My girlfriend is showing signs of declining interest

Between_The_Lines

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TheSlasher said:
Start looking for options. She'll figure that out one way or another and she'll act better again. This withdrawing is merely a big sh!t test and by acting more like a loving guy will make you fail the test. Dread and competition anxiety will do better than succumbing to that tantrum. In other words, keep gripping tight to your ground by looking for options.
I'd take this route, but don't lose sight of the possibility that this could also push the relationship over the edge entirely and end it. About a week before I broke up with my girlfriend, I asked her to come hang out at my place (translation: let's fvck) while she kept insisting for me to go to her place while she looks after her Mom so we could spend it together and "cuddle". Absolutely disgusted, I gave her a smug laugh, got out of the car, and went out that night until 7 in the morning without telling her anything until she called me the next day around noon. At first it seemed to work (about an hour after that conversation, she texted me saying that we'll have our alone time, and that she was sorry she couldn't spend the night with me alone) and about two hours after that text she asked to meet up in what turned out to be her first attempt to break up with me. Seeking options might be best because either it will set her straight or it will be the path you will be on very shortly anyway.
 

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You don't need hot/cold approach at this point. What you need is you need to relax and stop playing the game, let it play out. You've made good foundations, you're a puzzle to her and she's been with you for 7 months. Keep in mind, you're not trying to break a record of how long you can keep a girl, you want to be happy. So see if you can be happy with her just being yourself, not in complete disregard to the rules, just keep the rules for the big things. You too are allowed to make mistakes, and she must forgive them without hitch. And if you'll let your shields down completely and give her your heard only to witness her later ripping it out, so be it, you'll learn a new thing, how to mend it. And that it's neither the end of your world nor the end of your life. Believe it or not, the goal of the illuminated guys here is not to live for a relationship by the rules from a to z, but learn them, have them in your blood, understand the nature of yourself, of a woman and of relationships, forget the rules completely, enjoy love, and live your life pursuing happiness.
 
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