My girl checked my cell phone when I was gone...

[WillieSacks]

I think I already got it figured out but the girl I have been with for 6 months checked my phone out and even admitted to looking at my phone 5 or 6 times in the past, including early on in the relationship (like the first month) when we weren't even anything.

Turns out I left my phone at home 6 months ago and looked at my text messages and saw a text from my ex saying "WANNA F*CK".

Also, on Saturday night I went to the store to get some stuff and left my phone at home to charge, I come back and we start talking and she asked me when was the last time I talked to my ex. (By the way I called my exes phone at 12:30 am when her phone was off to leave her a message about some money I was supposed to get, I didn't even leave the message, I called then hung up before it even picked up) so I said I haven't talked to her in 3 days (which was true) she busts out with "I can bust on you right now but I won't I kept pushing her and she asked me why I called my ex at 12:30. It didn't concern me that she 'caught me' I was actually telling the truth and on my phone when you dial the number and hit send, it registers as an outgoing call, but that's not the point SHE WAS CHECKING OUT MY PHONE.

That's more of a respect issue than a trust issue. She said she only did it to make sure I wasn't fu**ing other people but it was in the first month. I wouldn't even think to look at her phone and I have had plenty of chances.

Anyway I got on her about it and she said she will never do it again but the damage is already done,I am never letting her play with my phone and I sure as hell am not going to leave it laying around anymore. Like I said, I don't have anything to hide but it's a respect issue more than anything. Am I right guys?

 

[alphawolfx]

yep. i agree with you

 

[DJDamage]

She is insecure and using that against you. Next time it will be your e-mail she is going to hack to find out some dirt. If this is the kind of girl you want then go right ahead.

Its a big red flag when she confronts you on the first month of the relationship. You should have ended it right there.

 

[Guerrero]

Privacy more like it. But are you really entitled to some privacy when you're in a relationship? If you wanted to be private, you wouldn't have a gf .

Now do the same for her phone

 

[Guerrero]

Is she putting out?

 

[belividere]

I agree that is bullsh1t. I had an ex who would do that all the time. She checked my email and would search my computer and what not. Needless to say now that I am much happier without her. I was pissed about my phone and her reason was that I wouldnt answer it all the time when I was around her or would go into another room. Fvck that your girl is just jealous and untrustworthy.

It's funny because by her not trusting you and doing **** like that it ends up being that you now dont trust her. Probably not what she planned. If I were you I would try to explain that too her and then tell it will do her good to not do that to her next boyfriend.

 

[alphawolfx]

people that don't rrust others tend to be the ones who are guilty because they think everyone is like them

s.hit i used to check my ex-ltr's e-mail (she would let me do it, she liked the attention) and occaisionally spy on her (f.ucking wussy and creep behavior, i know, i grew out of it - first gf and all)

yet I was the one cheating on her regularly, lying to her, and sometimes talking s.hit about her

so maybe SHE has something to hide

 

[AverageFC]

I think I already got it figured out but the girl I have been with for 6 months checked my phone out and even admitted to looking at my phone 5 or 6 times in the past, including early on in the relationship (like the first month) when we weren't even anything.

Dude fukking lock your phone! Make it so you need to enter the right key combo. Fukking nosy people. Oh and delete your damn text messages. That's another way to keep people minding their own business.

That's more of a respect issue than a trust issue. She said she only did it to make sure I wasn't fu**ing other people but it was in the first month. I wouldn't even think to look at her phone and I have had plenty of chances.

You are definitely right man.
And as someone else said go through her phone now. if she won't let you, you KNOW something is up.

people that don't rrust others tend to be the ones who are guilty because they think everyone is like them

This is definitely true. People try to displace their guilt by blaming it on others. She could very well be up to something. Be suspicious.

 

[MacDiddy]

When a girl says she'll never do it again, what she is REALLY saying is that I'll never do it again NOW until this thing blows over and I'm back to my normal insecure self.......

What just happened there was you allowed her to back you into a corner.... you were left qualifying yourself...

If it isn't acceptable behaviour by you then you should have argued that point and that point only.... and not trying to defend yourself...