My good friend is pissed.

[jophil28]

Maybe this is a small issue ,maybe not . I would like your take on this.
My close friend C is getting married in a month. He is 52 years old.
His bride is insisting that he wears a Tux , ( he is happy to wear just a dark blue suit, white shirt and necktie from his existing wardrobe)
SHE insists that he hire a tux, a white shirt and a bow tie and run them by her for HER approval.This is going to cost him $200 on top of the money that he is forking out for yet another wedding. HE points out that he can dress himself well enough to get married ( he has been married twice before). HE told her that she is treating him like a child and that she is out of line in insisting that he get her approval. HE is OK with her expressing an OPINION but sees his suit as HIS choice not her's. I agree with him. Her Girlfriends agree with her. He feels strongly enough to call a halt to the wedding. SHe sees it are her "right" to control his attire.
Maybe this is a bad omen for the marriage?

 

[STR8UP]

Just more proof that marriage is a woman's game. If he gives in he will be HER b!tch, till death do they part.

 

[maranathaman]

My opinion is that weddings ARE for women.
This is her day. Most guys could give a rats-azz
about the details of a wedding, myself included!
If it was me, I'd let her run the show for the wedding.
So long as she knows that YOU are the one who calls
the shots in all other matters. But if she's a bossy nag
about everything in your lives other than the wedding details,
then this would be a red flag to me.

 

[Phyzzle]

Maybe this is a bad omen for the marriage?

Damn right it is. Those 2 are NOT on the same page here.

Thing is, I have to take the woman's side here, full stop. WTF is this guy's problem? This is a special day the bride looks forward to for years, works her butt off to make it perfect, and he's too cheap to dress like he's a groom in a wedding? "Wedding cake? Why, a stack of donuts held together with duct tape will taste just as good." What a pr!ck.

These are 2 very different people who clearly don't understand each other.

 

[ElChoclo]

Now you know why he is on his third marriage. Maybe if he hadn't married so many times he wouldn't be feeling the financial pinch so much. With due respect a 52 year old man should own his own formal wear. I currently have two dinner suits.

 

[mrRuckus]

This is a special day the bride looks forward to for years, works her butt off to make it perfect,

I look forward to getting married too and it sure as hell isn't going to be a day where nothing i say matters while all the girls giggle about the silly man who thinks he gets a say.

This is probably just the one thing this guy is taking a stand on after he let everything else SHE wanted and he didn't slide.

Now you know why he is on his third marriage. Maybe if he hadn't married so many times he wouldn't be feeling the financial pinch so much. With due respect a 52 year old man should own his own formal wear. I currently have two dinner suits.

Did you even read this? He wants to wear the suit he already has so he doesn't have to rent a tux.



I'm without a doubt only having a tiny wedding, if ever. Any woman worthy of me will go along with this.

 

[STR8UP]

Not sure I'm feelin this "it's her day" stuff.

In a way it's true, it IS a woman's day of triumph.

But I wouldn't be marrying a woman who was so adamant about having everything so perfect in HER EYES. That's a sure sign that she's setting up a fantasy in her head that won't likely be able to be lived up to.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Wear the F-ing tux already. If $200 is the issue, this guy has bigger problems than that.

It's the woman's day I agree, tell him to make a small depsot into her emotional bank account so he can watch the NFL when he wants w/o her nagging his ass about the time he didn't even wear a tux at our wedding.

Dash's Dose: Choose your battles WISELY

 

[joekerr31]

is this a f*cking joke?

your friend SHOULD NOT be getting married. he's 52 and behaving like he's 18.

here's a wake up call for him: if you respect the woman you are marrying, if you truly love her, if you have assessed her over time and clearly decided that she is a high quality woman, then you would not care about wearing a tux for one day. in a healthy, honest, caring, symbiotic relationship this situation would never ever occur. The relationship should be bringing you so much more in the bigger picture that you shoudl be happy to make a small concession such as this to keep train moving smoothly forward (as opposed to getting derailed).

the reason its occuring here is that your friend has what i would call a 'relationship of convenience'. he doesn't love this woman. he needs a wife, this one is as good as any other, so he's getting married.

him and his soon to be wife are pairing up because, for whatever the reason, they feel the need to be paired up. the fact your friend has been married a few times tells me that he gets married just for the sake of getting married.

this tux thing has nothing to do with her controlling him, or him paying 200 bucks or any of that stuff. its the result of two people who are getting married for all the wrong reasons and because of that have almost no reason to compromise for the others benefit.

i guarantee that he is either divorced in a few years or they are at each others throats on a daily basis.

 

[WaterTiger]

He's ready to "halt the wedding" over a $200. tux rental? I think he's got ice cold feet and is looking at ANY reason to stop the wedding. He needs to sit down with his future wife and have some serious conversations. Doesn't sound like he wants to get married, and with his track record I can see why.

 

[STR8UP]

here's a wake up call for him: if you respect the woman you are marrying, if you truly love her, if you have assessed her over time and clearly decided that she is a high quality woman, then you would not care about wearing a tux for one day.

But at the same time, if she were a decent woman she would not be so inflexible. I could never have a relationship with such a woman.

If there's a squabble over something like this right before the marriage there shouldn't be a marriage.

 

[blueguy]

He's ready to "halt the wedding" over a $200. tux rental?

She's also willing to do the same thing?

 

[Mr.Positive]

I've never be married, but I've been a best man a few times. I've been a part of weddings before.

I think people sometimes blow up on the small details, and make them huge issues, because of the stress involved in weddings.

It's probably not that big of a deal. I don't think it says anything deep down about them as people and I don't think it's a bad omen, but I do think everyone's reading into this too much and forming to many assumptions.

It's just pre-wedding jitters being expressed, which is normal, and probably nothing more..