My Friends are Holding me Back

[Alkali]

You are who you surround yourself with.
So if ur friends are like that, it makes me wonder what you're like.

1. Quiet and Intelligent (Wierd at first)

2. Loud and Stupid (Annoying at first)

3. Horny and have no Sense of control (Too friendly at first)

These are my friends. It's bizarre that we all get along considering our differences.

"So if you are who you surround yourself with"

Then why do the quiet, smart guys hang around the loud and stupid ones?

Maybe you could try reading before attempting to coin a phrase...

That makes absolutely no sense in this context.

For all of you chastising me for potentially ditching my friends, I'd like to thank you for reading.

Yeah, that was sarcasm.

I'm not ditching them. I'm just publicly hanging out with some of my other groups of friends.

Consequently, abandoning my core group at school. While still planning to hang out after school.

Alkali, young brother, the best thing for you to do is to suggest your friends follw your lead. Some will be hesitant, some may take you up on it. For those who do, become thier mentor. It will improve every aspect of who you will become and accelerate your maturity ten fold. For those who choose to stay stagnant, I am in complete agreement with brother D.F. and you'll need to hack those cancerous limbs off of you.

Please realize that I've tried to help them along.

But it's a no go.

I've made a few inquiries on this sight actually about being a better wingman for my friends.

They just won't adapt. I'm different and I need to hang out with people like me.

Academically driven, outgoing, and tactful.

They've given up on grades. They're either too exuberant or passive.

A few have also been using depressants (Marijuana, shrooms, etc)

That they can’t seem to control. (Grades are dropping like a lead weight)

They need to get their act together but I can't get them to.

Even after I explained that they were screwing up their life, they agreed to stop, but couldn’t.

I’m at the end of my rope. I’m already drifting from a few of them (refuse to light up.)

So please, all of you, stop with this morality crap ("Bro' before Ho's")

Explain to me how to do this properly.

Sorry, I didn't mean to become irritated.

I had unrealistic expectations on the advice that I would receive.

So should I just hang out with different people at lunch.

Today, I just hung around a different group before swinging by my typical one.

They asked where I'd been I said I was just hanging out with some other people.

They weren't ecstatic, but hey, what am I going do?

Tomorrow, it will be obvious.

 

[Alkali]

Perhaps I didn't describe the event well enough.

Those girls were nice. Not cute (they were, but that's not what I'm talking about)

But sweet. Genuinely among the friendliest people I have ever met.

They were polite and straightforward. My friends acted differently, but all of them screwed up.

1. Some (the loud, stupid ones) said some unbelievably stupid things.

These girls were sensitive and they said something they perceived as funny.

In a childish attempt to generate attraction...

But I, someone who isn't a frickin' social retard, noticed it hurt their feelings.

They have a charm when you know them, but not when you don't.

2. Others (the quiet, smart ones) didn't say anything, and if they did, said it meekly.

It came off as wierd and creepy. They don't like new people.

3. The remaining hit on them in wildly inappropriate ways.

Might work on sluts, hell, maybe even normal girls. But not on these girls.

Fun to be with drunk, but not sober.

They're incompatable with the people I know and spend time with in class.

They don't know my other friends because I take high leveled classes while they take average ones.

So, as I said previously, I started hanging out with another friend's group.

Who are very similar to me.

They're serious about the success of their future.

Considerate and friendly around new people and they enjoy the same junk that I do.

-Gym (helping my routine)

-Jogging (Providing some competition and company)

-Picking up on ladies (complimenting strangers and making conversation)

With great success, might I add. I had a better time with these guys then I do normally.

 

[Alkali]

Growing up, my mom always told me to associate with people who want more out of life. If you ever associate with someone who stops being greedy about what they want in life, then there is a problem.

I wish I had received that advice a long time ago.

 

[Ken785]

I had a group of solid 7s eating out of my hand. Completely, I was 100% in control.

I told them that they should stop by and hang out with me at lunch.

They eagerly agreed.

They came, they saw, they left. I'm a rather observant person.

They were not pleased with the friends I choose to hang out with.

My friends are all great...just not at first.

My closest friends, who I've known since I was in elementry, are either:

1. Quiet and Intelligent (Wierd at first)

2. Loud and Stupid (Annoying at first)

3. Horny and have no Sense of control (Too friendly at first)

Looking back on it, I typically get more numbers when I'm by myself.

I'm not going to ditch my best friends...but this is a problem. I want hot girls. I can't have both.

At the moment I'm leaning towards finding a girlfriend.

Isolating myself from my best friends and fooling around with her crowd during school hours.

On the positive side, this would widen my possibilities and increase my social appeal.

As well as land me some hot ass.

On the negative side, I would only be hanging out with my buddies after school in my spare time.

They might take it personally.

SOLUTION: Make your friends realize their faults and tell them they need to fix them. ex. Turn them to SoSuave... Reading material? the SoSuave DJ bible.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else's misery— emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.