My first "relationship"

[Luke Skywalker]

IThis is mediocre. You should not be settling for an unattractive woman, it will only make your skill with women worse.

I would like to make a quote from Doc's Love Dictionary about Beautiful women, but before I start, I have to say one thing. There are no "beautiful women" prospects that I'm "spiritually compatable" with in my life right now.
Just one person, but we are not "spiritually compatable". However, I'm compatable with this one.

Finding a compatable women, with me, is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Based on the set-up I have here and where I am in life, what my values and beliefs are, (that is I'm not just out to have fun with women, but to be a good Christian and live an exempliary life) doesn't allow me to attract beautiful women to have fun with them.

Going to Doc Love's Dictionary about Beautiful Women, and I quote that he says the following:

Beautiful (Women) Page 19-20

"Beautiful women are the most dangerous creatures on the face of the planet" ---- Doc Love.

"One way or another, a Beautiful Woman always gets her way" -- Sal "The Fish" Love.

"When you get involved with a Beautiful Woman, you have no idea what you're up against." -- General Love.

Can you imagine everyone telling you how cute you are from the day you're born?

Can you imagine boys constantly telling you how pretty you are? Can you imagine every guy you meet telling you how beautiful you are from the time you're seventeen? Can you imagine rich men constantly trying to "buy" you? This gives you some idea of the "problems" of the Beautiful Woman.

Let's say you get lucky and land a Beauty in a long-term relationship. Do you think she will care about YOUR comfort level? Remember, this is a woman who has never heard the word "no", has had everything handed to her on a silver platter, and has never had to give or compromise. Why SHOULD she care about your comfort level? See what our fellow man has created? (He being us, of course).

The key to victory here is power -- being seen with other beautiful women, money, prestige, influence and position -- which intimidates her. If you are ugly and love beautiful women, get a gig on TV, and the Beautiful Woman will overlook your physical shortcomings. Love them, but be EXTREMELY careful if you want to marry one of them. A Beautiful Woman is never a victim in the "battle of the sexes" because she has never been rejected. Remember, the one time a Beautiful Woman doesn't have her way is when she gets a speeding ticket from a gay motorcycle cop!
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Allot of authority in evaluating this woman has been sourced out from the Doc Love Book "The System" (read page 8) of this post. I've read the dating dictionary bible and think that for the most part it makes sence and is a general accurate guage.

For me, my comfort level with a woman IS more important than how a woman looks, and I also believe most of the problems of guys on this board when they start talking about bad experience with girls, are likely going to be from hot girl types.

Physical looks in a woman are VERY important. It's what men have evolved to place huge amounts of value on, saying you don't care is a lie. Deep down inside, you know it.

I understand that according to the dictionary that it would be a bad idea to have a relationship with a beautiful woman (unless it is God-sent), unless I'm rich, powerful, presitigous, or have other beautiful woman in my life (social proof) or have something they can be intimidated by me from.

Now, I believe there are always exceptions to the rule, and even this dating dictionary is not a final authority, but for the time being there are no Beautiful women prospects, and I don't think it's realistic to expect a successful long-term relationship with a beautiful women, that is also compatable with me on all levels, and that's also a flexible-giver that works out.

Again, I believe most of the problems on this board are issues that relate to Beautiful Women. This women I'm seeing now has been well thought out, and objectively too (post #8) using this dating dictionary.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I feel I'll have to wait for a much longer time if I'm going to reject this girl on looks and want a more beautiful woman, and I don't want to wait until I'm 50-60 years old, or whatever to find the right girl to marry that's also very pretty.

 

[playerone]

You clearly do not understand why DJs get the attractive women.

 

[Warrior74]

Definitely a troll.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Definitely a troll.

Sadly, I don't think so.

Luke has tell-tale idiosyncrasies that would be hard for a normal person to replicate.

A normal person (acting as a troll) could easily conceive these stories of Luke, but to actually spell them out and communicate in such a bizzare manner is almost impossible unless you really think the way he does.

I'm not talking about the subjects he writes about. I'm talking about his whole manner of communication. Even answering simple questions.

Even if we were discuss something outside the topic of women. Perhaps something as mundane as the weather. I think it would still be clear Luke has definate problems with normality.

It is clear that Luke is an indivivual who is far outside the societal norm.

 

[CaptainJ]

We cannot help him.

Only good way to solve this problem is to ban him. Let his depressing, messed up posts never darken our towels again.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

You clearly do not understand why DJs get the attractive women.

Getting is one thing. Keeping is another.

I'm not coming across as a dominant confident man and whatever my dad has I have it too, so just fvck it I'm settling with her since I think it's just a sh1t storm otherwise. My father also had a similar issue, he couldn't attract white / "attractive" girls because he was too short and shy. He had money and was successful at this business, but he couldn't attract "attractive" women without paying for sex. A black older women ended up going after him and he just got married. Same thing here, a black woman that's slightly older than I am is also coming after me.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

We cannot help him.

Only good way to solve this problem is to ban him. Let his depressing, messed up posts never darken our towels again.

So far I have been seriously responding to your posts. In post # 8, and in reply to your post I quoted Doc Love "The System" book. So, this is what you say when you people can not come back with an intelligent reply.

If you have a problem with Doc. Love, or what he is saying, since allot of my evaluation and authority is coming from that book, than an intelligent discourse is to either deal with that, or don't bother replying or calling me a troll. If another user quoted something out of Doc Love, then I guess they are taken seriously. Jump in the lake.

 

[pua1989]

wait your mom is a BBW?

 

[Captain]

Getting is one thing. Keeping is another.

You do exactly the same things to keep women as you do to attract them.

There are no "beautiful women" prospects that I'm "spiritually compatable" with in my life right now.
Just one person, but we are not "spiritually compatable". However, I'm compatable with this one.

You need to meet more women.

(that is I'm not just out to have fun with women, but to be a good Christian and live an exempliary life) doesn't allow me to attract beautiful women to have fun with them.

I'm not here to criticise religion, but the bible does NOT teach you how to be an attractive man (generally.)

Let's say you get lucky and land a Beauty in a long-term relationship. Do you think she will care about YOUR comfort level? Remember, this is a woman who has never heard the word "no", has had everything handed to her on a silver platter, and has never had to give or compromise. Why SHOULD she care about your comfort level? See what our fellow man has created? (He being us, of course).

If she is attracted to you, she will care.

For me, my comfort level with a woman IS more important than how a woman looks, and I also believe most of the problems of guys on this board when they start talking about bad experience with girls, are likely going to be from hot girl types.

You shouldn't be compromising, you should be going for the whole package.

I understand that according to the dictionary that it would be a bad idea to have a relationship with a beautiful woman (unless it is God-sent), unless I'm rich, powerful, presitigous, or have other beautiful woman in my life (social proof) or have something they can be intimidated by me from.

Oh no. This is absolutely wrong on so many different levels for so many different reasons. It goes against EVERYTHING we stand for here. You don't need any of those things to get women.

Now, I believe there are always exceptions to the rule, and even this dating dictionary is not a final authority, but for the time being there are no Beautiful women prospects, and I don't think it's realistic to expect a successful long-term relationship with a beautiful women, that is also compatable with me on all levels, and that's also a flexible-giver that works out.

This is why you date multiple women, so you can get the best parts of each of them.

Again, I believe most of the problems on this board are issues that relate to Beautiful Women. This women I'm seeing now has been well thought out, and objectively too (post #8) using this dating dictionary.

Don't follow a system blindly.

According to Doc Love, she fits the criteria perfectly.

You are not Doc Love. He doesn't know her. You can't follow rules blindly.



You don't seem to follow any of the advice here, so giving any more is going to be wasted on you.

 

[Kevin Feng]

I think you got yourself into a sticky situation. Here's the deal, you don't HAVE to be in a relationship.

I remember having a conversation with Asian Playboy about women and dating. Here's the bottom line, if you are high value enough, a women to some degree will be willing to share you.

As an example, take Greg from the show, or Matador or any top PUA out there, they all have multiple G/F's.

You said it yourself, you are not satisfied with this girl by any standard and if that is the case, why are you still with her? You're becoming complacent and you barely even see her.

Game on Brother!

 

[Alle_Gory]

So far I have been seriously responding to your posts. In post # 8, and in reply to your post I quoted Doc Love "The System" book. So, this is what you say when you people can not come back with an intelligent reply.

If you have a problem with Doc. Love, or what he is saying, since allot of my evaluation and authority is coming from that book, than an intelligent discourse is to either deal with that, or don't bother replying or calling me a troll. If another user quoted something out of Doc Love, then I guess they are taken seriously. Jump in the lake.

The fallacy is that you think you have some kind of authority. You do not. Doc Love has authority, you cannot borrow his. You can however quote passages that he writes, but that does not give you his authority. What it does give you is anecdotal evidence for debate.

Authority comes from power or experience, and must be recognized by the persons which you apply authority to. There are no persons recognizing you. Everyone considers you the bottom of the bottom on this forum. If you don't believe me, take a poll. This should give you enough conclusive evidence.

You're not going to do that because you are afraid to hurt that little ego of yours.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

No troll can be this congruent. He's the real deal.

He's the kind of guy losers talk to, to feel better about themselves.

Now I see why you are replying by spewing toxic verbage on every thread.

Why don't you go with your fvck buddy Logical Player and take a hike with him.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Now I see why you are replying by spewing toxic verbage on every thread.

Why don't you go with your fvck buddy Logical Player and take a hike with him.

Hey, I edited that. I got something better.

The truth hurts. I can see I'm on the money based on your reply.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

The truth hurts. I can see I'm on the money based on your reply.

Yeah, that you are a loser who is trolling my threads to feel better about yourself? So you are a loser. Hi loser. Yeah, truth hurts alright.

Anyway, no point taking anything people are replying here seriously. I'll just read over the threads of people crying about how women are playing games with them and then realize what a good girlfriend I have.

 

[pua1989]

bahahhahahaha:box: :box: :box: :box: :box:

 

[Alle_Gory]

Yeah, that you are a loser who is trolling my threads to feel better about yourself? So you are a loser. Hi loser. Yeah, truth hurts alright.

If someone compared me to you, I would feel insulted.

 

[Radharc]

Work on keeping your independence, staying confident, and connected to your Masculinity at all times.
Work on maintaining your self confidence, letting go of anxieties, learn how to be decisive, and maintain your boundaries and what you will and will not tolerate.
Learn how to listen. Learn how to communicate what you want to her.
Learn how to never be a wishy washy, scared wuss.
Learn how to be her MAN.
And learn why you want, and dont want an LTR.
Even if its an LDR , the necessary components still figure.
The fact that it is an LDR isnt the problem if your NEEDS are being met.
What happens is that a lot of guys ARE really too needy and clingy, and are often in relationships where their needs are STILL not met anyway.
There are people who live with each other, but dont love each other and are miserable and lonely with their partner sitting right next to them.

Learn how to choose to be in an LTR and how to say NO.
Learn what you like in an LTR, and what you dont like.

Learn how not to react to her emotional upheavals, and how to manage them and still be calm and be her 'rock'.

Learn how to manage all these things and still keep up with your dreams and plans, and your mission in life.
Let go of insecurities and feeling too vulnerable as your intimacy deepens.
Understand that you cant control how she feels or how she reacts to you.
And understand that sharing your feelings doesnt mean vomit every single experience you have ever had.
Dont make promises you cant keep.
Most of the time, its better to just do it and show her, than talk endlessly about it.

I know theres more, but its late.
Hope this helps a little.
Good luck, Luke.

Great post Interceptor, you could call it the recipe for a sucessfull relationship.

 

[WillPower]

Dude, you came here looking for help. You stated that you were unhappy in your relationship and everyone here pointed out why. If you're unwilling to work on what we believe is the problem, go cry elsewhere.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Dude, you came here looking for help. You stated that you were unhappy in your relationship and everyone here pointed out why. If you're unwilling to work on what we believe is the problem, go cry elsewhere.

In terms of this relationship there are only two choices if I am to listen to any advice here. To "cheat" on her while meeting and looking for another girl WHILE in a long-distance relationship with her, or to break-up with her, and since I"m not going to break-up with her that leaves the first option.