My girl is pushing me to spend more money

[_sideways_]

She is getting superficial. ..like I better drive us more...I gotta take her out and pay more. I don't mind paying for a comedy show which I enjoy and just treat her at the same time. But now she says she isn't willing to drive anymore. I never paid for gas cuz I paid for the date so I felt that was fair. Plus I drink. ..so no d.u.i. for me.

Latest talk we had was about how she won't drive down to meet me. I said o.k. you know I don't drive so...that's that.

Now...I don't drive because I'm trying to save money by not paying for insurance and also...I have no need to drive right now. I work close to home and I don't feel like I need to drive even though I have a car.

Her statement turned me off....what do you guys think?

 

[JohnMac]

Walk away mate because a girl telling you to spend money when it's completely going against your current life objectives is bad news. She's taking control and if you give her an inch she will then take a mile, which for you means spending more money on her for. Then when someone with more money comes along she'll swing from your branch to theirs.

 

[_sideways_]

I know that....I'm more confused as to why she would make that comment...knowing full well that it would push me away from her. Our entire time together I never drove. ..and I don't plan on driving anytime soon. No need to. I feel pushed away and since the talk. ..I have been silent and working out more...too tired to talk or text.

Maybe it's relevant to say that she's coming down for spring break for a bit and she wants me to cater. ..but I'm sorry...I don't cater.

 

[_sideways_]

I kind of didn't want to ask because I already put my needs before anything. ..but I just wanted to make sure. It sure as hell doesn't feel the same ....compared to when they drive for an hour to see you and bring you your favorite rum drink and food.

 

[JohnMac]

Well I guess it depends on the way everything has gone down. If she's been doing all of that for you for a while then she's obviously gonna get pissed off. If you're just banging this girl then cut lose and move on. On the other hand, if you actually like this girl and want it to be good then it's gotta be a two way street.

The best relationships are the ones when neither person involved has to try. They've got gaps, you've got gaps and together you fill them gaps. If you want it to work with her then you gotta fill in some of her gaps to.

My personal advice is if she's coming to see you at spring break, that means you're like 20/21 or something. So hit it one more time then next one...

 

[_sideways_]

She's 22 I'm 32...but look way younger. ..When we met last year I told her I was 25 and she bought it lol.

It's just that I don't like to drive period and she knows it. So her saying that I have to drive to her for this one week or so is like a power play....and I'm not going against my wishes of not driving for anybody because I don't like to.

 

[djthiago1]

First step: Realize she is not LTR material.
Second step: Dump or just bang as long as possible, i'd go with the latter until i meet someone else.

 

[SmooveMooves]

If she wants you to don't something that you legitimately just dont want to do, then don't do it. You are a man and if you decide not to do something, be it any task, no matter what she says, you don't do it. You have your reasons, sheknows your reasons, so her request is futile.

If she's all of a sudden superficial, something with her IL is going on.
Sidenote: Any sudden change of behavior of said female with no identifiable cause' by male is typically IL related

Now, you handled the situation correctly (distancing, not texting) now it's a waiting game.

Two questions, why lie of your age? & Does she still think your in your 20's?
Not putting you down, just curious. I lie to these h0es as well.

To be perfectly honest, it sounds like another guys in the picture, but that's only from the information you provided, and as I don't know enough, its only a thought.

However, a quote I live my waking breath by is: "IiWiI- It is what it is"
If she comes around and apologizes?- Gravy. If she doesn't? Cut your losses and move on.

And remember,

Maintain frame, even when dames complain

ooo, I should be a rapper.

 

[rascal99v]

Are you going to do this for her? :crazy:

Women take advantage of men who they don't respect. They think of them as betas. If you cater to her wants that's what you will be. This chick has shown her true colors. She only wants you for what you can provide. Not the guy who you are. She only wants you if you will pay and spend your money. This chick ain't worth it.


This is lame. And so is lying about your age. That didn't help you any because she is using you.

She is putting in no effort to see you. She wants you to put in all the work. Be her taxi driver. Her chauffeur. Her ATM machine. Use up all your time driving to her. Never always pay and work yourself to the bone for some chick. Are you going to do that? This chick is using you and you're dumb if you continue on with her. The more work you put in, the less control and dominance you have. She's making you pay and work to see her. That's bullsh1t. She has low interest.

She's 22 and sees you as an older dude who will pay her way for sh1t. Other dudes can put in the minimal effort and bang her for basically free. Her IL is really low because she is putting in no effort. Chicks who like you will do anything to see you. Dump this moocher. She will use up your gas and money. Then she will dump you. Find another chick who will put in an effort and won't refuse to pay.

Dump or just bang as long as possible, i'd go with the latter until i meet someone else.

Why would you want him to do the latter? That's defeating his whole purpose. For him to get his bang, he still has to drive to her and spend all his money. That's what he should be avoiding. :yes:

If she comes around and apologizes?- Gravy.

There is no gravy. She's shown her true colors. He lied and is now being used.

now she knows my real age...she found out after two months dating. She didn't like that I lied...but cest la vie. ..I look much younger so blah blah blah.

:crackup:

And you're confused to as why she's treating you this way? LOL :crazy:

She wants a younger dude her age.

She sees you as a liar and an older dude who will pay for her. No wonder she lost her interest. :yes:

This relationship is toast. Built on a lie and a chick who's interest has waned. Find another woman. Her attitude and opinion of you isn't going to change. :yes:

Don't lie about your age next time

 

[_sideways_]

If she wants you to don't something that you legitimately just dont want to do, then don't do it. You are a man and if you decide not to do something, be it any task, no matter what she says, you don't do it. You have your reasons, sheknows your reasons, so her request is futile.

If she's all of a sudden superficial, something with her IL is going on.
Sidenote: Any sudden change of behavior of said female with no identifiable cause' by male is typically IL related

Now, you handled the situation correctly (distancing, not texting) now it's a waiting game.

Two questions, why lie of your age? & Does she still think your in your 20's?
Not putting you down, just curious. I lie to these h0es as well.

To be perfectly honest, it sounds like another guys in the picture, but that's only from the information you provided, and as I don't know enough, its only a thought.

However, a quote I live my waking breath by is: "IiWiI- It is what it is"
If she comes around and apologizes?- Gravy. If she doesn't? Cut your losses and move on.

And remember,

Maintain frame, even when dames complain

ooo, I should be a rapper.

now she knows my real age...she found out after two months dating. She didn't like that I lied...but cest la vie. ..I look much younger so blah blah blah.

Could be another dude in the mix...I think she's just complacent. She's been gone for two months and got ballsy. She's visiting home for a week or so then moving back for good in the summer.

my plan is to be silent...no text or call during her time here. Her stubborn ass probably won't contact me either... oh well. In my mind she stopped being a sweet gf after she said she didn't want to drive an hour to meet up...and I better do it.

 

[_sideways_]

Rascal....I'm not being used yet....she's flying back in three days...it's been two days since we last communicated...

A little background. ..she has always drove and I never paid for gas. Has made me picnics and such...and yea I have paid for dinners. Which I feel has been a fair trade. She brings be my favorite drink to sip on when she picks me up etc....

What bothers me is that she's starting to show signs that she thinks I'm not a human with a back bone.

I know she's young and is prone to making the wrong decisions...but I still feel this kind of anger that she would say that I better drive to see her. ...especially since I hate to drive.

In my mind this is what I hear..."eat your vegetables or no kisses for you"

Fvck your kisses then sweetheart. The sexier next door neighbor is serving up apple pie and bjs.

 

[abe0]

Time to liquidate...

In economics the CPI is the consumer price index. In dating the CPI is the Cost of P*ssy Index. Once the price is getting too high...either financial or emotional terms...it is time to LIQUIDATE. You need to get rid of her....Abe

 

[_sideways_]

Thanks abe....In hindsight...I think she kind of got rid of me in a way...

It hurts like a flu shot...

 

[VladPatton]

I think you need a new gf, homeski! GTFOH with her telling you how to spend your money. What show has she been watching that she's pulling that shıt with you? Basketball Wives or some other stupid entitlement-promoting reality show shıt??

Nothing should come between a man and his money.

 

[skinnyguy]

Tell her she needs to start dancing on the pole. This one girl I dated was superficial, but I respect the fact that she was willing to strip for it…at least she took matters in her own hands.

 

[_sideways_]

Yup....I hope i am an example to my bros....it's ok to miss a girl...but when she acts like ...not your girl. Just let go....listen to happy mysic...go out and have fun immediately. She left me way before I knew it...

I'm happy ...With myself homies....

 

[GotED?]

Why lie about your age in the first place? You are already trying to qualify yourself to her by lying.

Be truthful, if she doesn't like it - walk away, make her feel inferior and being too young for you instead, make her qualify herself to you.

I am 41 but women always guess 32 to 35 consistently. I don't lie about my age and I tell them I am 41. Keep your confidence and game, Bro. I have never had a woman 8 to 10 yrs younger concerned with my age.

Late 20's women is another story, they are full of games and too many orbiters.

Be steadfast in who you are and behave like you are the prize.

Exodus

 

[narcissist]

dip

 

[escaleraroyal]

you sound like u dont have a good job. my advise get a better pay job so you can drive a bmw and pay for your insurance

 

[escaleraroyal]

First step: Realize she is not LTR material.
Second step: Dump or just bang as long as possible, i'd go with the latter until i meet someone else.

2nd step is lame. only people who are not getting action advises that.