Thugo, maybe some dudes are quick to call people AFC's and such. However, maybe I can better state what they want to say. EVERYONE has had "the one." Trust me, I have been there. However, you should not let that haunt you. It WILL cause problems for you.
Not all DJ's are out to get a good piece of @ss. Trust me, I get the ladies, but im not out to have a bunch of robots on my jock. Many DJ's want LTR's too. However, your mention of "haunting" sounds like a barrier. Its no wonder that you have not found the right girl. The other girl is still haunting you.
Now, when you see another girl, your past sweetie is still haunting your mind. Even worse, the more you keep this haunting feeling... the more your mind will find positive points about that "one." Who can really measure up to that?
There are millions, billions of girls. Instead of finding someone to do your errands... find SOMEONE.
My suggestion: Let the past go. As the pharcyde once said, "let your free form, form free." Get it? Let her go. Being a DJ is about improving yourself and not being able to brag about some bytch that gets a beer for you and how much you don't like her. Man, no wonder you have not found the "right one."
Chillax brotha and don't leave the forums. Brush your shoulders off bro... brush your shoulders off.