My girl is on birth control... and she has no sex drive.

[Vice]

The girl I'm dating is taking birth control (daily pills), and it's ruining her sex drive. She almost never initiates, and we have sex only about once a week, which is about forty times less than I'd like it to be. I'm 20 years old and I'm always ready to go.

She doesn't even orgasm very often, last time we had sex she started "feeling tingly" and then we stopped. I never come when we have sex, so I don't lose my sexual energy and gusto for life.

Oh, and she's also going through medical school and isn't too thrilled about me giving her oral/fingering her because she's now all paranoid about bacteria. (gotta give that immune system some practice!)

And she'll get moody and grouchy often. It doesn't bother me, I just tell her that I love it when she's that way (I don't really care), and it instantly puts a smile on her face.

Anyone on here ever had a similar experience with their girl being on birth control?

 

[The Mad Ghost]

Yes. and be prepared for worse to come, if her friends visit, watch the behavior with her and them and compare it to you and her. They won't be getting stick, but you will be. Atleast thats what happend between me and my ex when she was on pills.

My girlfriend also didn't like me fingering her, and she wouldn't for the life of her finger herself. Light red flags here OP. Also, you were homebound on Halo day in day out late last month and now you're dating a girl? LOL, whats up?

 

[Vice]

Yes. and be prepared for worse to come, if her friends visit, watch the behavior with her and them and compare it to you and her. They won't be getting stick, but you will be. Atleast thats what happend between me and my ex when she was on pills.

My girlfriend also didn't like me fingering her, and she wouldn't for the life of her finger herself. Light red flags here OP. Also, you were homebound on Halo day in day out late last month and now you're dating a girl? LOL, whats up?

Can you elaborate more on your first paragraph?

As for the fingering situation, she's not deeply against getting fingered, as far as I know it's just her being kind of freaked out by all the stuff she's learning in medical school, and plus me not washing my hands/trimming my nails enough to avoid irritating her vagina.

And as for the Halo thing, that was back in October, and I finally got out of that rut and met her on Thanksgiving after creating a VERY small and simple social circle. Amazing how quick and easy it was, and very gratifying to know that I "still have it". I'm still building good habits. I'll post an update on that thread later, I've made leaps and bounds of improvement.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

Can you elaborate more on your first paragraph?

As for the fingering situation, she's not deeply against getting fingered, as far as I know it's just her being kind of freaked out by all the stuff she's learning in medical school, and plus me not washing my hands/trimming my nails enough to avoid irritating her vagina.

And as for the Halo thing, that was back in October, and I finally got out of that rut and met her on Thanksgiving after creating a VERY small and simple social circle. Amazing how quick and easy it was, and very gratifying to know that I "still have it". I'm still building good habits. I'll post an update on that thread later, I've made leaps and bounds of improvement.

Observe the behavior between her and her friends, ofcourse what I'm describing could just be a case-by-case basis. But I witnessed my girlfriend would have this ''hang up'' and tendency where she got used to the fact I would put up with her crap cos she was on this pill.

We would argue from morning till afternoon, and as soon as her friends came over, it was like there was never any tension, not even in the air. They would leave, and she would give me dirty looks across the room, throw mini tantrums and just have an aura of walking around eggshells.

Kinda like, trying too hard to play a mother-to-be, or trying too hard to percieve what it would be like to be pregnant. She never wanted to go on the pill either. And eventually she stopped taking it and got pregnant.

She'd lay her miserable and irritated emotions on me, just because it became second nature and that a man should emotionally provide for her if she is unwell and should withstand her oscillation between periods of feeling nauseated and miserable, with the fact that ''shes a woman and she has emotional periods, deal with it''

Just be careful and look out for that whole try-hard-mother-to-be attitude OP. Even if shes on the pill, some girls have the weirdest hang-ups and try to act like they're pregnant or put up this persona of having significant responsibility, when they don't.

Oh yeah. And about you not cumming in your girl. I also never officially ''cummed'' in a girl apart from my last ex. I had a problem where I could go for hours and not ***, not sure what it was (masturbating before sex), but it affected my performance once I got into serious relationships. Random ONS wanted to hook-up cos I could go for hours without ejaculating. Sure it was fun to go for hours and have a girl compliment you on your stamina and longevity, but once I got into LTR's it caused problems. So, realistically my ex took my virginity. How comes you're not cumming in your girl?