my first real post....

[PokerStar]

alright gang, ive been a lurker of sosuave for the past few years, and first off I would like to thank you for all your insight and challenging advice.

to my point.

I have recently met this HB7.5 through some mutual friends. We met at a party and basically gamed her on the spot. Since we have common friends I sent her a message on facebook, telling her to add me.

She msg me back giving me her phone number and i texted her mine. We have set up a few "dates" and we have gone out a few times, one time at a bar and we had 1 drink each and talked over calimari. kept it brief because, like you guys said, I dont want to reveal everything about myself in the first meeting.

We talk and texted a few times during the course of the week, but I kept it short as well because i dont want this relationship built over texting.

We both agreed to meet up late night last saturday, for a drink since we were both in the dowtown area and I wanted to escalate the attraction also to guage where was her interst level.

We meet up at a bar, I asked her if she has seen the show Keys to the VIP and she did say yes. I asked why? and she gave me this answer.

"I want to see, how guys work their game"

Poker Star "Has it ever workd on you?"

HB7.5 - "Well not really, usually you can tell if the guy is being sincere or he is just there to pick you up"

PokerStar - "How can you tell if the guy is sincere?"

HB7.5 - "You can usually tell right away. Just becasue I give them my number, doesnt mean Im going to pick their call or even return it. It just depends on how real they are"

Pokerstar "So what it is about me, made you decide to return my message on facebook, you could of just ignored. What sparked your interest?"

HB7.5 - "There was something about you thats real, you dont seem fake at all. Plus we have mutual friends in common so that gives you a background."

Pokerstar -"very intersting"

We leave the bar to head on home, since it was getting a little late. I told her that I will contact her in the next few days to see whats up and maybe set a 3rd date.

I havent talked to her for 4 days but now she has been texting me asking what Im doing or just saying hello. i have not responded to these texts.

My question is, am i playing this right? We are both going to the same party thursday night and Im going for the ultiamte kino action that night.

any word of advice or questions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks guys.

 

[DJDamage]

Everything seemed ok until you asked her this:

Pokerstar "So what it is about me, made you decide to return my message on facebook, you could of just ignored. What sparked your interest?"

I would avoid asking questions like that on chicks you haven't fvcked yet. As a matter of fact I would have avoided asking this question all together.

Why?

A) You inadvertly let her know that she has more value then you.

B) The best kind of dating is when you don't go into verbal details as to why stuff are happening between the two of you because it will make a woman second guess herself instead of going with the flow. Its like asking a girl "what kind of guys are you into" or "are we going to fvck tonight?" it kinda ruins the magic.

However I am nitpicking here and thus far things seemed ok for you. The only thing that is missing from your details are the sexual escalation from date to date. A good indicator of a successful date from one to the next is how much you sexually escalalate and her reception to your escalation.

 

[PokerStar]

thank you mr. damage.

the first time we met up. I made sure that I had eye contact when making certain points on subjects we talked about.

When I make her laugh she always touches me, wether it been my arms or my back, even my neck. After each time meet up I make sure i give her a peck on her lips.

i have done the passionate kiss yet, but Ill be looking to do that next time we meet up.

I thought I was being creative with the "what sparked your interest" question, beacue I wanted to conjour up her feelings and remind her why she is talking to me in the first place. i guess it was a boner move on my part.

While I'm typing she just sent me anohter text saying hello.

Anyway, is there any other way to escalate the sexual tension?

 

[Mr. Me]

She gave you her phone number without you asking for it - that's usually a sign of high interest to begin with.

DON'T talk about game with women.

DON'T ask questions like, "so, what was it about me that appealed to you?" because it signals that you want your ego stroked - and that signals insecurity to a woman. Just take it as a given that you appeal. In time, she'll let you know what she likes about you.

DON'T tell them you're going to call and "maybe set up a date". Just let them wonder if you're going to call. Let them wonder if you like them. They love a challenge.

But don't totally ignore her calls, that's rude. Call back the next day.

Escalate with push-pull.

Should've gone for the kiss when you saw her again, at the end of the night.

Good call on not building a relationship by text, IMO. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dX3ws6OnGuE

 

[PokerStar]

Thank you Mr. Me.

i'm still learning and all this advice has helped me focus a little more.

My afc would like to come back from the dead but a proper excorsism will keep myself in tact.

anyway, push pull will be on the top of my list and escalating more kino to set up a kiss is on the agenda as well.

 

[BudBundi]

So how has this turned out since the 25th?

 

[PokerStar]

dont have time to post everything but some crazy stuff happened that night. will fill on details when i get home from work.