Basically I have a small group of friends that have known each other since children.
We all have our own things going on, different social circles , hobbies , jobs, lives e.t.c.
In that group is Z, Z got into his first relationship at 20. Basically he dropped all his friends, had/has zero hobbies , basically his girlfriend become his life.
He got forgotten about by the group. Until Z's girlfriend actually got incontact with the group asking us to, no begging us to reconnect with Z and call over hers to hang out with him. Haha she offered to cook for us, get the beers in and get out the way and go out to give us some "space" for a boy's night in.
Feeling a bit sentiment we obliged and started to visit Z while his mommy started to go out on regular nights out with the girls
Z's mommy was setting up play dates for Z so she could go and and play with other men.
Not long after Z's mommy got into a new relationship with a man.
Z took this really hard, did a bit of therapy, went through a bit of depression, got a bit bitter , started to hate women, been living with his parents ever since.
His "salvation" was having sex with bottom of the barrel desperate women from the internet. Z was now a "player", getting his revenge on womenkind by just using them for sex, still very much effected by his breakup from those many years ago.
Fast forward now and it's 13 years since his break up and he's finally ready for a relationship.
He's found his soulmate. The one. His true love.
The pattern is beginning to repeat itself. A few months into the relationship he's refusing to hang out on the occasional boy's night or weekend adventure even thought he does literally nothing with his spare time .
His counter offer is that "you guys can come and hang out with me and my girlfriend at HER house anytime you like!".
Or "how about you come over when I'm baby sitting my girlfriends child while she's goes out to clubs with her girlfriends, we will have the house free for a couple hours".
He's already making his new girlfriend his new mommy and it feels like a train wreck waiting to happen.
I want to save him from his fate, do you thing there is any salvation for him?
The thing is he doesn't see it. In his head he's on top of the world, the ex womenister who changed his ways and had won the girl of his dreams.
It feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
We all have our own things going on, different social circles , hobbies , jobs, lives e.t.c.
In that group is Z, Z got into his first relationship at 20. Basically he dropped all his friends, had/has zero hobbies , basically his girlfriend become his life.
He got forgotten about by the group. Until Z's girlfriend actually got incontact with the group asking us to, no begging us to reconnect with Z and call over hers to hang out with him. Haha she offered to cook for us, get the beers in and get out the way and go out to give us some "space" for a boy's night in.
Feeling a bit sentiment we obliged and started to visit Z while his mommy started to go out on regular nights out with the girls
Z's mommy was setting up play dates for Z so she could go and and play with other men.
Not long after Z's mommy got into a new relationship with a man.
Z took this really hard, did a bit of therapy, went through a bit of depression, got a bit bitter , started to hate women, been living with his parents ever since.
His "salvation" was having sex with bottom of the barrel desperate women from the internet. Z was now a "player", getting his revenge on womenkind by just using them for sex, still very much effected by his breakup from those many years ago.
Fast forward now and it's 13 years since his break up and he's finally ready for a relationship.
He's found his soulmate. The one. His true love.
The pattern is beginning to repeat itself. A few months into the relationship he's refusing to hang out on the occasional boy's night or weekend adventure even thought he does literally nothing with his spare time .
His counter offer is that "you guys can come and hang out with me and my girlfriend at HER house anytime you like!".
Or "how about you come over when I'm baby sitting my girlfriends child while she's goes out to clubs with her girlfriends, we will have the house free for a couple hours".
He's already making his new girlfriend his new mommy and it feels like a train wreck waiting to happen.
I want to save him from his fate, do you thing there is any salvation for him?
The thing is he doesn't see it. In his head he's on top of the world, the ex womenister who changed his ways and had won the girl of his dreams.
It feels like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
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