My girlfriend wants a threesome...

JayCee23

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She been texting me about the idea, and I'd do it. She'd prefer her, another girl and me over another guy but I'm not sure how to approach this :s. I asked her if she considered it cheating and she said no, but I'm not sure about it all.. thoughts?
 

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I'd see it as an opportunity to legally **** another girl with your gf right there! Make sure to tape it all so you have something to masturbate to later on.
 

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JayCee23 said:
She been texting me about the idea, and I'd do it. She'd prefer her, another girl and me over another guy but I'm not sure how to approach this :s. I asked her if she considered it cheating and she said no, but I'm not sure about it all.. thoughts?
Just understand that if you go through with it, your relationship with her is effectively doomed. The very fact she brings it up is suggestive your relationship is doomed.
 

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for what its worth, i couldnt remain exclusive with a girl who suggested threesomes or doing stuff with other people. for me to be in a relationship, i have to respect the girl in order to love her. she has to have class.

HOWEVER, if i was single or just casually dating and a very attractive girlfriend wanted me to have a fun night with her and her very attractive girlfriend... :D

i agree with deep dish in that you could probably forget about getting married to this chick.

but if youre just looking for fun... heck now that you know you cant truly settle with her anyways, you could just make the most of it.

-slb
 

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Is this some fantasy or thought when she was high??

Sounds like a red flag to me. What? You aint givin it to her good enough so she needs someone else added to the equation. It seems that way...

I agree with Deep Dish and strong like bull. She is not girlfriend material.
 

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What does a girlfriend have to do to please sosuave? It's impossible.

I would never consider a girl to be long-term material if she didn't want an occasional threesome.
 

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I've had three girlsfriends CLAIM they wanted a threesoem, but none actually went through it. Go for it!
 

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Deep Dish said:
Just understand that if you go through with it, your relationship with her is effectively doomed. The very fact she brings it up is suggestive your relationship is doomed.
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Is this some fantasy or thought when she was high??

Sounds like a red flag to me. What? You aint givin it to her good enough so she needs someone else added to the equation. It seems that way...

She is not girlfriend material.
Cosigned

It's as good as over. Call her your gf to her face but in private start looking for another pouch to swing into. For the immediate meantime be open to whatever. Do her friend raw if she is clean. Maybe she is a better lay and you can start seeing her on the side. See this as an opportunity to take a few steps up as a man. If you play this right you can have them both fiending for you.

Good luck.
 

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Definitely a great venture. what do you have to loose?
 

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Deep Dish said:
Just understand that if you go through with it, your relationship with her is effectively doomed. The very fact she brings it up is suggestive your relationship is doomed.
Why so?
 

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Bible_Belt said:
What does a girlfriend have to do to please sosuave? It's impossible.

I would never consider a girl to be long-term material if she didn't want an occasional threesome.

women on this site are always wrong

I'm used to it
 

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can someone explain why this is a red flag?
 

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Crazy Asian said:
can someone explain why this is a red flag?
Because people would categorize her with a sex freak or nympho who can't control her urges, and they would automatically assume shes going to get her relief from other sources other than the OP... which is a rational assumption to watch out for a red flag.

They say the relationship is doomed because she's already experimenting in other ways and involving other people. Or, perhaps your subconscious wouldn't be able to stand the thought of your girlfriend doing those things involving other people, and your mind will always be uneasy, AKA: insecure... then it leads to the path to neediness/clinginess.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
can someone explain why this is a red flag?
Because she's a pervert and isn't committed to your relationship.

Bi girls = :nono:
 

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Ok, when WOULDN'T this be a red flag?

What if a DJ wanted a threesome? Would the same apply to him, or would that just make him suave and adventurous?

And how exactly do we know she's been experimenting with this behind the OPs back? This is all just mental masturbation. It could even be a test on the OPs part, or maybe she's an idiot and blurts out stupid things.


More info is needed.
 

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I have to disagree with most of you and agree with Bible.

From what the OP said this is not such a bad situation. I think it's one of those fantasies most women have, along with rape (surprisingly). She just happens to be more honest and forward about it, which could be a bad thing meaning they have good open communication about sex.

I also think the fact that she wants it with another girl is a huge plus, where as if it was a second guy, I think that would be a major red flag.
 

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Haha you've turned her lesbo!

:down:
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Raikojo17 said:
women on this site are always wrong

I'm used to it
Bible Belt is a girl? :eek:
 

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This all going to end in tears.

But, thats if it actually happend. Every girl I've ever dated has brought up the idea of a threesome. Only one ever carried through with it. And she got jealous when I stuck it to the other one. We were over the next day.

I think it is something girls feel that they have to bring up to make them look sexy and adventerous.
 
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