My gf is becoming too clingy and attached to me...

[Blue Hef]

It's actually starting to get real annoying lol We've been together for a year and some change and lately she seems to be getting more clingy and attached to be than ever. She wants to be together ALL the time and talk on the phone when we're not together, she stalks my facebook/twitter, she doesn't want me to have any contact with other chicks, she gets mad if I don't text/call her etc...I took her virginity acouple months ago, may this be the reason? I've also been less of a "nice guy" type recently too. I haven been taking NO sh*t from her and I put her in her place every time she gets outta line. I have her right where I want her to the point where she's scared to say or do the wrong thing because she knows I'm quick to leave lol It seemed like it was the other way around when we first got together, I was more on her and kind of clingy and was buying her all types of **** and she used to act all "stuck up"...how'd did this change? lol..but i just want to know how to tell her to chill out and stop being so clingy in a nice non-disrespectful type of way?

*side-note* I'm kind of feeling this chick at my job, I think she likes me too. She smiles and looks at me all the time...Should I stay loyal to my girl or should I go in and make this girl from my job a "side chick" ?

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

You should take it as a compliment.

It "could" also be a sign that you are not giving her enough attention. While this may be good for your position now, eventually this will bug her and then she feels no affection from you - which mean she may start seeking this void elsewhere.

 

[Blue Hef]

You should take it as a compliment.

It "could" also be a sign that you are not giving her enough attention. While this may be good for your position now, eventually this will bug her and then she feels no affection from you - which mean she may start seeking this void elsewhere.

never thought about that...I think I give her enough attention tho...I'm just not all up on her like she is on me...i let her breathe

 

[Purefilth]

It's actually starting to get real annoying lol We've been together for a year and some change and lately she seems to be getting more clingy and attached to be than ever. She wants to be together ALL the time and talk on the phone when we're not together, she stalks my facebook/twitter, she doesn't want me to have any contact with other chicks, she gets mad if I don't text/call her etc...I took her virginity acouple months ago, may this be the reason? I've also been less of a "nice guy" type recently too. I haven been taking NO sh*t from her and I put her in her place every time she gets outta line. I have her right where I want her to the point where she's scared to say or do the wrong thing because she knows I'm quick to leave lol It seemed like it was the other way around when we first got together, I was more on her and kind of clingy and was buying her all types of **** and she used to act all "stuck up"...how'd did this change? lol..but i just want to know how to tell her to chill out and stop being so clingy in a nice non-disrespectful type of way?

*side-note* I'm kind of feeling this chick at my job, I think she likes me too. She smiles and looks at me all the time...Should I stay loyal to my girl or should I go in and make this girl from my job a "side chick" ?

Have been in your exact situation bro, since you were her first, she needs to justify that to herself that's you're special, and that it meant something. However if youre like me ( and you seem to be) it was a long haul to get a notch on the bedpost, but now you've had it you want something else. If you want something else, let the old down gently, she won't leave easily, but if you're sure you don't want her, thats it, right?
( I'm currently NC with mine cos I was AFC and she tried all sorts of head****s )

Or you could give her the attention she craves in doses.

Bottom line she needs reassuring that she gave it to the right person that's why she's acting clingy.

 

[Iceberg]

Have been in your exact situation bro, since you were her first, she needs to justify that to herself that's you're special, and that it meant something. However if youre like me ( and you seem to be) it was a long haul to get a notch on the bedpost, but now you've had it you want something else.

That's actually why I hate hearing about guys who wait so long to get their girl into bed. They think they're being noble and gentle, or whatever. But the relationship is different once you have sex....or at least it CAN be.

Once you cross that sexual boundary, it's like "Oh right. She's just a regular human being like any other girl I've been with. Do I really like her personality or was I just pretending to in order to get sex?"

 

[Purefilth]

That's actually why I hate hearing about guys who wait so long to get their girl into bed. They think they're being noble and gentle, or whatever. But the relationship is different once you have sex....or at least it CAN be.

Once you cross that sexual boundary, it's like "Oh right. She's just a regular human being like any other girl I've been with. Do I really like her personality or was I just pretending to in order to get sex?"

I had oneitis, its a much longer story than I've made it there, and I was with her for a few years after. It ended with her head games driving me off. ' another notch' is how I look back on it.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Should I stay loyal to my girl or should I go in and make this girl from my job a "side chick" ?

I dunno. It depends how weak and pathetic you are. Do you always base your decisions and loyalty to others based on what other people tell you to do?

 

[Blue Hef]

I dunno. It depends how weak and pathetic you are. Do you always base your decisions and loyalty to others based on what other people tell you to do?

^Oh, ok...If that's the case then I guess you're "weak & pathetic" too -----> http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=171650
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=145530
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=146607

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=153418 <---smh what type of clown type of sh*t is this??

Look around the forum you f*ckin' idiot...about 90% of the topics are people asking for ADVICE (including you)...smh I swear, there's some weird characters on this site yo...

 

[Somedude_UK_31]

I don't mean to hijack your thread but I couldn't help but mentioning:
how you are complaining about how a girl is too clingy and how I'm complaining I wish I had a girl who would just ask how I'm doing, even once a week :*(

 

[Iceberg]

I don't mean to hijack your thread but I couldn't help but mentioning:
how you are complaining about how a girl is too clingy and how I'm complaining I wish I had a girl who would just ask how I'm doing, even once a week :*(

One lonely tear drop.

 

[Young Juan]

Get as many side chicks as possible, make the main chick act right and give you your space. If main chick acts up, you got a side chick

 

[pdx1138]

Do I really like her personality or was I just pretending to in order to get sex?"

I had that with my last ex.

Once I bagged her, the challenge wasn't there and I lost interest fast.

OP, you really need to think this one through.

Think about it, do you really want her gone and out of your life?

It can be annoying getting texted every day. I too get annoyed by "how's your day?" texts every day, but think long and hard if you really want her out of your life.

you might regret it later.....but maybe not.

 

[Zarky]

It sucks buddy. When chicks are in love they get super clingy. Drains all the fun out of a relationship.

 

[youngmack]

Your in a good position OP. Some dudes spend their entire life searching for girls like this. Me personally i wouldn't drop her out of my life.At the end of the day its what you really wanna do.

Futhermore, Just be straight up bro. Your a man you got balls. Come up with something to say with a little humor to it. Use a simile or something. That way it wont sound too disrespectful.

Oh and i almost forget about the chick @ your job..All ima say is remember its always good to have a back up. Keep her on good terms, flirt a little, test the waters, have her in your back pocket.

 

[In10se]

Get the side chick, do your thing and enjoy your life...keep your main girl as your main girl until YOU decide she is not for you anymore...no one else should make that decision.

Recently I've learned that girls, especially the most desired, can change their simple little minds for no reason at all. Finding a truly gorgeous chick with a matching personality is difficult. Once you seem fully committed their loyalty dwindles unless they are old enough that their options have run dry...****ed up reality eh?

 

[Alle_Gory]

Look around the forum you f*ckin' idiot...about 90% of the topics are people asking for ADVICE (including you)...smh I swear, there's some weird characters on this site yo...

Difference between advice and asking to borrow someone else's moral code. As far as my questions, I always take things into account and do my own thing, based on all available information. I figure it's the smart thing to do.

You on the other hand, seem to be incredibly flexible. "Should I stay loyal to my girl or should I go in and make this girl from my job a "side chick" ?"

Similar to "Hey guys, should I cheat or should I not?"

This is the exact question a tool, a fake, would ask. This is something that everyone figures out for themselves, by themselves. Loyalty. To whom, and how far, and why. Or did you want someone else to do the tough thinking for you?

 

[Blue Hef]

Difference between advice and asking to borrow someone else's moral code. As far as my questions, I always take things into account and do my own thing, based on all available information. I figure it's the smart thing to do.

You on the other hand, seem to be incredibly flexible. "Should I stay loyal to my girl or should I go in and make this girl from my job a "side chick" ?"

Similar to "Hey guys, should I cheat or should I not?"

This is the exact question a tool, a fake, would ask. This is something that everyone figures out for themselves, by themselves. Loyalty. To whom, and how far, and why. Or did you want someone else to do the tough thinking for you?

I'm not necessarily basing my actions on people's opinions...I just explained my situation and wanted what others had to say on some "don juan" type sh*t, you know? I'm new to this site (even though I've learned that I already had a few don juan characteristics l So chill out kid...go ride a bike or somethin'

as for everyone else, thanks for the advice n' sh*t homies...Next step, making this other broad my side chick...Let's see how this turns out lol

 

[Blue Hef]

I don't mean to hijack your thread but I couldn't help but mentioning:
how you are complaining about how a girl is too clingy and how I'm complaining I wish I had a girl who would just ask how I'm doing, even once a week :*(

lol sorry bro. I didn't mean to rub it in or nothing like that...Don't worry though, you'll find you a chick...just keep DJing lol

 

[Alle_Gory]

I'm not necessarily basing my actions on people's opinions...I just explained my situation and wanted what others had to say on some "don juan" type sh*t, you know? I'm new to this site (even though I've learned that I already had a few don juan characteristics l

Well that's a much better answer. I guess it was just miscommunication.

 

[Zerro]

I don't mean to hijack your thread but I couldn't help but mentioning:
how you are complaining about how a girl is too clingy and how I'm complaining I wish I had a girl who would just ask how I'm doing, even once a week :*(

I know. I keep seeing guys here complaining about clingers meanwhile I'm delighted to have a chick who talks to me at least once a day without me having to initiate.