My girlfriend's gay best friend

[Quertyuiopasd]

Hey,

My current girlfriend has a very close friend who is gay, but some of the things they do and the amount of contact they've had with each other has freaked me out a little. Bear in mind I've known her gay friend for quite some time and am 100% sure he is gay. Basically they text each other every single night, she stays with him at least 1 night per week and they always seem to sleep in the same bed with each other. I also found out from her that he disapproved of our relationship and that she thought it was because he was jealous. Now before you say anything understand that he's DEFINITELY gay. I just wanted to know if you think this relationship she has with him is normal and if I should put up with it. To me it just seems like they are more than friends, almost like an asexual couple or something. I would appreciate lots of advice as this has always been on my mind of late.

Thanks - Quertyuiopasd

 

[Perfect10]

Why do you care? Their just friends. I know the rule "bros before hos" but would you leave your girlfriend if your friend thinks shes annoying?

 

[Quertyuiopasd]

No, of course not, but her leaving me isn't in question. I'm just wondering if the relationship she currently has with him is normal. I mean, I have no objection to my girlfriend having all the friends she likes and seeing them whenever she likes, but what I am questioning is why she would have such close contact with someone who is just a friend. Why would they always sleep in the same bed? Is this a normal thing for gay men and straight women to do? And also, why stay at his house all the time and text non-stop? In a sense it almost feels like I am sharing her with him, even if there is no sexual activity..

 

[seanarcher]

The one thing you have to watch out for is if this guy decided to stop being gay. She already has emotional feelings for him. He understands her in a way not even her girl friends do, and if he wanted to experiment, she might let him.

 

[Ken785]

Hey,

My current girlfriend has a very close friend who is gay, but some of the things they do and the amount of contact they've had with each other has freaked me out a little. Bear in mind I've known her gay friend for quite some time and am 100% sure he is gay. Basically they text each other every single night, she stays with him at least 1 night per week and they always seem to sleep in the same bed with each other. I also found out from her that he disapproved of our relationship and that she thought it was because he was jealous. Now before you say anything understand that he's DEFINITELY gay. I just wanted to know if you think this relationship she has with him is normal and if I should put up with it. To me it just seems like they are more than friends, almost like an asexual couple or something. I would appreciate lots of advice as this has always been on my mind of late.

Thanks - Quertyuiopasd

I have a gay dude in one of my classes that ALWAYS hangs out with this hb8...im sure he's gay too....but underneath i think he might be bi and trying to hide it.

 

[Bluesteak]

Hey if hes gay, and they ****, does it count?

 

[mtbbkr111]

Sounds like you don't have it too bad, he's the emotional tampon, and you are the guy she sleeps with... But stay on his good side, if he truely "disaproves" of you, he will be more relentless than her other girlfriends to get her away from you!

 

[Quertyuiopasd]

Nah he doesn't disapprove of me, in fact I know him quite well and we get on fine. I think he's just disapproving of our relationship as it will take my girlfriend away from him on some level if you know what I mean. I do feel the relationship is a bit intense though considering they are only supposed to be friends, and it's not just like they sleep in the same bed because there isn't an alternative - they actually choose to whenever she stays over at his house.

I guess if I treat him as just another one of her "girl friends" then it shouldn't be a problem, but the thing is would two close friends who are both female behave like this? I have a feeling that this sort of relationship can only exist because he is male, and that's where it starts to become a bit weird in my mind.

Oh, and I'm pretty sure he isn't bisexual either as I've seen him out plenty of times and he's definitely into men.

 

[DonGorgon]

Hey,

My current girlfriend has a very close friend who is gay, but some of the things they do and the amount of contact they've had with each other has freaked me out a little. Bear in mind I've known her gay friend for quite some time and am 100% sure he is gay. Basically they text each other every single night, she stays with him at least 1 night per week and they always seem to sleep in the same bed with each other. I also found out from her that he disapproved of our relationship and that she thought it was because he was jealous. Now before you say anything understand that he's DEFINITELY gay. I just wanted to know if you think this relationship she has with him is normal and if I should put up with it. To me it just seems like they are more than friends, almost like an asexual couple or something. I would appreciate lots of advice as this has always been on my mind of late.

Thanks - Quertyuiopasd

NUMBER 5 APPLIES TO YOUR SITUATION..

Who else is she F'ing and why?

Women F many different men at different times for different reasons !!!
Women know the easiest way to control men is with sex so they will provide sex to a variety of men who can each provide her with something different in return!

Here is an example of an average 18 year old girls man list:

1. Sugar daddy - older guy ( over 40 years old) who is just happy to smell her PU$$ once a week and is willing to pay her rent and car not...

2. Boyfriend - guy her age who is hip and in style usually a pretty boy that she can show off to her friends and family..

3. Thugg/Fbuddy - a shady guy usually 5 to 10 year solder than her who comes and goes but she Fs him vigorously when ever she can and he provides the mystery danger and excitement she craves.

4. Dope boy/ drug supplier - there is a little talked about epidemic of drug use happening now with girls between 18 and 25.. and its oh so easy for them to score their drug of choice buy providing sexual favors to the Dope boy/ drug supplier and sometimes his good friends when she is high enough.

5. Gay male friend - Gayness and bisexuality is running rampant amoung young frustrated males these days and females love gay men. They will spend tons of time together at the mall etc. talking about sex and men then quite often will experiment sexually with each other but never tell anyone.....

So choose which dude you wanna be in her life..

Regardless of the truth there is nothing you can do either way... You need to be spinning plates as always...

 

[Vice]

I know a gay guy. He has sleepover with his girl friends every once in a while.

Don't know if anything freaky happens though.

 

[mpimpin]

I know a girl and her gay pal just like you described. I hung out with them one spring break and now she's in a relationship and the situation is identical to yours.

Eventually she has pretty much stopped contact with her gay friend and chose her boyfriend over him.

BUT

I always had my suspicions how gay he was, because they would sleep in the same bed, change in front of each other, and He would eat her out....

 

[The Sperminator]

Hahahaha ok if her gay friend is eating her out that's going a little too far lol.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

The stuff going on between your gf and her gay friend is normal. But, you have her best friend disaproving of your relationship. If she really likes you. She won't care what her friend says. She will take some of his words in consideration. But, it all comes down to what she thinks.

Sit down and talk with your girlfriend about this.

 

[noirsake]

If you live in California, threaten to vote yes on Prop 8

 

[GaryUranga]

tell her you dont want aids and make her dumb her gay friend

 

[Hughsie]

my best friend works for relate and has had to consult on this but had little success and we once spoke of it in depth. He says of 18 cases he has had all relationships failed mainly because of the intimate workings of a woman and gay man. One poor woman has seen 4 failed marriages because of it and at 50 she now accepts she will be a spinster for life but you have to admire her resilience to keep her gay best friend. The pressure aparently builds up on the man more and more until he just cant take it and pow, end of relationship. The man can easily tell the difference in intimacy between conversations of the girlfriend and her gay manfriend from the girlfriend to another woman and knows theres something strange afoot. Even letters and text messages are acutely and noticably different from thiose from women friends and he gets to hate this more and more. This relationship of yours will sadly end because you decide you have had enough or she will ditch you for your increasing animosity for her gay friend. Few relationships with this problem survive. Those that do are because the girlfriend and gay man friend fall out or the friendship fades but usually its just that the relationship simply ends because of it.

 

[Jitterbug]

He may be gay, but friction is friction. Many gay guys do slip their BFF girls the secret c0ck every now and then after a right mix of alcohol and fun. Those gay guys are similar to a girl's freaky girl friends. You know those girls experiment sexually with each other.

 

[JCballin88]

Dude, you need to seriously man up here.

She is sleeping in the same bed as another GUY? Gay or not, that's disrespectful to you, and I think it's time you showed who was boss in your little trifecta.

While making her break off all contact with him might be a little extreme, you need to tell your girl that if she puts any value into your relationship, she needs to stop this ridiculous behavior or you will take action yourself. Talk to the friend - explain that what he is doing is blatant disrespect towards your relationship. Tell him to find another friend to be an emotional tampon to, or you'll hurt him.

Make your girlfriend decide between you or this little twerp. If she picks him, then you know she wasn't worth your time anyways. If she HAS messed around with him sexually, there's a good chance that she has some nasty diseases too.

 

[nateistoraw]

lol, gay people are now ****blocking! Also, you should not put up with this. You must not make it a me or him situation, but actually confront the homo who is out to get your ****-blocked.

 

[sodbuster]

Well, I had a gay woman I've known for 20 years get a little drunk and slip me the tongue. If other people hadn't been there, I'd have been laid, so GAY doesn't count? I'd nave been telling you all about the Lay