. You need to keep that thing on a leash.

I don't even know where the **** this is ever gonna go, but I'm gonna stop being too petrified to ever make a move on her. If I lose her, so be it. I have plenty of other prospects that won't offer resistance.

where to start, where to start.

First, there are too many LJBF posts to even be posting in the first place... but lets not tlak abou that...

Now, I had a LJBF, i'm ****ing her now... but if she EVER had an attitude like that, she can kiss my ass.


This woman has done noth ing bug disrespect you, in front of your firends, having a *****y attitude, givving you blue balls, and you are STILL chasing her?

There aren't enough looks in the world to chase a girl like that.

The thing that usually makes LJBF girls so... I don't know... LJBFey... is that they are sweet and very charming (at least so it seems)... this girl at least it seems lets you know she doesn't give a damn about your feelings or you, and you are still chasing her..

Do we really need to tell you what to do?

 

[backbreaker]

gotta admit though, I liked that line about the boner in the pants though

 

[joekerr31]

all you ever have to do is ask yourself what would be going through YOUR head for you to treat someone the way she is treating you. it become pretty obvious at that point that she's using you like a tampon.

the real problem in all this though is that you can't overcome your emotional attraction to her. but she's just an object that you've chosen to project your hopes of happiness and whatever else. you've made her the one who will ultimately judge your value as a person.

eventually, after she's twisted your nuts enough, youll realize this and move on. and then she will move on to some other smuck who lets her kick him in the balls.

these types of women will NEVER change for a man. as long as there are other men out there that they can treat like crap, they have no desire to be "nice" to anyone.

next her.
J

 

[evoke]

So tell me, how exactly do I go about "nexting" someone who'll just pop up again, like some goddamned whack-a-mole?

I've tried. God how I've tried. The only thing left (barring the possible backhand), would be to throw out my cellphone, cut contact with EVERYONE, stop going out, and build a cabin in the woods. And even then, she'd probably find me at some gas station getting fuel for my generator.

It's all no good. I can't even figure out why she keeps contacting me. It's not like she doesn't have her fair share of stalk... admirers.

 

[AmIAFC]

If that's the case, stay in bed for a week and maybe she'll end up bumping into you there.