My girlfriend's vagina is a bit loose...ladies advice please

[mecca411]

My girlfriend's vagina is a bit loose...ladies...anyone...advice please

I'll get right into it. I'm 28, Afro-american. Haven't had too many sexual partners. Been dating my girlfriend (caucasian, 26) for about 6 months now. Things are going well and sex just gets better and better.

Here's my issue. I notice during sex, that my girl's vagina isnt very tight around my ****. It's not loose. Just not super tight (except for when she contracts it, which always feels great.). I can ***, just not as fast as if I masterbated. I'm about 7.5-8 inches long and about 6 inches around, so I'm a decent size. The first time my girlfriend saw my **** she said I had a "big ****". It sounded like she hadn't seen one my size before. Kind of made me feel good. And that was that. BUt I've got some recent info from her that's made me feel not so great...I'll explain in a minute. I'm just wondering if her vagina should feel tighter or possible reasons that it might not. I've got an insecurity about my size for the first time and I'm a bit worried for some reason. I also worried that I can't pleasure her as much as she'd like if I'm not stretching her out enough.

Background on my girlfriend - My girl has been with 5 guys other than me in her entire life. I'll go back just far enough to give some perspective. First guy was when she was 15 and it was a one-time thing becuase the experience was so bad for them (they were dating) that they just never did it again. Her next boyfriend was for 3 years from when she was 17-20. Then she went for 2 years without sex before meeting her next boyfriend and they dated for a year(this is the important on e here because she was in love with him). She remained single and without sex for another two years before she dated another guy short term. We met about two months after that ended.

I want the sex with my girlfriend to be the best that either of us has ever had so I ask her what kinds of things she likes, but she's not entirely comfortable or open so that doesn't really go anywhere. Then one night we were lying in bed and talking about a problem we had with her vagina ripping a bit towards the back lips during sex. I asked if it had ever happened before and she said that it happened one of the first times that she had sex. Her boyfriend at the time was kind of small so it wasn't super bad, but it still hurt quite a bit. I thought that was all she would say, but then she mentioned her second boyfriend (the guy from a few years ago). Apparently he was about 6' but very skinny, only about 150-160lbs(I'm 5"10, 190lbs), but she mentioned that he was unprportional below the belt. She also said that he gave her the worst burning sensation she's ever had the first time they had sex. So bad that she had to go to the clinic to get something for the burn. SHe said that it was because he was big. After that, they had no problems and no more burning during sex. She said that she's also learned since then how to relax down there and lossen things up a bit.

NOw this is my whole issue - she's never compared us directly, but I keep thinking about maybe this guy was bigger than me. And it bugs me that maybe the reason my girls' vagina isn't so tight is because this guy's **** stretched it out. I guess it's made me a bit insecure for the first time. I should explain though, that I'm on blood pressure medication since just before we started having sex and I've not been able to get a fully hard erection for the entire time that we've been having sex. It's hard enough for penetration, but I still can't do some of the positions like (woman on top, which she loves), but I've added a few other like the butterfly which she seems to REALLY love. She's actually told me that in the past she used to only like having sex for a short period of time, but with me she likes it longer and that it feels good all the time and not just in the first few minutes. SHe also said that she likes it best with me ( I took this to mean that I'm the best she's had). Anyway, that's bit off topic. WE're pretty into each other, we're not at the I love you stage, but we're close.

I guess this thing is bothering me because I know that she was in love with her ex and actually for a time thought he would be the one. In a way I guess I kept comparing myself to him and worry that I might fall short. I just don't want it to be in the sex or size department. Anyways, what do you think. I read somewhere that the only thing that really changes the size of a vagina is childbirth. Is she loose just because it's the natural size of her vagina or is it because this guy stretched her out almost 3 years ago? Thanks.

M.

 

[alphawolfx]

1) He's not a threat to you.

2) Vaginas slowly go back to thier original size after a few months/weeks.

3) She wasn't in love with him becaue of his d.ick.

4) Stop masturbating. No p.ussy can compare to how hard your hand can squeeze, so your d.ick is just used to that.

5) Sex/d.ick size isn't that important unless you make it so. She doesn't walk around all day thinking "Man, I wish his d.ick was bigger". She walks around thinking "I hope he doesn't think I'm fat, or that I'm boring, and I hope he really likes me and that I'm good in bed and that I make him happy blah blah blah."

6) She likes having sex with you more than the other guy. If you can't get it hard enough because of the medication, let her straddle your hand. Sex doesn't always have to involve your d.ick. I"m serious. Put your hand by your pelvis, have her straddle it, and finger f.uck her like she wants it.

7) "It's not the size of the boat, or the motion in the ocean. It's the weather." as quoted from my brilliant ex. Think about that.

8) Everytime you start getting bad thoughts, go eat her p.ussy. Or something sexual.

 

[AverageFC]

what's the difference b/w afro-american and african-american?

 

[eggnawgkid]

Originally posted by AverageFC
what's the difference b/w afro-american and african-american?

The hairstyle perhaps?

 

[PoloBlue]

Re: My girlfriend's vagina is a bit loose...ladies...anyone...advice please

Originally posted by mecca411


Here's my issue. I notice during sex, that my girl's vagina isnt very tight around my ****. It's not loose.


NOw this is my whole issue - she's never compared us directly, but I keep thinking about maybe this guy was bigger than me. And it bugs me that maybe the reason my girls' vagina isn't so tight is because this guy's **** stretched it out.

Anyways, what do you think. I read somewhere that the only thing that really changes the size of a vagina is childbirth. Is she loose just because it's the natural size of her vagina or is it because this guy stretched her out almost 3 years ago? Thanks.

M.

her vagina is "loose" because thats how her's is naturally, it's not because of her previous boyfriend

I heard women can do special vagina exersizes called "kegal" exersizes? I think that might help.

http://www.mwsexual.com/readingroom/articles/kegel-exercises.htm

 

[walthermylove]

I know this is a very old thread but i was interested by it this morning when i found it so interested I registered here in order to post to this thread. I am a woman who is 32 yrs od age. A few years ago I had a similar problem only had no idea how to remedy the solution because Kegal exercises are something I had done since a young age. In my opinion your girlfriend isn't cumming. Orgasms helped me in that area. Not just the masturbatory orgasms I was having regularly but it took a man figuring out how to make me *** deeply. Once he showed me i could have multiple kinds of orgasms, such as A spot and G spot orgasms my vagina has become like new again So much so it takes a bit of play time to comfortably fit two fingers inside me. Now when i *** it takes some work for him to keep his erection inside me and lots of times my vagina will push it completely out and he can then begin to start intercourse and do it over and over again. Sex is more amazing than I ever could have imagined now. I hope this helps anyone who happens upon this thread and is curious as to what can be done to help with this issue. Oh and if youre a female do all of us a favor and stop faking it just to make a man (in your opinion) feel good about the experience. He will be so much more fulfilled if you will open up to him and truly help him discover real ways to pleasure you. You'll also reduce the risk of infidelity on both sides and create a closer bond between the two of you.

 

[CLOONEY]

^^^^^^

What were the magic secrets this guy was doing to make you *** that previous men couldn't figure out?

 

[user43770]

^^^^^^

What were the magic secrets this guy was doing to make you *** that previous men couldn't figure out?

This guy here; I like this guy right here.

 

[The Piano Master]

I'd find that skinny dude and beat his ass. He stretched her out.

 

[Warrior74]

http://www.rooshv.com/do-american-women-have-looser-pussies

 

[rave_n_dancer]

same issue?

I am a woman, I have had a few lovers that were of normal size, and a few that are considered to be extremely large. I am in a relationship now with a man that is of average (normal) size...about 8 inches...I have never in my entire sexual life been able to achieve the type of orgasms that I do until this man. I have started squirting which I have never done before with any lover until him. I get so wet that he slips out all the time and it seems like he can't stay hard enough or in me long enough to reach orgasm for himself. He has never complained, but I am worried that maybe he thinks I am too stretched out and he gives up trying to finish the act of orgasm. However, he does make sure that I am satisfied, then we always have to finish with me or him doing a hand job to get him to orgasm and release. I am worried that he will grow tired of this, and he thinks that he will never be able to make love to me and "release" inside of me because of all the wetness...

 

[Desdinova]

I believe that all men and women are extremely different with the types of things that make them excited in the bedroom. I usually find that I can bring a woman to orgasm with my fingers and oral, but not with sexual intercourse. The last two women I've been with have been quite different. The last one ALWAYS had an orgasm during sexual intercourse. I don't think my current gf has EVER had an orgasm in her life, but I think I've brought her close (with sexual intercourse) and she's just been fighting it off. Time to get her drunk so she won't care

rave, this may be the way your man just is sexually. Some men can blast off after two pumps inside, and some men can almost NEVER ejaculate. There's also the possibility that he masturbates a lot. If he does, try getting him to refrain for a couple of days. That usually does the trick for me. But that's if he wants to blast the inside of your vagina. He may not want to if he's trying to avoid getting you pregnant.

 

[metoo]

BS on the 6" around. that means nearly 2" in diameter. You guys remember ANY geometry?

 

[SamTheHobit]

Stretched vag1na= lots of d1ck.

 

[horaholic]

Stretched vag1na= lots of d1ck.

Bullsh1t. It has NOTHING to do with dycks inside them, with the exception if it hurting when its been awhile/never since they've had sex. Porn stars and prostitutes are known for having tight vag. Looseness may have something to do with the laziness factor of a particular chick too. I've noticed loose chicks are usually very inactive. The inside of a vag is a muscle, and the stronger it is, the tighter it grips. Chicks who are athletic, are tighter by nature. The more kok a chick gets, the more she is working that muscle out. Interviews with hookers say they get a little tighter after they've banged a few guys in a day.

 

[Chamber36]

Once I fvcked this russian chick, an IT specialist, and her pvssy was tight like a vice.

 

[search1ng]

I am a woman, I have had a few lovers that were of normal size, and a few that are considered to be extremely large. I am in a relationship now with a man that is of average (normal) size...about 8 inches...I have never in my entire sexual life been able to achieve the type of orgasms that I do until this man. I have started squirting which I have never done before with any lover until him. I get so wet that he slips out all the time and it seems like he can't stay hard enough or in me long enough to reach orgasm for himself. He has never complained, but I am worried that maybe he thinks I am too stretched out and he gives up trying to finish the act of orgasm. However, he does make sure that I am satisfied, then we always have to finish with me or him doing a hand job to get him to orgasm and release. I am worried that he will grow tired of this, and he thinks that he will never be able to make love to me and "release" inside of me because of all the wetness...

Sh1t.

 

[Zodiac]

Interviews with hookers say they get a little tighter after they've banged a few guys in a day.

And the facts say otherwise.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Bullsh1t. Interviews with hookers say they get a little tighter after they've banged a few guys in a day.

lol you're in denial.

 

[CuriousGirl]

Sh1t.

Don't worry, the only 8 inch **** I've ever seen belongs to my gay friend, pretty sure average is 5'' and when push comes to shove everyone knows by now that being good in bed has nothing to do with size.