my girl accepted a date with another dude....

[Legend]

and told me about it...whats my next step?

I showed her i could careless but inside i feel so burnt and pissed off. Do i just end this with her? Not talk to her anymore? She knows it bothers me..she said he is ugly and is always harrassing her.

She said that she is going to set things straight with this guy tonight...she fvcking blew me off to see him!

If this was the girl you cared about...what would you have done?

 

[squirrels]

He's "harassing" her? Has she already explained to him that she has a man and that he has no chance?

If so, then maybe YOU should get involved.

If not, then maybe that's what she's doing tonight. But doing on a date...that's just that whole "let him down gently" thing. Women are dumbasses when it comes to that...they want everyone to like them.

I dunno what to tell you. Sounds like your girl is weak-willed and this guy is trying to manipulate her with "loser moves" like acting all hurt and angry and hoping she feels bad about herself for blowing him off. A REAL woman could just smile and say, "you're sweet, but I have a man and I'm not interested in you" and then say "F**K him" if he starts throwing a hissy.

I'd let it ride this time, since you pretty much already HAVE made that decision. There's nothing you can do about it now without seeming insecure. But if it happens again or becomes a habit, then maybe you need to consider whether you want to put up with it.

YOu want revenge? Hit the club with your boys tonight and tell her how much fun you had and how you're sorry she wasn't there. Don't be sitting at home waiting to see "how it went."

 

[Viking25]

I think she might be testing you,trying to get a reaction from you. Perhaps she is telling you in ********:" I want you to ask me out on another date. I want to be exclusive". If she is openly tells you about this guy,most likely she is not going to fukk him behind your back,she not hiding him! Another possibility might be: she is losing her IL in you and sees you more like a friend? Is she an attention hor type?
But you did right...don't show that you care ...go out with some other chicks. You are in "the game". And you role is to be a MAN.

 

[DJmonster]

She's snubbing you to go out with him?! That's major disrespect. Why would she need to go out with the guy to set him straight. That's ridiculous. Tell her she needs to learn how to say no. I don't think it's too late to stand your ground. She may know it bothers you, but you didn't confront her, so she's going to do it her way. Confront her. Don't get mad or emotional in any way. Just let her know you think its disrespectful to you, and that she shouldn't have to go out with him to set him straight. If she still goes, then I'd next her.

This advice comes from the assumption that you two are exclusive/boyfriend-girlfriend, which I assumed, since you called her your girl. correct?

 

[Legend]

i'm not even going to ask how it went.....she keeps giving me all this BS about how older guys are so much better. Just could take a walk for all i care. I pull chicks in like its my fvcking job....maybe next time i wont be so fast to say no.

Also she could be just saying this because i went out last night with a girl for a couple of drinks.....so i really dont know what to think.

All i know is i am the catch not her, i have the looks and personality, if she wants another dude, i'll help find her one. All she has that i want is a tight puss....sorry to sound vuglar but i am a lil mad.

 

[uniassign]

Dude,

That is definitely a test on her part or that she is interested in this guy.

Seriously, if she is into you, she wouldn't be looking at another guy. "Harrassing her"? Please, that's just how she puts it to you so it gives her an excuse to go out with him.

You need to pull back. Punish her with silent treatment. Go out with other girls and actually try to sleep with them. TELL your GF about them.

She started it, you should finish it.

 

[Vigilante7]

Originally posted by uniassign
Dude,

That is definitely a test on her part or that she is interested in this guy.

Seriously, if she is into you, she wouldn't be looking at another guy. "Harrassing her"? Please, that's just how she puts it to you so it gives her an excuse to go out with him.

You need to pull back. Punish her with silent treatment. Go out with other girls and actually try to sleep with them. TELL your GF about them.

She started it, you should finish it.

exactly,. there are lots of ways to avoid this

1) I have a BF
2) False Info

She is Bsing you

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Why you guys take so much disrespect I will never understand!

Your girl went out with another dude and you are asking us what you should do???

Tell her to go to hell and never talk to her again. Don't let her see your lips quiver when you say this. You had access to this site for a year, and you are still unsure of what action to take. I give you an 'F' as an A'F'C!!!!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If she truly knows EXACTLY how you feel by you telling her, consider nexting her. Is this the way that she will handle any troubling situations? What if the guy was attractive? What would stop her from going out with him?

This girl does not have integrity, at least when you are involved. Is this someone you would want to make an effort to date?

 

[Player_Supreme]

She isn't your girl anymore! Next!

She has lost all respect for you as a man. Why are you even contemplating what to do next when that is plainly obvious as to your next course of action.

I said it 3 times in the above statments!

 

[CLOONEY]

Man this is blatant disrespect. How long have you been with her?

Wasnt it you posting about this same girl a while back?

She is trying to make you Jealous. If this is a guy she knows, she should be straight forward. If this is a guy she doesnt know so well, she should be straight forward. Either way she is fukcing with your head in a BIG way!!

I swear this is that same girl, isnt it?

 

[Big Pappy]

Man, all this hostility! All this "Next! Next!" crap.

Problem: Girl is tired of schmuck bugging the piss out of her.
Solution: Girl will try to expalin to ugly dude that she doesn't like him during dinner?

Real Problem: Girl is too stupid to know when she's being manipulated.

Solution: Disdain.

 

[E-Z Rider]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Man, all this hostility! All this "Next! Next!" crap.

Problem: Girl is tired of schmuck bugging the piss out of her.
Solution: Girl will try to expalin to ugly dude that she doesn't like him during dinner?

Real Problem: Girl is too stupid to know when she's being manipulated.

Solution: Disdain.

lol. I like that

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Man, all this hostility! All this "Next! Next!" crap.

Problem: Girl is tired of schmuck bugging the piss out of her.
Solution: Girl will try to expalin to ugly dude that she doesn't like him during dinner?

Real Problem: Girl is too stupid to know when she's being manipulated.

Solution: Disdain.

"she keeps giving me all this BS about how older guys are so much better" - Legend

he goes on a date with a female friend, the next day she BLOWS HIM OFF, to "set straight" some UGLY guy who is "harassing her". Sounds like someone is trying to make him Jealous..........no?

Not as straight forward as you seem to think Big Pappy. And if this is the same girl that had Legend hooked a while ago, and I am gathering it is, it aint all good.

 

[thejuice]

You have to stand up for yourself dude. If she did that to you and you didnt even react, and apparently she knows it pisses you off, youre being a wuss. If you dont like it, then tell her! Dont be gay

A girl does not need to go on a date to let a guy know she isnt interested. What shes actually doing is making the guy think she is in fact interested by going out with him. I bet she knows this so her explanation does not make sense. Theres many things she could have done...file a restraining order, say NO, tell you about it so you can tell him shes off limits, many things! But her going on a date is odd

My explanation is that shes into herself too much. Shes getting a power trip by having this guy around and being able to say no. She likes having guys do things for her, tell her nice things, and be wimps. Shes insecure and uses you and the other guy(s) to convince her otherwise. The ways ive read so far are...

(1) you not saying no to her

and

(2) that "ugly" guy shes going on a date with

The fact is that shes not going on a date to tell this guy she isnt interested. Shes going for other reasons. If hes so ugly, if he harrasses her, then why tickle his pickle? Its obvious

Im positive that she wants to keep the other guy around, otherwise she would have found another solution. Any solution except for her ridiculous assertion that the date is to clarify things would have been better

So i guess its very clear, shes clarifying this very well but for you. Shes may be sneaking behind your back

 

[PUA_GUY]

How can she be your girl when shes dating other guys on the side?
And frankly you deserve to cop it up the ass judging by your lame ass sig!

 

[Legend]

End thread...i dont even know why i come to the fvcking site anymore

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Legend
End thread...i dont even know why i come to the fvcking site anymore

Ahahahaha!!!

I'm sorry, I found that quite amusing. Sorry you didn't get the advice you were looking for.

 

[Legend]

nah its not that, i respect all the information i get from squirrels, CLOONEY, uniassign and Big Pappy.


To everyone else...i guess opinions are like a$$holes, everyones got one

 

[JustDoItAlways]

There are really only two possibilties:

1. The relationship is over. Its probably been over for awhile now. You're not doing what she wants in a guy and its too late.

or:

2. Its not too late and she is giving you once last chance/test to take on the role that she is looking for. You haven't given enough information to tell what that role is and you need to post more about what this girl is like. What does she respond to? What's your sex life like?

If I had to guess based on what you said, I'd say you didn't take the lead role enough, you didn't control the relationship. You're not like an older guy. Maybe the tight wet one is just too good.

Post some more about her. Maybe we will see something that gives you an in on recovering this girl. Otherwise, I have to go to No. 1 and say its over.