my girl tells me she is dying for romance?wtf does she mean?

[Slickster]

maybe i can find something interesting and out there for tonight or tomorrow..

I'm not sure where you live Bob but what works for me is taking a little road trip to a nearby town or city. Take her to some event or even just out for dinner. Action dates are good and even better in a strange place.

Good luck

 

[Chrispy]

It means she's getting bored of the relationship. Take her out on a fun date and keep things interesting again! Have fun doing it too!

 

[Bonhomme]

Yes, she is getting bored, and wants some novelty.

"Romance" is hard to define, but I'll illustrate an example from my dating experience.

Romance is all about paying attention. This may sound strange, but read on ...

I was involved with a gal was a grad student (i.e., destitute), and new to the area. In our conversations she told me of a certain type of wine that had different pictures on the corks, which she collected. I had brought her flowers on a previous date (nothing big, just a very small, colorful arrangement), and she liked that quite a bit ("I rarely get flowers").

She was coming to visit, so I got tickets to an outdoor classical concert (those dates have ended up in bed more often than not, BTW). I went online and found where I could get a bottle of the wine she loved, and went by the flower shop and got together a fine arrangement with some exotic flowers (birds of paradise and what not). Then put the flowers in the kitchen, and gift-wrapped the wine and hid it.

When I brought her to my place after picking her up from the train station, I told her I had a little surprise in the kitchen. She loved the flowers, and when she opened up the wine, she absolutely flipped. We had a pretty intensely blissful weekend, to say the least, what with the classical concert and all. She'd obviously not experienced a weekend anything like that before.

 

[ElChoclo]

Bob, as you know I've tried to help you before so here goes;

When she comes home after a hard day you should have some nice dim lighting with some soft music. Maybe Gregorian chant music and candlelighting.

You then should tell her that you want her to slip into something more comfortable. Tell her to take off all her clothes and put on her skimpy leather slave harness. You then shackle her to the wall and give her a flogging she will never forget.

What? Candlelight and mystery is romantic isn't it? (Disclaimer; This advice given to Bob in the spirit in which he asked the question.)

 

[Latinoman]

While she may appreciate "some" romantic gestures if you go overboard you will drive her away.

I agree 100%.

This is why I always preach to guys in relationships. You have to continue meeting and attracting new women. I'm not saying date them or cheat on your girl! Just meet them and talk to them. Even if your girl is standing right there beside you! Chat up the cashier at the grocery store. Whatever you have to do. Women want guys who are desired by other women. Guys in relationships tend to forget that and live their lives like they have been married for 30 years. They don't even consider chatting up any new women.

EXACTLY! I agree with this 100%.

But I will tell you one thing...for those of you dating "older" women (e.g. 35+ year of age and 5+ years older than you), doing the above brings issues in the sense that she will either get upset or extremely sad or play her mind games (e.g. "I'm going to do the same to see how you like it" mantra). Just a little warning to those folks. But...it lets her realize too that she is not in "control".

 

[insanity]

she's looking for a blast of excitement. do something that is amateur to the badboy. take her out at 3 in the morning and egg a house or nikki-nikki nine door and run like hell. in your mind it would be immature and lame, but in her mind the thought of almost getting caught and getting your butt whipped, would send blood flowing in all the right places

take her to sixflags and go on the puke inducing roller coasters.... all she is saying is make me feel excitment

 

[Latinoman]

If you truly want to take her to a REAL roller coaster...tell her (with some kind of sad face or whatever is appropriate) that you are planning to take a vacation ALONE (you can claim you are feeling overwhelm with work or life or some crap and need to vent) to any place in Europe or the Caribbean. Preferable a place that have "art" but also HOT BABES. And you have to MEAN IT (e.g. if she says, "go do it!" then you MUST do it).

I bet her mind would go..."Does he has another woman?" or "Is he planning to leave me?" or some other crap. Heck...she staying behind while you are having "fun" (even if you are only sightseeing) could make her miss you a lot.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Perspective....make sure you, the male, understand you're not some entertainment prop. I'm not saying "dump her," but if you reversed the situation and asked her to be MORE PORNOGRAPHIC, how would she take it? Is it a kind nudging of some experimental love, or is it trying to ascribe to some other person's ideal of love and companionship? That's an introspective, personal question...

Romance COMES from the joining of a FREE and LOVING man. A man not afraid of life or of dying. Each night he dies and is reborn. His hold on the previous day dies. His emotions on the previous day die. And he is born fresh and new the next day, in the morning. A man who is FREE will be romantic, because he is PASSIONATE about life, and this woman is just IN HIS LIFE path, so she is SWEPT up WITH HIM. Many men put the cart before the horse, and try to ACT out like Cupid on V-day what APPEARS to be romance, but no woman can tell you what it is, nor will it work if its specifically what is requested.

I won't tell you what to do. I know of tips that work. But most of what she might be saying is shyt testing, or complacency. Or total BS, not worth a leaf in the wind. There's varying degrees behind this. If a woman utters it too many times, then be gone with her, or know she WILL be gone with you soon. That much is inevitable. She'llcreate problems to get her way...


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And yes, ALL woman in YOUR bed (to the poster who stated it), were some OTHER guys problems. Just because you're laying 'em isn't any sort of kudo's on you. Rather you're taking my well spent trash and recycling it. Great! So she's run to another man, and she'll stay so long as you give her what she needs. Even better. If you want left overs, by all means, have at it.



A-Unit

 

[macknetikcharm]

She wants strong emotions, she needs to feel excited again.

 

[Slickster]

EXACTLY! I agree with this 100%.

But I will tell you one thing...for those of you dating "older" women (e.g. 35+ year of age and 5+ years older than you), doing the above brings issues in the sense that she will either get upset or extremely sad or play her mind games (e.g. "I'm going to do the same to see how you like it" mantra). Just a little warning to those folks. But...it lets her realize too that she is not in "control".

Your point is also valid Latinoman.

However what I'm saying is that if you live your life chatting up lots of women your girlfriend knew that when she became your girlfriend. In fact that's how you probably met her!! Just chatting.

If that's how you "always" are, then she can't get jealous or upset.

 

[Latinoman]

Your point is also valid Latinoman.

However what I'm saying is that if you live your life chatting up lots of women your girlfriend knew that when she became your girlfriend. In fact that's how you probably met her!! Just chatting.

If that's how you "always" are, then she can't get jealous or upset.

Trust me...they get upset.

Mine found very attractive my charm and cuckiness (of course, I never over did that) and my outgoing personality as well as my "bad boy" looks.

However, after we started going out...to this day...she doesn't like (now that she is in loved and is give me) when I act like that.

But, the way I look at it...it is her problem not mine.

 

[Slickster]

Trust me...they get upset.

Mine do not. I routinely meet and chat up new women right in front of my current gf. I don't flirt just friendly.

While she may get jealous she doesn't get upset and make a fuss. Its probably why I find her so cool.

Anyhow you are correct its her problem

 

[SoCalMike]

Ask?...Christ.

How bout the who gives a sh!t option? Let some other bozo worry about feeding her romantic reality.

If anything its ******** for:

" If you dare pander to this latest bullsh!t I'm spewing I'll be sucking your mates d!ck quicker than you can say "Heavens missing an angel". Your job is to take me up the poop NOT listen to this wank, Oh yeah and try acting a bit more scarce for fvcks sake"



"DYING FOR ROMANCE" ... What a fvckin cornball. Throw a Barbara Cartland book at her and go back to eating your sandwich.

Hahah!

Well said.

:crackup:

 

[SoCalMike]

What a retarded piece of advice...

Boobs man, you have no idea how many guys like you had their girlfriend in my bed once a week and thought they were sooooo cool and tough.

Now, if being a DJ means anything, it means avoiding two pitfalls:
1/ The cheesy emasculated AFC-ness
2/ The retarded caveman-like jerk-ness

Not necessarily. I don't think he's either or 1 or 2, he's just a man who doesn't pander to the irrational emotional whims of women.

BTW I thought we all determined the original poster is a troll. Last time I read this board was months ago and he kept posting similar nonsense like this and not responding. This is probably just another fake post of his.

 

[Centaurion]

Dying for romance huh?

That's womaneese for 'drama'. What she really means is that she craves drama in your relationship.

Friction --> drama --> excitement --> emotions --> feelings --> romance

 

[( . )( . )]

She wants romance, fine I'll keep that in the back of my head for a rainy day and will sweep off her feet when she expects in the least with night at the opera and candlelight sex.

Thats you "sweeping her off her feet" is it? Candles and opera, can you be anymore cliched and unoriginal?

Thats great now you can give the b!tch "romance" like 99% of every other other bozo out there, around and around it goes.

And I'm meant to buy your a girlfriend stealer? get the fvck outta here.

 

[BobFuest]

Not necessarily. I don't think he's either or 1 or 2, he's just a man who doesn't pander to the irrational emotional whims of women.

BTW I thought we all determined the original poster is a troll. Last time I read this board was months ago and he kept posting similar nonsense like this and not responding. This is probably just another fake post of his.

Yea thats why I spent all my time lurking and playing the field instead of posting. BTW there is no such thing as nonsense when your trying to gain experience. You cant learn if you dont ask. I responded to everything that wasnt a complete put down or a "let me explain how much more of a man I am". This is a legitimate question that didnt need a lot of BS. Just a simple few words of advice. In any case I have taken care of it. I asserted myself by making her feel as though she had to prove something to me instead of me having to prove myself. After that I then treated her to romance as a gift for "a job well done" so to speak. Although not in such as a-hole way. The end.

 

[BobFuest]

Thats you "sweeping her off her feet" is it? Candles and opera, can you be anymore cliched and unoriginal?

Thats great now you can give the b!tch "romance" like 99% of every other other bozo out there, around and around it goes.

And I'm meant to buy your a girlfriend stealer? get the fvck outta here.

Are you forgetting that, to a women, when YOU do something special for her it is the FIRST time YOU are doing it. Your generalizing with "like 99% of every other other bozo out there" because it doesnt matter as long as its from you. Be unique yes, but you CAN do things that others have done before. If your a true Don then you shouldnt have to pander to such "rules".

 

[( . )( . )]

Are you forgetting that, to a women, when YOU do something special for her it is the FIRST time YOU are doing it. Your generalizing with "like 99% of every other other bozo out there" because it doesnt matter as long as its from you. Be unique yes, but you CAN do things that others have done before. If your a true Don then you shouldnt have to pander to such "rules".

Theres a big difference between making her think "awww how cute, he cares" and sweeping the b!tch off her feet.

And that post wasnt even to you anyway, it was to the "girlfriend stealer".

 

[SoCalMike]

When I was sticking up for tit man, I just meant that when a girl says something like "I need romance" that it's immature form of female behaviour. It's like saying "I need happiness". F*ck that. Are we living in some Cinderella movie here? It's also a little insulting. It's like some prissy little b*tch way of saying "you're not making me happy. I want. I want. I want."

It's ok to be romantic, take your girl out on Valentines, etc. I like doing that. But if she babbles some nonsense like "I need romance" I'm not gonna validate it with a serious response.