My first *REAL* date

[killerasp]

okay..first timer here. I invited a girl over for movie and some wine. I already hooked up with this on saturday at club. The vibes were strong btw us so i know it the feeling was mutual..

i need some tips on what i should do. Someone suggested that along with the movie i should "offer her a massage" and take it from there. And through the massage, make my move and kiss her.

Im just wondering what you guys would do if you were in my boots. What movie should i rent, food, wine? Im just not sure yet i will get laid, but i might get far.....

 

[Julian]

Ok have chocolates around. For a movie, rent something scary.

Have plenty of wine, keep her glass full, its only common courtesy


Just use plenty of kino, set the mood so she knows what shes in for. Dont be overly friendly, be seductive ya heard.

 

[killerasp]

do you guys think this is a good *first date*? i wanted to do an action-date type of thing, but the weather sucks and there is noething to do in syracuse.

 

[Broadband]

Movies and Action Dates

Not great for first dates because there is not much of an opportunity for uninturrupted conversation. You'll be too busy doing the activity or watching the movie.

There are exceptions. Movies @ home are better then theater because you can ignore it without feeling ripped off. You don't have to worry about being disturbed, and you aren't forced to leave. At the end of a movie you have to leave giving her an opportunity to pull the "it's late" card. If your at your house there isn't that transition. And like the others say you can do light drinking but I wouldn't recommend much for a first date.

I'm having a girl over for a movie. I already talked to her at a coffee shop for a good hour so alot of the formalities and initial questions are gone. Now since we already know alot about her, the movie gives me a perfect opportunity to kino her the entire evening. KINO IS NOT SNUGGLING. Your kino has to keep her intrested and almost forgetting about the movie. Rub your hand on her lower thigh and move it slowly during the movie. Keep making as much progress as she'll let you and by the end of the movie she'll be very aroused. Chocolates are a good idea just cause girls love to snack on sweets, but make sure they are already on the table and not given to her as a gift.

I think that's pretty much all i can think of.

 

[jakethasnake]

Dayum,

It took you 700+ posts and a year and a half (look at your registration date) to set up a FIRST EVER date?? Glad you finally got the ball rollin' bro.


Btw, you're that whitewashed Korean fella, right? I think you chipped in here and there when I started a commotion about Asian-related issues way back when, and flamers jumped in on me. Well, I hope it goes well for you, let us know how it goes.


Btw, why don't you go to Carousel Mall and watch a movie with her? There are way more things to do in Syracuse than in many other places in Upstate New York (ANNOUNCEMENT -- the government should NUKE EVERYTHING outside of NYC in New York State!!! ).... You can do all the talking and playing while going window-shopping, then take her to see a great flick that you'll both enjoy. I dont' buy into this sosuave.com crap about movies being bad first dates. It's only bad if that's the FIRST THING YOU DO. You need to create a rapport, walk around, get some kino in. Then go cuddle up in a movie theater.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
Dayum,

It took you 700+ posts and a year and a half (look at your registration date) to set up a FIRST EVER date?? Glad you finally got the ball rollin' bro.


Btw, you're that whitewashed Korean fella, right? I think you chipped in here and there when I started a commotion about Asian-related issues way back when, and flamers jumped in on me. Well, I hope it goes well for you, let us know how it goes.


Btw, why don't you go to Carousel Mall and watch a movie with her? There are way more things to do in Syracuse than in many other places in Upstate New York (ANNOUNCEMENT -- the government should NUKE EVERYTHING outside of NYC in New York State!!! ).... You can do all the talking and playing while going window-shopping, then take her to see a great flick that you'll both enjoy. I dont' buy into this sosuave.com crap about movies being bad first dates. It's only bad if that's the FIRST THING YOU DO. You need to create a rapport, walk around, get some kino in. Then go cuddle up in a movie theater.

thanks jake, i love you too!

im actually chinese but close enough.

well, it isnt the first time we did stuff. She had a wine and cheese party and that went very well for me along with hooking up with her last week at the club.

I think the dinner and a movie at my place would be great rapport. Some wine to get things flowing and then for the killer massage afterwords which should really do her in.

 

[WillieSacks]

I always hear about movies and action dates being a bad idea. I always go to the movies but my best first date Idea would be to go out for some Ice Cream right, and then as you get the Ice cream, don't sit down in the Ice cream parlor but take the girl out for a walk around the shopping center or park or where ever you two are at during the time and have a nice convo out there. Everyone loves Ice Cream and it's cheap. Not more that $10 bucks.

After that, if the convo is going smooth, (her agreeing or laughing at what you say basically) you two can go to your place or hers to watch a movie and cuddle up. If the rapport is good, then go for the kiss close.

Sometimes I tend to act like a biitch and don't go in for the kiss until the 2nd or 3rd date.

For example, if it's a short 1st date, I hug on the first date, kiss at the end of the second date, if it doesn't end at my house, then heavy making out on the 3rd date in my apt, her house or in my car.

 

[echo1212]

Wait killer, you've posted over 700 times offering advice to guys in search of the "light" and you've never ever been on a real date? Oh my.

 

[Blaaaaat]

Very strange indeed...

 

[Knicknack]

i just want to chip in on the 700+ posts and not going on a date thing. i wonder how many members here are also in his shoes. we don't need people just regurgitating the DJ bible and pretending to know sh|t. experience is really the only way to learn. then you pass on your experiences and it helps us.

 

[WillieSacks]

Originally posted by Knicknack
experience is really the only way to learn. then you pass on your experiences and it helps us.

True, I didn't come to this site for 2 years and just came back recently and have learned more from life experience than I could have ever learned from being here everyday reading every single thread and asking questions.

But was Killerasp actually giving advice in those other 700+ posts b/c from a lot of the posts I see from him, he's usually asking questions and asking for advice, not pretending to be a knowitall or whatever?

 

[bman]

girls that come over for a movie and dinner usually want some d*ck. cook something nice, girls love a guy who can cook.

 

[MindNsoul]

This is your first date, so try not to make it look like it is.
I expect and predict that you'll be nervous so here's a few words of advice.

1. If you plan to cook, start the meal but allow her to come in and help you finish it this allows you two to work together and have some type of activity. = active involvement

2. If you plan to do a movie, Know which movie you want to do and take her to the video store but don't ask her what she wants when you get there and after a few minutes of looking around GIVER HER 2 or 3 OPTIONS that you've already selected in you mind before the date. = Masculin athority

3. And since this is your first date bro, like I said I think you're going to be too damn nervous to handle this so you might have to do the "something about mary trick" and have a few drinks before she gets there (don't get drunk like an idiot) crack the wine before she gets there or have you own stash.


4. Also I suspect you have little experiance getting laid so try and get it out of you mind untill she gives you sings, like she touches you first. Other than a welcome hug, try not to touch her at all, worry about making her relaxed and get her laughing and smiling, that alone should make her touch you if she has any real interest. pretend she has the kudies and DON'T TOUCH HER..


5. And honestly I think the wine thing is a littel too much for a first date. that's some "special celebration" type sh!t dude. dude you're 20 and in college so If you plan to drink or get her buzzed I recomend something cool like Zimas or a case of Smirnoff, the wine thing looks out of your leag for a college student..

 

[MindNsoul]

BUMP

 

[killerasp]

calm down guys, its seems like everyone is attacking me for some reason.

i know i have 700+ posts, but how does this make me the enemy? i come here to help to give people advice where i can and ask questions when i dont know certain things. just b/c i have 700+ posts doesnt mean that im a know it all god or something, im am far from that. there is so much more that i need to learn b/c i am progressing alot these last 2 months. I am experiencing many things that i never previously experienced before. i never said, "oh, i layed 30 women last month" then come back asking how to kiss a girl.

for those that think that i should have multiple 3-somes b/c i reach that 700+ post level are thinking the wrong way. while we are all here to learn as much as we can, we can only progress so far in certain situations.

yes, its my *first real date*. so what. dont hate. just try to help me so it doesnt end up like the crappy first date that i hear people have all the time.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by MindNsoul
5. And honestly I think the wine thing is a littel too much for a first date. that's some "special celebration" type sh!t dude. dude you're 20 and in college so If you plan to drink or get her buzzed I recomend something cool like Zimas or a case of Smirnoff, the wine thing looks out of your leag for a college student..

good stuff with 1-4. but when it comes to wine, i fairly knowledgeable in selecting a fine wine that doesnt mean $$$. I brought 2 bottles of Germain reisling whihc cost $7 each and she loved it. Thats what i plan on getting this time around.

 

[echo1212]

Lol were not hating beleive me. Were just questioning the validity of someones advice who doesn't have alot of personal experience when it comes to women. Don't take it personally, it just seemed kind of odd to see you create this thread after all of your previous posts.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by echo1212
Lol were not hating beleive me. Were just questioning the validity of someones advice who doesn't have alot of personal experience when it comes to women. Don't take it personally, it just seemed kind of odd to see you create this thread after all of your previous posts.

many of the previous posts that i made were more "what if it happened" so i would be prepared for it. alot of the times, i would hook up wiht someone at a party or whatever, but i didnt care for anything afterwords in terms of relationship or whatever. But now that im looking at this girl with more interest than the others, is making me think and ask alot of questions that i didnt know the answer to.

 

[jakethasnake]

Give the kid some slack. He's right, it's no big deal. Just RELAX, and have a good time. If you keep treating her like a best bud, you will notice that she will get progressively flirtier and amorous with you, if she likes you. That's when you should grab her hand (if you're walking together side by side) or look her in the eye, or smile and touch her face (if you're sitting down on a couch, for example. If the response is good after this and she looks you right back and smiles, slowly move in for the kiss.

 

[uniassign]

If you are planning to give her a massage, make her earn it, otherwise it is too much of a come-on tactic and she will refuse it.