My girlfriend hates me!

[AC/DC]

After being on and off for 2 months, my girl just told me we have no chance of being together, and she doesn't even want to be friends. We always argued because of stuff I did or said, her friends were always in my **** and told her stuff that I said about her that wasn't bad, but they twist my words. I yelled at her for not giving my belt back because she was being a pain in the ass about it, and just generally other stupid reasons. Anyways, I love her, I really do.

But she doesn't love me. I've apologized a lot, and I've asked her for another chance. I'd give anything for her, she treated me good, and I didn't. She says she just can't trust me anymore.

It hurts me really bad... what do I do?

 

[JoeyJoJoJunior]

get over it and move on. You screwed up your chances with her.

 

[SnatchJP]

Yee gods man! Will you listen to yourself!

We always argued because of stuff I did or said...I yelled at her for not giving my belt back because she was being a pain in the ass.

And yet...

Anyways, I love her, I really do.

...oh really? Damn you sure are acting like it! Let me reiterate, you argue all the time, you say she was being a pain in the ass, and as a result:

...she doesn't love me... She says she just can't trust me anymore.

I hate to break it to you but your realtionship with this girl is over.

Look at this way, I can promise you that if you can keep coming to this board and asking for advice, this last episode was lowest you'll sink. It will only get better from here.

Now, everybody who comes here the first time gets flamed mercilessly for the mistakes. It's painful, but it's good for them. You're no exception, but I'll make yours breif.

You have taken the worst traits from but the "jerk" and "AFC" (Average Frustrated Chump) steryotypes and rolled them into one. You act callously and get pissed at the girl, and then afterwards, you come crawling on your hands and knees like a wimp begging for forgiveness. This destroys your relationship utterly.

This relationship is over for now. In my opinion, you need to go out with at least two other girls, possibly three, before you can even consider this girl again. (Many people here will say that even after that you can't get with her again.)

There, that was so bad, was it?

I can think of one move that will put you back on your feet. Many people on these boards will criticise me for suggesting this, but I'm gonna do it anyways.

Write her a letter. Do NOT E-mail, do NOT IM, do NOT call her/ page her/ whatever. WRITE THIS DOWN ON PAPER:

First, apologize for being a jack*ss (even if you don't think you were, the important thing is for you both to be happy, not for you to be right).
Second, tell her just what you told us, that she treated you good while it lasted and that you had a great time.
Finally, agknowledge thats it's over and that she's left you with some great memories.
Sign it.

There are a couple thing I do NOT want you to say or do in this note.
1. Do NOT tell her you love her.
2. Do NOT tell her you'll miss her.
3. Do NOT talk about her friends twisting your words (even if they did)
And most importantly:
4. Do NOT, under ANY circumstances, ask if you can get back with her!!!

This won't garuntee that she'll want you back, but it gives you both closure. This is going to sound weird at first since you're new, but if she apporaches you about it later, the best shot you have at getting back with her is not acting like you want to. Act like you know it's over, and that you have no regrets or hard feelings.

In the meantime, look for other fine women you might want to get with, and keep coming back here. We'll teach you how to get with them and keep them.

Good look man!

 

[SnatchJP]

Wait, WHAT?!?!?!

WOAH! Wait a seond! I didn't even check the post count or the author. You're not a newbie at all!!!

Dude, AC/DC, I've seen you write some of the best posts I've ever read on here! Whats with the sudden fall! I totally thought you were were a newbie from your post!

Man, stick with us. I don't know what knocked you off of your feet here, but we'll get you back up in no time. You know what? You've got oneitis BAD. Get over this chick, find more girls, and get more numbers! NOW!

 

[Eternal]

Sebastian...Whatsupwiddat!? Man, don't go all AFC on us here. Look back at the posts you've made. You were someone who knew atleast SOMETHING about the game. Now look at you...Come on man, get back on your feet.

On again, off again for two months? Don't let her give you the runaround. Drop her. It'll be hard to do, but when you're having fun with another girl in a week's time, you'll forget all about "what's her name." Don't let her toy you around like that. Be a man and stand up for yourself. All the best.

 

[AC/DC]

Ever since I got with her, I've left the site, wanting to do things my own way.

I hella left behind everything I've learned, I feel stupid and wussy-like.

I let my feelings dominate me. I can't stop myself from calling her.

EVERYONE, take this an example of a Don Juan who fell from greatness.

I've all my pride. I've gained friends, yea, but I lost my balls. I feel stupid. I let her walk all over me.

It's hard to pick yourself, and all one can do is to not do it anymore.

Guys, don't be like me.

 

[Knockout King]

Originally posted by AC/DC
Ever since I got with her, I've left the site, wanting to do things my own way.

I hella left behind everything I've learned, I feel stupid and wussy-like.

I let my feelings dominate me. I can't stop myself from calling her.

EVERYONE, take this an example of a Don Juan who fell from greatness.

I've all my pride. I've gained friends, yea, but I lost my balls. I feel stupid. I let her walk all over me.

It's hard to pick yourself, and all one can do is to not do it anymore.

Guys, don't be like me.

It's good that you acknowledge your shortcoming and understand that you were a total AFC. See, here's the thing. Hardship is how you find who you really are. As you become battered and worn, your outer layers peel away and what's left is the real you. In this case the girl trouble was the hardship, the layers were all of the manly traits that you've tried to force upon yourself, and the core, what's left, the real you, is this AFC that you have presented before us.

Now, I may sound a bit harsh, but take a second to reflect on your situation and see how much truth there really is behind what I say. You want my advice? Admit whatever truth there is behind that little theory and start over. Since you have so much experience of course it will be very easy for you, but acknowledging my words will be the hard part I would imagine.

That's the problem with this board, the members so easily fall into the trap of simply brainwashing themselves into becoming a superficial dj instead of a natural one. The outer layers are manly enough but the core, what really counts, remains AFC. People don't try to make who they are any better, they try to trash who they are and replace it with something that isn't them at all.

 

[SnatchJP]

Originally posted by Knockout King
It's good that you acknowledge your shortcoming and understand that you were a total AFC. See, here's the thing. Hardship is how you find who you really are. As you become battered and worn, your outer layers peel away and what's left is the real you. In this case the girl trouble was the hardship, the layers were all of the manly traits that you've tried to force upon yourself, and the core, what's left, the real you, is this AFC that you have presented before us.

Now, I may sound a bit harsh, but take a second to reflect on your situation and see how much truth there really is behind what I say. You want my advice? Admit whatever truth there is behind that little theory and start over. Since you have so much experience of course it will be very easy for you, but acknowledging my words will be the hard part I would imagine.

That's the problem with this board, the members so easily fall into the trap of simply brainwashing themselves into becoming a superficial dj instead of a natural one. The outer layers are manly enough but the core, what really counts, remains AFC. People don't try to make who they are any better, they try to trash who they are and replace it with something that isn't them at all.

I disagree. I think that our man here did not reveal himself to be a total AFC, he just made himself look like one by trying to push away the dj he's become. I don't think he tried to use the dj rules to replace who he really was.

You see, AC/DC (aka whatsupwiddat) has been considered something of a sage around this board. He is revered as knowing how to dj six times sideways up broadway, and being able to answer any questions anybody might pose. After steeping himself in the theory and practice of becoming a dj, it became part of him, just like it has for all the vets here.

Now the general drawback for Djing is that it'll make you feel guilty and somewhat atrificial. The whole concept is to use girls for your own enjoyment. Pleasurable yes, but not without doubts and guilts.
It seems like you're just using a bag of tricks somebody handed to cheat your way to a girls heart and mind rather than doing the work yourself. Many question whether that is right. AC/DC went as far as to stop using them altogether.

What none of us realised until he had this... crisis, is that once you pick up this bag of tricks, it's a part of you. Trying to throw it away is trying to be someone you're not.

 

[AC/DC]

I've come out of this partially, and I've learned a few things:
NEVER LET A WOMAN DOMINATE YOU
NEVER LET A B ITCH DISRESPECT YOU
NEVER TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY EITHER.

Women are around to let you have fun, then they screw you over. Don't give them the chance! Some mean good, most don't. Be wary.

... More to come.

 

[Smooth as Anything]

You learned nothing then, I am afraid.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by AC/DC
I've come out of this partially, and I've learned a few things:
NEVER LET A WOMAN DOMINATE YOU
NEVER LET A B ITCH DISRESPECT YOU
NEVER TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY EITHER.

Women are around to let you have fun, then they screw you over. Don't give them the chance! Some mean good, most don't. Be wary.

... More to come.

Man...The first three things you said where pretty money. The last few things though...