My GF now complaints of my flirtatious behavior... Any suggestions?

[Vulpine]

:nono:

Peep my sig, Vypros.

I'm with FD'A, there's enough Vulpine to go around. In fact, I ENCOURAGE women to "bring a friend to share", like a pot-luck.

 

[Vypros]

:nono:

Peep my sig, Vypros.

I'm with FD'A, there's enough Vulpine to go around. In fact, I ENCOURAGE women to "bring a friend to share", like a pot-luck.

Heh, all I'm saying is that if you have a girl and you are WITH her, you really shouldn't be hitting on other girls in front of her.

I'm assuming you are "with" your girl (for two months) because it's turning into a relationship? if not, then why the hell ARE you with her? The sex can't be THAT good, and if there's enough of you to go around, then getting sex shouldn't be that difficult.

 

[Vulpine]

Heh, all I'm saying is that if you have a girl and you are WITH her, you really shouldn't be hitting on other girls in front of her.


...getting sex shouldn't be that difficult.

Ooop - oop - oop!

Plate theory, being the prize, being social, social proof, brah blagh blay...

You seem to be still plugged in to the Matrix.

Who said anything about "hitting on". Getting sex ISN'T that difficult. Talking and having a good time (socializing) are completely different than harmless social interaction.

And a DJ will tell you, it's hard to not be a DJ once you are one. Now, excellent social skills always stand out to a jealous GF type as "operating" or "hitting on".

But, that's on the GF to deal with. With rampant LSE and such, this woman's complaint is very common.

Would she want a guy who hangs all over her all night long? Heck no! She wants to know that the friendly guy milling about, rubbing elbows, and making friends is HERS. She'd be more attracted to that guy than the chump sitting on the stool next to her all night not saying a word to anyone but her.

So, what's it going to be? Field complaints from an attracted woman about you working a crowd? Or, masterbate and cry yourself to sleep because the woman left because you were a wet blanket?

Tell me, Vypros, have you ever fielded this complaint?

 

[Vypros]

Would she want a guy who hangs all over her all night long? Heck no! She wants to know that the friendly guy milling about, rubbing elbows, and making friends is HERS. She'd be more attracted to that guy than the chump sitting on the stool next to her all night not saying a word to anyone but her.

There is a difference between a guy milling about, rubbing elbows, and being a generally social person and "hitting on" girls while you are with your girl. In fact the difference is HUGE.

You claim it's difficult to NOT be a Don Juan when you become one. I claim that if you can't "control" who you hit on and when you hit on them, then you aren't a Don Juan.

 

[Vulpine]

There we go. Now you're arguing my point for me.

Glad we see eye-to-eye.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Who said anything about "hitting on". Getting sex ISN'T that difficult. Talking and having a good time (socializing) are completely different than harmless social interaction.

:yes:

And a DJ will tell you, it's hard to not be a DJ once you are one.

:yes:

...Would she want a guy who hangs all over her all night long? Heck no! She wants to know that the friendly guy milling about, rubbing elbows, and making friends is HERS. She'd be more attracted to that guy than the chump sitting on the stool next to her all night not saying a word to anyone but her.

I'm Francisco d'Anconia, I'm a DJ and I approve of this message!

 

[Vypros]

There we go. Now you're arguing my point for me.

Glad we see eye-to-eye.

I knew you'd come around sooner or later.

 

[Vulpine]

I knew you'd come around sooner or later.

Well, shame on you for not even paying attention.

Is ANYONE paying attention?

Talking and having a good time (socializing) are completely different than harmless social interaction.

Don't argue with me.

I'll pluck your eyes out.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well, shame on you for not even paying attention.

Is ANYONE paying attention?

....

Of course not! Everyone is spellbound to the goodness which is Francisco!

Alright, I'll stop now...

 

[Vypros]

I guess I was confused by your original statement:

Perhaps the trick is to throw in a guy or two just so it seems even and your interactions can be written off as "being social" versus macking.

 

[Vulpine]

Perception.

Your perception, as a DJ, is going to be that your behavior is harmless (which it in fact is since you aren't making anything happen beyond talking).

The perception of a LSE woman is that you are hitting on anyone and everyone. She doesn't know your intent, so she jumps to a conclusion for the worse.

That's the difference.

So, a DJ must coddle the LSE's if they intend to keep them around. Or... not; and things get "out of hand" like amoka's situation.

You are trying to argue that a DJ can't talk to whomever the fux they please. No, according to you, they are hitting on anyone and everyone, regardless of the actual intent. Amoka may not actually "pulling the trigger" on any of these broads, but you are saying he is, and so is his LSE GF.

"Flirting" can be stretched to encompass even looking at another woman. And when a woman complains about it, she is trying to fasten the leash around your neck.

17+ post per day, Vypros?
"I knew you'd come around sooner or later."?
"I guess I was confused by your original statement:"???
No age in your profile?
Member since March?

Between you arguing the case of a LSE woman, muck-raking, and last word taunting, one last thing to be said:

*clickety-click-click*

:wave:Buh-bye, Vypros.

 

[Latinoman]

The girl I have been seeing about two months now starts to complaint about my flirtatious behavior. Before we started dating, she noticed I have the tendency of talking to more women and sometimes getting their numbers, although try never to get another girl's number while she is around. I asked her repeatedly whether the way of talking to women disturbed her to which she responded: "Not really.... if it disturbs me, I'll let you know." She is the kind of person that will say anything that disturbs her so I thought, well if it indeed bothers her, she'll let me know. Now things get worse, somehow fell sorry for her. Whenever we are walking down the street and another lady passes by, I find myself opening up a conversation with her. Now, because of my DJ style, the conversation often turns to my DJ-like- style, which makes my gf mad. I know, I'll be angry to if she attempt talking to other guys in front of me the way I talk to other ladies in front of her.

Now things are out of hand. She started complaining more often than before that indeed the way I talk to the ladies in front of her do trouble her. I'm in a quagmire here.... do you all find yourself talking to other women while your gf or wife are around. Does she get angry when you do that....?

Same crap happened to me. I had one of three choices:

1- Dump her

or

2- Modify my behavior

I choose number 2 because I am charming by nature. And the problem in here is that she felt that me being charming equals "flirting".

How did I modify my behavior? I can be charming with old ladies and ugly women and good looking ones. So I added the old and ugly.

EDITED to CLARIFY.

 

[Latinoman]

Note: Hitting on women in front of your woman is DISRESPECTFUL.

 

[amoka]

Note: Hitting on women in front of your woman is DISRESPECTFUL.

I understand that but some women think want 100% attention from you. Not good.

 

[Vypros]

You are trying to argue that a DJ can't talk to whomever the fux they please. No, according to you, they are hitting on anyone and everyone, regardless of the actual intent. Amoka may not actually "pulling the trigger" on any of these broads, but you are saying he is, and so is his LSE GF.

You sure about that?

There is a difference between a guy milling about, rubbing elbows, and being a generally social person and "hitting on" girls while you are with your girl. In fact the difference is HUGE.

You claim it's difficult to NOT be a Don Juan when you become one. I claim that if you can't "control" who you hit on and when you hit on them, then you aren't a Don Juan.

 

[Latinoman]

I understand that but some women think want 100% attention from you. Not good.

That was not the topic here. Topic here = you flirting with other women in front of your girlfriend.

Quite disrespectful. I mean...that's how you want people viewing your girlfriend in public? I am not going to be a moralist...so...If you are going to do things...do them in such a fashion in which NO ONE gets hurt.

I gave advice once to a man that came here telling us about his girlfriend flirting with some men. My advice was simple...tell her that he find it disrespectful. If she continued, then dump her.

Now, how can I sympathize with you when you are clearly doing the same to her? Disrespect is disrespect, regardless of gender.

 

[Mindtrust]

I know what it is... the "balance" I mentioned before.

Let's say you're across the room from your woman talking to another woman. We know women are "aware", and she is going to be looking. Well, every once in a while, shoot a glance her way. You will lock eyes and she'll give you "the look". Blow her a kiss, wink, lick your lips at her, whatever, just give her a little attention from across the room. "Balance" the attention. This lets her off the hook and eases her mind. Like the little bit of attention, while in front of another woman, assures her that you are in her thoughts.

*Erhem*

Just be sure to play the little "I see you, Baby." games while the chick you're talking to isn't paying attention.

Yeah I think that would go down well and ease your date, good example.

Very good example. I would suggest topping it off by sometime later during the party when she joins your conversation (and she will, women are just curious cats that have learned how to walk upright), grab her and tell her what you were discussing. Yes, I mean actually telling her what complements (filtered of course) you were paying to her friends.

After which you pay her an even bigger complement in front of her friends followed by some sort of kino which alludes to sexual intimacy. You will gain points in her friends eyes, she will gain points in her friends eyes and you will gain points in her eyes. You end up with more points in the game!

Get where I'm coming from Mindtrust?

Sorry it has taken a week to get back to the post. I have just started nights again, and now have time to be online.

Quality info Francisco, I get exactly where you are coming from..

Everyone is a winner, respect all round and plenty points gained in this situation.

There are always times when I am out with my dates where I have to socialize with other women, whether it be friends, Ex girlfriends, or maybe total strangers... The examples that have been given are a perfect way to handle this situation.

Thanks guys.

Mindtrust.

 

[Joey Jeremiah]

My GF now complaints of my flirtatious behavior...Any suggestions?

Rough Sex

Your girl wants to be fvcked hard, like she was a used piece of meat. That's what she wants, go fvck her like she's just a cheap piece of ass, choke her while you do it, slap her in the face, she'll love it.