my girl told me I was a Jerk

[tmpgstx]

Women want a sensitive jerk.

You were too much of a jerk yes.

Now it's time to be sensitive, but while stilling retaining the jerk bit just a bit.

Just tell her you came across a bit rude because you were irritable, and didn't mean anything by it because she's just too dam sweet.

With that you'll both be sensitive while still being a little bit of a jerk by making an excuse! Try it, bet it works good.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by tmpgstx
Women want a sensitive jerk.

You were too much of a jerk yes.

Now it's time to be sensitive, but while stilling retaining the jerk bit just a bit.

Just tell her you came across a bit rude because you were irritable, and didn't mean anything by it because she's just too dam sweet.

With that you'll both be sensitive while still being a little bit of a jerk by making an excuse! Try it, bet it works good.

women only say they want a sensitive jerk. every Good guy knows not to listen to what women say they want.

A man doesn't make excuses for what he does.

 

[tmpgstx]

No Kevin .. women say they want a 'nice' guy which really means a sensitive jerk.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by tmpgstx
No Kevin .. women say they want a 'nice' guy which really means a sensitive jerk.

again it isn't about what women "say" they want. it is about what women find attractive and what they need.

Women need a Good guy. Not a nice guy or a jerk. Women don't need a sensitive guy at all. That might be what they say they want but it isn't what they go for or what they need.

Woman need men who are strong and don't wimper at one of their many illogical and emotional outbursts. What good is a man who falls off the boat every time she shakes it or has a fit?


A DJ (good guy) is not a sensitve jerk.

In the above situation your Sensitive jerk would lower himself and put the chick on a pedestal after she called him a jerk. That sounds AFCish to me. "oh my God she called me a jerk.. what am I going to do... I'm not a jerk... whine whine whine...etc.."

A DJ would just ignore it or set her right if she went too far with it. After all a DJ has so many women after him he doesn't need to kiss her ass every time she calls him a jerk. Furthermore, any woman who doesn't show respect is of no use to him.

This guy has her right where he wants her. Infact he doesn't have to do anything at this point.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
Kevin..very true! even when she was "mad" at me..she layed with me..got hot and heavy with me..we talked and laughed all night..the next day she told me that statement..

interesting..her actions show she is very attached to me!

still I want to be a MAN here!

Since we're observing behavior here, lets interpret what she's done thus far in response to your own behavior. She gets 'mad' (and I'm glad you put that in quotations) at you for acting in a manner that she's already stated she wouldn't tolerate from any other guy and reciprocates by reinforcing this behavior with sex.

I think guys take the term 'Jerk' as too literal a put down. If MAN equals JERK to her so be it. I'm a proud Jerk if that's the case and any chick that called me that I'd know I was getting in with. 'Jerk' is just a term that encompasses a list of characteristics and traits that are realative to whomever is using it and obviously this girl is demonstrating a reinforcement of your personality.

Trust me, the minute you compromise yourself to placate this girl (i.e. fail the sh!t test) and she realizes this, that's when she'll stop 'getting hot & heavy.' It's OK (and even beneficial) to be in touch with your inner A-Hole. Dont become and A-Hole, but if the question is whether to lean towards Jerk or Sensitive (nice) guy, ALWAYS lean towards Jerk. This is what she expects from you, especially after hitting it with you 3 times. You've got her now, she doesn't have you, keep it that way.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
girls say things without thinking about them. just ignore the jerk comment.

Always react to what a girl DOES and not what a girl SAYS.

Her actions are all that you should be worried about.

Exactly. Her words say you're a jerk, but her actions says she likes you. She is still with you isn't she?

Yes, this is a test. She's seeing if you'll turn into a stupid bumbling AFC murmuring insane things to himself and spinning around in a circle on the ground for her. Don't do it. Remain firm, but that's not to see step it up a notch and start saying really mean things to her. Just stand your ground and she will respect you for it, no matter how many times you call her a "jerk".

Better a "jerk" than a "nice guy". Remember that. It's usually a good sign to be called a jerk by a girl.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
Exactly. Her words say you're a jerk, but her actions says she likes you. She is still with you isn't she?

Yes, this is a test. She's seeing if you'll turn into a stupid bumbling AFC murmuring insane things to himself and spinning around in a circle on the ground for her. Don't do it. Remain firm, but that's not to say step it up a notch and start saying really mean things to her. Just stand your ground and she will respect you for it, no matter how many times you call her a "jerk".

Better a "jerk" than a "nice guy". Remember that. It's usually a good sign to be called a jerk by a girl.

oops double post, sorry. I made a small correction by pressed the "quote" button instead of "edit" by accident.

 

[Reach]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
here is a tip

don't listen to a woman until she says it the third time.


this is true for number closes as well. you didn't hear her the first two times she said "No"

How does that work? Literally one after the other or what?

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Reach
How does that work? Literally one after the other or what?

for number closes don't take the first and second no for an answer.

 

[Reach]

No ****. But if you literally ask one after another they're replying to the same question. It's not Austin Powers, if you ask her the same question three times she won't give you the answer you want!

And how often does it work? I'm pretty sure I've got numbers after an initial rejection, I just can't remember how it panned out. Last time it happened to you give an example.