phil2015
Senior Don Juan
My experiences with a Narcissits;
As for my recent posts, I’ve recently split from an ex after 8 months and I’ve
learnt of the numerous red flags that Narcissism carries. Upon doing some
research I’ve realised that my ex was in fact a full blown Narc and I’ve decided
to post these here for your observations. I’ve never met or dealt with a woman
like this before and feel I should make others aware of some typical behavioural
traits, as listed before.
1) Argumentative - She would literally argue over nothing, and the slightest
word/action/look out of place would result in a full blown row. She could go
from calm and placid, to raging with anger in 1 second flat, such was her mood swings.
After a while, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and was playing conversational
Minesweeper! She even confessed that she had started arguments with her exes to
‘brighten things up’ but to my shame I overlooked this red flag.
2) Unable to accept responsibility – This girl would often reject responsibilities over
anything and everything, especially her own actions. Her moods-wings, aggression and
outbursts were due to me ‘winding her up’. She would often flip things around and blame
me for any problems which arose. She even tried to make me go to counselling rather than
accept that she had issues, and stated that everything going wrong between us was my fault.
3) Double standards – Our relationship was full of times where she would set down a rule
And expect me to abide by it, only for her to break the same rule later on. She attempted to set
me a rule in MY OWN HOUSE that I wasn’t able to take my phone into the toilet, as she was convinced
I was texting someone else in there. It was however okay for her to take hers in there whenever she
wanted.
4) Lack of a Past – My ex had no past contacts. The reason being, anyone from work, her exes, life had long since discarded her and decided they wanted nothing to do with her.
5) Constantly falling out with people - As with me, her relationships with people at work were especially turbulent and she was constantly getting into verbal fights and fallouts with her boss and colleagues.
6) Projection – She used to project everything that was going wrong onto me, and she would mentally imagine and envisage things going wrong. It was like she was unable to accept reality and didn’t know the basic fundamentals of how to act as a person. One day I was driving when she rang up screaming down the phone, and demanding that I came to her place. Upon arrival, she had found a pink hair from one on my niece’s troll dolls on a hairbrush and was convinced that I had had been cheating on her with a punk girl from work. I hadn't imagined she had cheated on me until recently, when looking through our laptop search history she had searched for 'I don't regret cheating'
This was alesson hard-gained and I hope this can help others from being affected by a similar type of woman
Much Love
Phil
As for my recent posts, I’ve recently split from an ex after 8 months and I’ve
learnt of the numerous red flags that Narcissism carries. Upon doing some
research I’ve realised that my ex was in fact a full blown Narc and I’ve decided
to post these here for your observations. I’ve never met or dealt with a woman
like this before and feel I should make others aware of some typical behavioural
traits, as listed before.
1) Argumentative - She would literally argue over nothing, and the slightest
word/action/look out of place would result in a full blown row. She could go
from calm and placid, to raging with anger in 1 second flat, such was her mood swings.
After a while, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and was playing conversational
Minesweeper! She even confessed that she had started arguments with her exes to
‘brighten things up’ but to my shame I overlooked this red flag.
2) Unable to accept responsibility – This girl would often reject responsibilities over
anything and everything, especially her own actions. Her moods-wings, aggression and
outbursts were due to me ‘winding her up’. She would often flip things around and blame
me for any problems which arose. She even tried to make me go to counselling rather than
accept that she had issues, and stated that everything going wrong between us was my fault.
3) Double standards – Our relationship was full of times where she would set down a rule
And expect me to abide by it, only for her to break the same rule later on. She attempted to set
me a rule in MY OWN HOUSE that I wasn’t able to take my phone into the toilet, as she was convinced
I was texting someone else in there. It was however okay for her to take hers in there whenever she
wanted.
4) Lack of a Past – My ex had no past contacts. The reason being, anyone from work, her exes, life had long since discarded her and decided they wanted nothing to do with her.
5) Constantly falling out with people - As with me, her relationships with people at work were especially turbulent and she was constantly getting into verbal fights and fallouts with her boss and colleagues.
6) Projection – She used to project everything that was going wrong onto me, and she would mentally imagine and envisage things going wrong. It was like she was unable to accept reality and didn’t know the basic fundamentals of how to act as a person. One day I was driving when she rang up screaming down the phone, and demanding that I came to her place. Upon arrival, she had found a pink hair from one on my niece’s troll dolls on a hairbrush and was convinced that I had had been cheating on her with a punk girl from work. I hadn't imagined she had cheated on me until recently, when looking through our laptop search history she had searched for 'I don't regret cheating'
This was alesson hard-gained and I hope this can help others from being affected by a similar type of woman
Much Love
Phil
