my girl going to formal with another guy?!?!

[surfdog]

Hey guys I need some help here...

my ex-gf and I have gotten pretty close again in the last couple of months and I decided to asked her out again, but she said that she doesn't want a relationship at the moment because of the stress of the final exams and stuff (im in australia btw and the finals are kinda a big deal for seniors >< ).
Which was fine by me becuase Im also too busy atm so we agreed to wait till the end of the year.

and turns out our high school formal is on the same day (we go to different schools) and becuase it is our senior year neither of us want to miss our own but we said we'd discuss it later as it is still a few months away.

But then yesterday I found out she's asked one of her guy friends who went to another school to the formal, a guy who i happen to dislike very much and this bothers me alot...

I don't really know what to do because we're arent officially going out and so I dont really have the right to tell her not to go with him and I don't want to appear needy or jealous because that'd make me appear unattractive.

and I also found out the guy has broken up with his gf just to go to the formal with my girl and he is considering taking her to his.

Like I feel threatened by this guy but I don't and I can't show it...I don't really know what to do...what can I do?!!?

any suggestions guys?

 

[KontrollerX]

Next her for good and don't look back.

If you don't you are just setting things up so she can have her cake and eat it too.

And what I mean by that is she gets to sample strange c0ck of a guy you hate guilt free because after all you two aren't in a relationship with eachother currently and then all of a sudden end of the year rolls around she's had her fun of sucking that guy and others off and says yay time to return to the stability and safety of surfdog whose waited around for me to get done fvcking and sucking truckloads of guys.

He's my good wittle puppy wuppy I wuv him so much!

So yeah nice future you got planned out for yourself dude.

Get some self respect and next this cvnt permaneantly.

And besides maybe she will have so much fun with this other guy or even someone new that she will forget all about her promise to you to return to your side at the end of the year.

Start building new prospects and fvcking them to erase this one from your mind.

Edit: Hey I just thought it'd be funny if you could take his girl to the formal. Try that. Its sweet revenge and a new chick. Win win.

 

[saturos]

Like the other poster said, move on. It'll obviously be hard to do, but try and get yourself attracted to someone else, because your ex is just playing you.

 

[DonAlan456]

Edit: Hey I just thought it'd be funny if you could take his girl to the formal. Try that. Its sweet revenge and a new chick. Win win.[/QUOTE]

lol tht would be rlly interesting

 

[Anchorman]

Abandon ship! If you want to have any balls left, next her and cut off all contact. I mean ALL CONTACT!!! meanwhile, start flirting with other chicks and make sure she knows. She will crawl back to you and try to get into your head again. Don't let this happen.

If your state of mind is right, you can string her along purely for sex and nothing more, while still seeing other chicks.

 

[DonAlan456]

o and also

Thread subject "my girl...."

shes not your girl anymore

she can do wat she wants

you can do wat u want

 

[surfdog]

Abandon ship! If you want to have any balls left, next her and cut off all contact. I mean ALL CONTACT!!! meanwhile, start flirting with other chicks and make sure she knows. She will crawl back to you and try to get into your head again. Don't let this happen.

If your state of mind is right, you can string her along purely for sex and nothing more, while still seeing other chicks.

Its not that easy to cut of all contact, because I see her on most days either at the same library that I go to or on weekends, and we talk on the phone almost everynight (she calls me).

Like what do I do when I see her? just ignore her?

also I was thinking of maybe playing the ganji game for a while?
Like stop calling her, just say hi breifly when I do see her, and talk to other girls when she's around.

and yeah I do have my eyes on this one chick tho..I was thinking of getting with her to make my ex jealous, but when I thought about it it was stupid because this new chick is soooooooo much better so why would I need my ex?

But yeah I'm keen to get even with her, so taking the other guys chick to the formal do sound very tempting ahahah, except shes a ***** and my friends and I don't like her...and plus i do have a reputation to keep.

 

[surfdog]

ok guys...heres an update..

So I decided to tell the b*tch to "get the **** out of my life! because I was sick of being played by her.

Turns out the ex missus is more than you and I gave her credit for...she wasn't playing me

This is a short version of what I said:

Me: I'm sick of being played, and I'm not gonna take your BS about "oh I don't want a relationship until the end of year" crap, and you know I hate ______(the guy) and why are you taking him?!?! I'm so sick of it..get out of my life I'll be better off without you!

Her: I'm not playing you everything I told you was the truth...
Tell me who else am I supposed to take? I can't take you! would you rather me taking someone else? that I actually like? he's just a friend and you know it. He's the closest guy friend I have apart from you!

[She then started crying]

At that moment I couldn't reply, I didn't know what to say. She hardly ever crys...all that time I've known her I have never seen her cry.
I've seen her in fights with other people but she's never cried. Ever.

Like I felt embarrassed that I got "jealous" of this "friend" of hers.

I felt like such an idiot, such a AFC that I actually got so worked up over this.

She's still talking to me and yeah..she even told me she loved me last night..so I guess I didn't completely stuff this one up.

Anytips on what I should do at this point??

 

[smoothtalker72]

if you're going to confront her at least do it in a more civil way. violent confrontations will solve do more harm than anything else.

that aside, how are you to know whether or not she turned the waterworks on to gain sympathy from you?

anyway, jealousy is not a flattering trait. try not to show it.

 

[KontrollerX]

Was she aware that you disliked this guy greatly before asking him to the formal?

If she was aware of that and asked him in particular anyway then dumping her is still the way to go.

As for her crying it doesn't mean a damn thing.

Women turn on the waterworks to manipulate a situation.

Mature people handle huge issues without manipulative crocodile tears.

Tears serve the purpose of being a DISTRACTION and SHUTTING DOWN YOUR INQUIRIES via manipulated guilt.

Anyway though sometimes life experience is the best teacher.

Follow your own judgement on this one bro.

I hope it works out for you and I mean that.

 

[shaunuk]

Mate, simply because she said she's not playing games with you doesn't mean it's the truth. If courts took the defendant's word for it everytime then the legal systems wouldn't be working too well would they?!

There's two ways you can look at this. You can accept that she really is just friends with this guy and that she's going with him - afterall you're not with her at the moment. Maybe she really *isn't* interested in him.

Secondly, you can continue to be mad at her and be a bit jealous that she may be interested in him.

Which would I do? NEITHER. Look man, you're 18, and you two have already finished once. You're so young and considering how young you are, in all likelihood one or both of you will be going off to college/university soon. What's the point mate? I'd just move on if I were you. Just my opinion

 

[Smack]

Yeah move on. She's your ex for a reason. Quite simple, really.

 

[surfdog]

Mate, simply because she said she's not playing games with you doesn't mean it's the truth. If courts took the defendant's word for it everytime then the legal systems wouldn't be working too well would they?!

Hahahah yeh that's a good point.

I understand what you guys are saying and I know that dumping her and move on is the right thing to do.

The thing is that we've gotten very close and I have put in quite a lot of my valuable time and energy into this one letting go now would feel like all that was a waste.

I also agree with what shaunuk said..next year we'll both be going our separate ways and any idiot knows that long distances NEVER work.

So right now I think I'll just leave things the way they are.. and start seeing other girls.
If things do work out at the end of the year...great. But if they don't then I won't be too disappointed because I didn't waste the time waiting for her.

Maybe use her for a lil casual sex every now and then but I'll be on the lookout for new pvssys from now on.

and thanks to all the guys who contributed to my thread..really appreciate it!

 

[Bonafide]

Lol you dislike another guy? I mean why...why do u even care about other guys...maybe thats why she did that, to get on your nerves...cuz she knows the little b1tch that u really r...stop giving a **** about people that dont really matter

 

[surfdog]

mate I don't dislike the guy just cuz she asked him, I dislike the guy because the guy is a real a$$hole..if you meet the guy you'll know what I mean.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I think she used to you make another guy jealous. Forget about it.

 

[shaunuk]

Thing is, none of this matters anymore. I'm glad you see my point surfdog, cause you seem like a real cool guy, so don't waste your time.

Going to uni and having a long-distance thing SUCKS, don't do it. The fact that you've spent a lot of time with her etc. is highly irrelevent because this is just a silly high school relationship. Get your ass to college when the time comes and you'll not regret being single

Forget these daft relationships when you're a kid, especially when it's in this state anyway...there's no future to it, it's best just to move on now.

Now get your hunt on for new pvssy mate