I'm about the bluntest, most honest guy you will find when it comes to women, and while it turns some off, I sleep at night, and the ones who stick around, know what the deal is.
Stop trying to get a woman to like you and get her to respect you.
the difference between a player, and spinning plates, is lying or being honest. women used to call my dad a player.. my dad doesn't play women. my dad tells a woman up front, look, i'm married, and i'm probably ****ing 2-3 other women too. if you want to jump on board we are leaving the station, either get down or lay down. just like that. and the ones that stayed around made his life easier. they didnt' call the house, they had no problem springing for hotel rooms, they didn't' bother him about seeing other women, they just enjoyed their time with him. alot of women are like this. heck, his current wife, my step mom, started out like that lol. and she just worked her way up the pole. you aren't playing a woman, if you are being honest with her. and some, alot of some, don't like it, but you would be supervised the ones that stick around. and the ones that do, resepct you, and look at you differently / you are sexier to them becuase you aren't afraid to lose them, you have demonstrated to them that you aren't all talk and you have some substance.
plus, women are so scandalous you would be surprised how many of them really at the end of the day, don't' give a damn. I've ****ed women, just becuase i was ****ing someone else they thought was hot and they wanted to prove to themselves they "had it".
you should not feel bad, or be shamed, for playing the field. you aren't dating anyone, you aren't married. what are you supposed to just sit home and play xbox until miss right comes along? I think not.
Lately, though, I've been through a stretch of women who are qualifying me for an LTR very early on.
you got to get it in your head, that you are the ****ing man, and you run this ****. you aren't aduditioning for ****, these women are ****ing for your time.
think of it like sales. customer calls me on the phone, like he's called 10 ohter web design firms, he plans to ask his list of questions and get answers and 'call me back next week' with a decision. **** that. no, i have some questions i want to ask YOU. you see the work we do here, it's top notch, how available are you going to be during this project, becuase we don't work with clients who can't be contacted at least once every 2 days. you know, you get what you pay for, and while we aren't going to charge you 5 figures or antyhing, please understand that if you are looking for dirt cheap labor, you might need to go overseas. have you done any research on what programming language you want this done and and why (usually, what i would do there, and most jobs can be done in multiple languages), i'd state that it needed to be done in another language and give some tech jargon on why as to show that i'm smarter than him.
then at the end of the converstaion i tell him well we are looking at some other jobs too (and we usually were), but i do like this one a lot and you seem like someone that is serious about what they are trying to do and we only work with serious people, i'll let you know if we can work with you by tomorrow.
works every ****ing time. lol, more than once i'd have clients email me "have yo made a decision yet? really would like to work with you"
it's a mental state of mind man. i don't give a **** if you are smoking hot,you are a lawyer, if you can speak 5 languages, or can suck a **** through a tire gauge, you are auditioning for my attention.
the fact that you are seeing other women, should be second in her mind to "i hope i'm good enough for him". doesn't mean be an *******, not at all, but you run this **** man.
