Hi guys, just to introduce myself, my name is Johan and I have "sweet" troubles so I came to this forum(which I read for quite some time) for some help.
Here is the story...there is a girl I know for a long time, we are both in our early 20's. She had a crush on me long time ago, but we parted ways because I didn't find her particluarly interesting, beside, we were both early teenagers.
Now...couple years after she saw me at one event, I looked at her and saw her in distance and didn't really bother to go to her because it was a hustle to go through. BUT, I saw her constantly looking at me on a big glass, it was quite interesting. It wasn't really a look you give to old friends, more when you look at people you find attractive, potentially want to meet better.
After that, she added me on facebook couple days later, texted me and we talked for about 2 hours( I know we shouldn't, but eh...). After we were finished I didn't come to facebook couple days but her friend sent me a request, turns out it wasn't her friend that sent it but her. She tried to poke me a bit but I figured after minute it was her, she asked why did I add her friend and I said "I don't really know, since I know her I guess?"(not very good though). I did find her attractive but after a 15 minute of texting I said I have to go somewhere(
) she said ok I'll hear from you more, ok? I said yes, sure.
Next day she texted me again asking if I'm interested to go somewhere, she said she is bored and I asked her to go and grab a coffee, she said great, see you in a half hour. She also wrote a joke along the lines "of me finding my soulmate". There, and when we got out for a walk she was constantly looking at me, smiling and touching her hair. She laughed at my jokes, looking "deeply" in my face, she poked me, "punched" me on shoulders couple times, mimicked my moves, well, she was doing everything with her body that a guy without any knowledge of body language would get as "she is interested". But than came the moment...we were talking casually, really got into it, and she said something in the lines "Yes, my boyfriend once..." and than she stopped and said but we are not really all that good now( she broke up with him 2 times already, they are more than 1 year together, got together just a week before).
Long story short, after that she called one time( next day) and we texted couple times that week, she was lots of times online( more than she was before we started our little thing) and she started conversation 3-4 times, with me starting it once. One time I asked her what is she curently listening and she answered "a nice song for the night, Sixpence None The Richer - Kiss Me" and winked.
Anyway, all that time tried to act cool, wasn't on it everyday, tried to appear busy. She said "next time when we go out we are going to etc." couple times, 2 days ago she contacted me after couple days of me not really doing anything, we had great little chat, she said next time we go out she wants surprise I hope I know what she meant by that Anyway, in last message she called said something like " its ok, we'll hear from each other buddy " and I freaked out because I was really falling for her, never in my lifetime did girl call me that, especially not girl I showed some interested in. I shortly answered her and saw her next day at one small event. We talked, she laughed, looked at me and let me touch her hands, asking if they were cold or was it just her and such.
The problem is, at the end of it she said this "Johnny, he/that guy( something like that would be translation in english, didn't say boyfriend, more like this, I'm from South America so I don't know how to say it in english but this is direct translation, she called her boyfriend that guy) came to pick me up" she smiled and said " see ya" and I said enjoy yourself.
So...thats been yesterday, I want to see her, I sense she wants to see me too it's just that, it was never my thing to get a girls who already have a boyfriend, even if their relationship isn't really going places. I'm suspicious if she is doing that for fun or she is bored with bf( even though I can guarantee that she is not that type, 100%). I think if I don't do something next time we meet its over for me, I already think I'm nearing FZ with that last text so my question to you guys is, what do you think? Does she find me friendly or as potential partner? All this has messed with my mind and I can't see clearly what does she want from me, I'm clearly overgeneralizing stuff so help would be very appreciated, especially from some of you guys in your best years :wink:
*I would like to add that when we saw eachother that one time along with her touching me she was fine with me touching her hair and her legs( she said she just shaved and I touched to see how are they )and she didn't mind me being very close. She also said I look great, and have great body, but than I was sure she likes me, after that mention of bf I'm not sure in anything right now.
Girls (without trying to be arrogant)always find me very good looking(I'm athlete) and very funny, I get compliments all around so that kinda tells me she is not really trying to fool me, I also act a bit harder to get with her, trying not to show all my cards.
So guys, please share your thoughts, I'll be very grateful. I'm pretty scared now that I'm nearing friend zone and that I blew it. What to do next? How to make a move?
Here is the story...there is a girl I know for a long time, we are both in our early 20's. She had a crush on me long time ago, but we parted ways because I didn't find her particluarly interesting, beside, we were both early teenagers.
Now...couple years after she saw me at one event, I looked at her and saw her in distance and didn't really bother to go to her because it was a hustle to go through. BUT, I saw her constantly looking at me on a big glass, it was quite interesting. It wasn't really a look you give to old friends, more when you look at people you find attractive, potentially want to meet better.
After that, she added me on facebook couple days later, texted me and we talked for about 2 hours( I know we shouldn't, but eh...). After we were finished I didn't come to facebook couple days but her friend sent me a request, turns out it wasn't her friend that sent it but her. She tried to poke me a bit but I figured after minute it was her, she asked why did I add her friend and I said "I don't really know, since I know her I guess?"(not very good though). I did find her attractive but after a 15 minute of texting I said I have to go somewhere(
) she said ok I'll hear from you more, ok? I said yes, sure.Next day she texted me again asking if I'm interested to go somewhere, she said she is bored and I asked her to go and grab a coffee, she said great, see you in a half hour. She also wrote a joke along the lines "of me finding my soulmate". There, and when we got out for a walk she was constantly looking at me, smiling and touching her hair. She laughed at my jokes, looking "deeply" in my face, she poked me, "punched" me on shoulders couple times, mimicked my moves, well, she was doing everything with her body that a guy without any knowledge of body language would get as "she is interested". But than came the moment...we were talking casually, really got into it, and she said something in the lines "Yes, my boyfriend once..." and than she stopped and said but we are not really all that good now( she broke up with him 2 times already, they are more than 1 year together, got together just a week before).
Long story short, after that she called one time( next day) and we texted couple times that week, she was lots of times online( more than she was before we started our little thing) and she started conversation 3-4 times, with me starting it once. One time I asked her what is she curently listening and she answered "a nice song for the night, Sixpence None The Richer - Kiss Me" and winked.
Anyway, all that time tried to act cool, wasn't on it everyday, tried to appear busy. She said "next time when we go out we are going to etc." couple times, 2 days ago she contacted me after couple days of me not really doing anything, we had great little chat, she said next time we go out she wants surprise
I hope I know what she meant by that Anyway, in last message she called said something like " its ok, we'll hear from each other buddy " and I freaked out because I was really falling for her, never in my lifetime did girl call me that, especially not girl I showed some interested in. I shortly answered her and saw her next day at one small event. We talked, she laughed, looked at me and let me touch her hands, asking if they were cold or was it just her and such. The problem is, at the end of it she said this "Johnny, he/that guy( something like that would be translation in english, didn't say boyfriend, more like this, I'm from South America so I don't know how to say it in english but this is direct translation, she called her boyfriend that guy) came to pick me up" she smiled and said " see ya" and I said enjoy yourself.
So...thats been yesterday, I want to see her, I sense she wants to see me too it's just that, it was never my thing to get a girls who already have a boyfriend, even if their relationship isn't really going places. I'm suspicious if she is doing that for fun or she is bored with bf( even though I can guarantee that she is not that type, 100%). I think if I don't do something next time we meet its over for me, I already think I'm nearing FZ with that last text so my question to you guys is, what do you think? Does she find me friendly or as potential partner? All this has messed with my mind and I can't see clearly what does she want from me, I'm clearly overgeneralizing stuff so help would be very appreciated, especially from some of you guys in your best years :wink:
*I would like to add that when we saw eachother that one time along with her touching me she was fine with me touching her hair and her legs( she said she just shaved and I touched to see how are they
)and she didn't mind me being very close. She also said I look great, and have great body, but than I was sure she likes me, after that mention of bf I'm not sure in anything right now.Girls (without trying to be arrogant)always find me very good looking(I'm athlete) and very funny, I get compliments all around so that kinda tells me she is not really trying to fool me, I also act a bit harder to get with her, trying not to show all my cards.
So guys, please share your thoughts, I'll be very grateful. I'm pretty scared now that I'm nearing friend zone and that I blew it. What to do next? How to make a move?
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