"My husband" Interesting Story.

[Pepe Le Pew]

Hi guys,
Interesting thing happened at work.
I'm always amazed and baffled at the way women try to make themselves seem valuable or defend themselves.

They will say things like "My Boyfriend" or "My Husband".

Sometimes they'll say this to me and I have just met them, or really haven't asked them.

I was at work, and one of my job duties consists of the administrative task of checking identifications such as birth certificates and marriage certificates to validate a persons identity.

I ran into a woman, early 20's, tan complexion w/ a latin or middle eastern exotic look to her, about 5'6" . Anyway, she stepped up to me to do a transaction, and I requested her documents.
She searched through her purse and *out of nowhere* said "My husband is in the car waiting for me."or something like that(I KNEW the way she said it she was testing me, I don't know how many of you have experienced this, but a women will make herself look valuable or unavailable/more challenging by saying things like "my boyfriend" or "my husband")........
anyways, she
lacked the ID's necessary for the transaction and I 1 minute after searching through her purse I pleasantly told her that she could use her MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE to continue her transaction.......and still in female manipulation mode she said she wasn't married.
Then, I said , "OH", and she kind of WOKE UP, as if she was caught in a lie. She became really serious and sort of angry and defenseless at that point and left. I really couldn't have cared, because I wasn't attracted to her type. I have to say that this has super validated the for me the way girls are always gaming and testing men in a brutal and unmerciful way. Catching them in such tests, raises your value of attraction greatly.

 

[Ice Cold]

LOL

The girls at my office are always telling about boyfriends, how much gifts they give... how much they love them...

Or if not, they're telling stories about guys approaching them and trying to get their numbers

 

[Pepe Le Pew]

Sometimes I like to bust on them by calling them Mrs. (name here) .....or bring up their husbands or boyfriends in a "Reminder: you shouldn't be gaming me if you have a boyfriend or husband" way and wakes them right up.
Funny thing is I sincerely become aloof to them knowing that I've got them figured out and that they are no longer a challenge to me, and I go months without hearing husband or boyfriend. The only way it comes back is if I loose self control of my actions. (become uncool) Are the girls in your job HB's?

 

[dietzcoi]

This is something I noticed myself a long time ago. When talking to a group of men, very, very rarely does anyone say "My wife thinks this" or "My gf says that" but women are ALWAYS saying things about their husbands or BFs

I think women need to validate themselves by having, and mentioning, a husband/BF. I think NO woman wants to be without... lowers their self-worth????

I do not think they say it necessarily to provoke anyone, I just think they define themselves by their relationships, while men define themselves by what they do.

Hard for us to understand....

Dietzcoi

 

[Austin Allegro]

Lord Byron wrote over two hundred years ago: 'Man's love is from his life a thing apart/'Tis woman's whole existence'.

Many women love to show off their marital status. They tend to grade themselves in the following ascending order: single with no men ever, single with ONS/STR, single with steady b/f, engaged, married, married with children.

It's also a defence mechanism. If they get chatted up all the time they will mention the b/f so as not to lead on men, which is fair enough - but I don't know why any women should lie about their status, that just seems daft.

 

[NatureGuy]

Interesting story, but I don't see anything in her conduct that suggests she's interested in you. Probably either nervous or trying to deceive you in the context of your job.

 

[supernaut41]

a-l-l women are like that. They need affirmation from others and consider their relationship an extension of their self worth.Having a husband, boyfriend(ie. prince charming) is an embedded mind set and offering that information publicly pacifies them psychologically , so keep DJ ing or you'll lose your value (and your *****)

 

[Austin Allegro]

Good points. I have seen womens' faces suffused with an inner glow each time they utter the phrase 'my boyfriend' to someone they've just met. It's a bit like the look men have when they say 'my Porsche' or 'my classic 1959 Royal Enfield Bullet 350cc motorbike'.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Certainly, when this happens it may be a sign of interest.

The last girl I went out with told me she was going out with one guy, but at the end of the date she told me we could get together again to go to the cinema

 

[Pepe Le Pew]

NatureGuy,

I agree with you fully,

AND also, I am aware that she is a woman and I am an attractive man.

There will always be a field of gender awareness and sexual tension, at times it might be sooo very small it might not noticable.

Sometimes it might be off the scale, where I am actually practicing self control, and techniques where I'll grasp the truth that she is just a girl.

In all my encounters it would profit me to be dominating, and DJing the situation. Some, are less challenging than others.

In the situation I presented the woman realized my DJness, (I became a man of challenge) after I called her bluff. Even though she was either subconciously or unconciously trying to deceive me.

Many women refer to their boyfriends as husbands because of their self generated belief systems. Some girls are so excited, and high upon themselves that their frame of mind is set on "All guys want me" and they will challenge everything in sight, even referring to their AFC guy friends as boyfriends, just for games sake. Or have you ever heard girls plan to say they are lesbians in case some AFC approaches or in self defense or even just to test some DJ?