My ex lets me know she's now single - convo

[skinnydart]

3 months ago my ex broke up with me for another guy. I took it like a man and basicly said ok, whatever and went on my way... actually "ok, have a nice life" were my exact words, then I never contacted her again.

So now I get an IM from her...

(She's talking about one of her guy-friends she hangs out with)
Her: sometimes its smothering though
Her: he always wants me to call him
Her: and tell him every detail of my life
Her: parts i dont normally share w/ anyone
Me: Brandon (the guy she left me for) must love this guy
Her: he hated him
Her: but brandon and i arnt together anymore
Her: i broke it off
Me: what happened
Her: brandon was jealous of everyone almost
Her: even u
Her: any one that would steal my attention
Me: and I did that?
Me: O
Her: yes
Her: that was wrong
Her: i knew u would say that
Her: lol
Me: so I was stealing your attention even after you guys got together? I was confused because after she broke it off with me, I never contacted her once
Her: i still thought about you
Her: between u and me
Her: i should have never dated him
(I felt like saying 'I told you so')
Me: well hey, I'm sorry... so how are you handling the whole thing?
Her: im good
Her: i know thats wrong but im good
Her: i did the breaking up
Her: he calls me still. He text messaged me the other night and asked if he "could have me back yet"
Her: and he left a voicemail and asked the same thing
Her: i called him back and told him i meant what i said and i needed to b single
Her: and i told him stop leaving messages like that
(I'm not bragging but: A perfect contrast between a DJ and a classic AFC)
Me: hmm
Her: yep
Her: so how have u been
Her: i hope work is going well
Her: as well as your social life
(I assume she's trying to get me to tell her if I found another gf over the summer)
Me: o they're both doing pretty well...

So now she's posting on my xanga, e-mailing me, stuff like that. I'm not sure if I should just stand firm and basicly say "no, you had your chance with me" or if I can give her another chance without handing her my balls.

 

[MindOverMatter]

It's up to you man. If you wanna get back together with her, it's yours for the taking.

However keep in mind, she ditched you for another guy, does she deserve to be rewarded for that with ANOTHER chance to be with you? Sure this guy was a loser, but what about next time? Do you really wanna be with a girl that will leave you as soon as another option comes? Do you wanna be like a lapdog she comes back to after she's done slu*ting it up with other guys?

This isn't a choice anyone can make for you. You have 2 options here, and it's up to you to decide which one you want more.

If it was me, I wouldn't take her back.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

No offence, but I'm glad I'm not 17.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

I have to agree with MindOverMatter. There's many options and many possibilities of why she's acting this way:

1. She regrets what she did, she realized that the dude she was with wasn't even close to being like you and she feels like a dumb btch for dumping you.

2. The guy dumped her (which is what i am thinking because girls do not tend to say who broke up with who and why) now she's lonely and she wants the attention from you and even more because it's like a game, she just wants to know if she can get you back.

3. She did the dumping, she's lonely, hasn't met anyone else new so she just wants to go for you again meanwhile she finds someone better and gets rid of you again.

Walk away, don't get into this mess again, it's not worth it and chances are that she'll do it all over again if you guys get back together because you are lletting her know that it's ok for her to do this whole sht...

 

[Interpol]

Going back to her now would be like a woman going back with a man who has beaten her.

You can try and justify it however you want..."Oh, but she's realized she was wrong"...."Oh, but she swears she would never leave me again"

WRONG. Odds are the only things she realized is that she's single and you're available. Odds are she will leave you again, as soon as some other guy catches her eye.

Just move on, for real. There's plenty of women out there, no reason to stay hung up on this one.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

I'd rail her and then stop calling her.



But that's just me.

 

[snintel]

His AFCness sends your value much higher.

She wants you back.

Don't let her get you back. She wants the chase. Go hot/cold so she doesnt just give up... but don't let her get with you easy.. make it interesting.

 

[themanwithnoname]

heartlessbtch is right on the money, all she possibly wants is your attention - don't give into that, if she really wanted to be with you she'd ask you out.

 

[seagull]

Don't go back. Keek your dignity and let her live with regret.

 

[cave dweller]

on.........

Hey,

Move on....

Fvck that bytch........

'Lots of fish in the sea'.

Next!


cave dweller

 

[BrotherAP]

I could tell you all about how I constantly ignore my ex, but the details would be too boring and you'd miss the point - which is that you are here to learn how to pick up chicks, so you must feel you are lacking in this department. A committed relationship will stall your progress. Is she worth putting your life on hold for?

 

[green69]

If you want to get back together with her, let her make the effort.