My first time getting rejected and it feels horrible

[Delta]

???

i'm mystified.

the ACTUAL, OBVIOUS ANSWER IS THIS:

YOU'RE NOT GOING TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH EVERY WOMAN!

this is like complaining that you lost once at black jack... ! the more you do it, the more you will get rejected too. it is INDEED a statistical numbers game... the more you play, the more likely it is that you rack up both successes and failures.

and there are lots of reasons why that happens, maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she's not in the mood that day, hey, maybe you're not her type - it happens.

confidence is great and it will keep you from sabotaging yourself. but even if your confidence was at a 110%, there's no guarantee it would work with THAT girl at THAT time.

delta

 

[Krassus]

I haven't missed a day on my routine(4 days a week) in 8 months.

VERY impressive!!

 

[ProtoMan1]

^^^.. Well i did see a guy with her and i saw his arm around her when they were sitting down... but i thought he was just a friend and he's just another AFC chump. I'm pretty sure its her first time getting approached by a guy.

I was just feeling a lil shakey inside for some reason im never like that... and my confidence level was at 65% thats what i ment..

This is the one positive that I will say, good job on approaching. Perhaps she does have a boyfriend and does not want creepy horn dog guys hitting on her. Did you think of that??? Which in turn would the the AFC's doing that, and then wondering.. why did she say no.

 

[jack knife]

Good job for trying!

You would feel worse if you saw the girl and hesitated too long and missed her. Kudos for putting your balls on the line!

 

[Qmanchoo]

lol dude that was not a rejection. You want to hear about a rejection? i'll share a little story with you about me...because now I don't care about it and it's a damn funny quick story.

A long time ago when I was hanging out at a very crowded bar with my older brother playing pool. We were also there with a ton of old friends and such, 'the crew' so to speak. The night was late, the music was loud, and we had a few too many drinks. At the time I didn't know much about approaching women or anything but I was ****y so i got it in my head that I was going to walk up to a set of girls a few tables away and with my stumbling drunk charm get her to dance with me.

So i puff my chest up and down the last sip of my drink thinking i'm mr 007 and walk right up to her saying "would you like to dan..."

and BLAM! my "almost cleated" work boot I happened to be wearing absolutely crushes the **** out of her small girly flip flop wearing left foot. Oh no!

It gets better...

She belts out an ungodly scream that was honestly because she was in pain and said "No I wont ****ing dance with you oh my ****ing god!!!" and hobbles over to her table to sit down.

And better...

All my buds and friends including their friends were in ear shot and many of the guys I didn't know started laughing and pointing and such saying "Ohhh look that dude just got rejected hardcore!" and such...

And better...

She had a boyfirend that I didn't notice in my drunken stupor that got fired up and confronted me saying if I didn't get the hell out of here he was going to kick the crap out of me.

SO. No need to feel bad homes. It's all part of the process.

Rejection builds character.

 

[Dayum itz jee]

^^^ Great read.. This is why i love this site.. I heard the funniest thing today when i was with my boys.. "You're the only one here without a girl" i was Cracking up! I told them "How much do you know about me?" (Yea im a real mysterious man ... not even my mom know that much about me")

 

[CraigMack]

In my opinion you did alot of things way wrong:

"Me: Hey whats your name?
Her: *Smiles, I'm <Name> (dont wanna blow up her spot.)
Me: I gotta go right now but i'll like to talk to you again give me a number i "

1. You didn't build any rapport.

2. You didn't build any attraction.

3. It looks like you got scared and bailed out real fast.

4. You cannot possibly see why she wouldn't give out her number to a total stranger. I already saw that you knew about not even offering her a name either.




"can reach you at.
Her: *Continues smiling* Uhmm.... No =\"

At least she was polite about it.


Me: Oh alright, bye

LOL, wow...you bailed alright. Ran total scared program.

What on earth would possess you to go right for a number close without any rapport building?

 

[Anti-Negative]

Think about it like this, if a random girl came up to you, and said the same thing, would you give HER your number? Probably not. I'm no expert with women, but I know if someone came up to me, didn't build any rapport, and asked for my phone number, I would reject them. For all she knows, you're a serial rapist.

 

[TurboOverCubicInches]

Bro, how do you expect her to give you her number, if you didn't even have a conversation with her?

You can't just approach a girl, exchange names, then say "I have to go, can I get your number"?

If a girl came up to me and did that, I'd be like, uhhhhh.....no?

its ok though, learning is life.

And just the fact you approached her, that puts you ahead of 95% of the guys out there.

keep on workin at it!

 

[Dayum itz jee]

^^^ Well ... I was in a hurry

 

[reallyfreakinlost]

This is my first time getting rejected, i have done this lots of times and it always works.. Oh well.. I'm still the man and life goes on...

There is really nothing you could've done that would've changed the situation in my opinion. If you see her again, ask her if she wants to go to a cafe with you, or take a walk with you, something unimportant. I think for this girl, giving out her number is too drastic. To look on the bright side, at least she didn't give you a fake number

 

[Chris Lee]

Most guys and girls who want to approach never say anything for the first million times. Then when they gather enough courage mixed with apathy, they bomb cuz they have too much put into it. "Facial Rejection" is better than not approaching and later feeling rejected from yourself. Good Job Approaching! I've only Cold Approached a couple of times and succeeded but didn't know what the *$!& to do afterward. But there's always a time to learn from your mistakes.

I personally think that u can't expect her to give u her # after saying "Hi, Give me ur phone#" unless ur really good looking. Even then, its hard.