My ex is toying with me....i want to slap her around

[rutgersman]

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Guys-
I only dated this woman for a month. I liked her a lot. But we got into stupid fight one night and she blew me off. Since then I have moved on, but for the last 8 months she has been toying with my emotions. She sometimes calls me once a month and leaves messages and write short emails..asking me how i am and how things are going?, etc, i have asked her out a few times..but she ignores my emails when I do ask her out. So i figured I would move on and forget about her. But when I do forget about her...she calls me or sends me an email.
Then she comes to my hotel job one day for a sporting event and calls me and tells me she is here at the hotel and would like to see me. Then when i called her back on her cell she blows me off. Doesnt answer her cellphone.
She came to my hotel job again 3 days ago for a bridal shower and she asks the manager at the front desk if I was working. Then when I walk to the ballroom area of the hotel---I see her and she is walking towards me----and she ignores me! I hadnt seen her in months and she does this to me?

I sent her an email asking her why she stalks me? She has acknowledged my email but she wont open it to read it. It says "Unread." WHAT IS HER DEAL? Does she hate men? Why is she this mean? I Know she is playing games. Its kind of charming, but stupid. I get angry. Sometimes i get the feeling that I want to slap her.

I am trying to move on with my life but she gets in touch with me every month or so and i feel pulled back in.
I did send her an email today....and told her "she looked worn out when i saw her......have a nice life"
I know it was dumb. But it was closure for me and shows her she isnt that cute anyway. For some reason women respond to negative abuse a lot more than flowers and positive stuff.. I did send her an email last week and told her "when she can pull her panties up over her ankles maybe we will talk some other time." Three days later she shows up at my job asking about me. Crazy!

Shows you how messed up women are sometimes.


Steve

 

[Socialreject]

So, basically, everytime you try to game her she flakes...

I suggest you start using a basic "rule" for howmany times you allow flakes. Make it 2 or 3 max... after that you DO NOT make anymore moves and next her, permanently...

The only way she gets back on your social agenda is if she calls you, sets up a date, and then fvcks you. Anything less than that and she is just playing with your head, and you can't let her get away with that.

Stop dealing in "maybe", "possibly" or some other needy crap. Until you learn to make more acurate judgements, set a rule for yourself... and stick to it!

 

[typical]

hmm me thinks me loves you social, in the non gay way ofcourse LOL, but man some of your advice has been very good keep it up.

 

[rutgersman]

she flaked twice

I already had sex with her once on the first date....then a hand job on second date.....

some kissing on third...then we got into fight and ended it. I moved on ..but she kept bugging me Not wanting to go out) but just to stay in touch.

Im nexting her...but problem is she will show up at my job..im ready to say to her "LEAVE ME ALONE BIITCH!"

 

[Socialreject]

No...

Just ignore her! She is most likely just after attention, so stop giving it to her.

NOONE has the right to show up at your job and start asking about you, that's bull. Tell the guy at the reception NOT to give out any info on you. That includes whether or not you are there.

If she has caller id off then simply have her number blocked if she keeps calling you. If she doesn't just don't pick up. Block her email...

Should be pretty easy to get her out of your life! Unless she is a total psycho (in which case you might have a problem on your hands), she should get the picture soon enough.

And hey, in the unlikely event that she actually does want to "make it up to you" (by taking you out and fvcking you), there are still plenty of ways to get in touch with you face to face and ask you out... so don't worry ;-)

 

[rutgersman]

ok thanks socialreject

 

[Hitman10000]

Let me get some things straight:

1. You got into a stupid fight, and she blew you off. Can you tell me more about this fight so I can understand what's going on?

2. For 8 months, you and her have been playing some weird cat and mouse game. (Not good of any healthy relationship whatsoever)

3. Perhaps this woman may be crazy, but you don't seem to put any blame on it for yourself whether your continual interaction perpetuates the insanity between the both of you or she is purposely wanting to make your life hell. Blaming women or even this woman isn't going to answer to the real question I have for you: If she's so crazy, why do you keep talking to her?

 

[KarmaSutra]

I agree with shooter here this stupid broad is still brain fvcking you because

YOU ALLOW IT AND LET IT FESTER

My suggestion is to give the cvnt two options: 1. Cvm all over her eyes and then have her bring you peanut butter pie to bed. 2. You line up whatever buddies or degenerate guys you know and tell her that you want to see her "air tight". B!tch should leave you alone.

 

[rutgersman]

She comes to my job....after i send her an email "when she can pull her panties up over her ankles....we will talk some other time."

then she shows up at my job asking about me... Then i see her and she walks right by me and ignores me...WTF! Thats wrong!

She has been playing me for 8 months like that! When we went out...She flat out abused me! She showed up late for dates....made me feel like less of a man when with her by talking in her phone...insulted me about my friends and not being successful in life...made me pay for her dinners.....I was a total sucker....but emotion cloused my reason because I was very attracted to her because she had her own business and we both loved real estate..and it was nice knowing she was educated and had things going on...we went out for a while few months, had sex, and did things together.

The after she blew me off after a big fight over somethign so stupid,..plus she wanted to take things to the next level because she asked me to see photos albums of my family and asked why i didnt take her to the christmas party...which was weird because she had blown me off prior over thanksgiving and said her cell phone got stolen..just lying crap assume!

Then she started calling and not leaving messages....calling and telling me about wine tasting events...and not inviting me...(thats what we used to do)...then emailing me asking me how im doing" and not wanting to see me.
I am not going to let a girl toy with me like that.

This time i set her straight. I sent an email that said..."You are looking worn out...you aren't looking cute these days. What happened to you? Get some rest."

She just deleted my emails and I am so happy and relieved. She finally akknowledged them.
Some verbal abuse sometimes sets crazy women straight. I was told by a friend to send her flowers because she is mad at me for being a player. I said HELL NO! !!

Its sad because I really liked this woman because of her family values, hard work ethic, she was college educated, and she was decent looking....at least I thought so..but she totally humilated me and made me feel like a wuss. She made me feel like a wussy because I was into her. When you fall hard for a girl....which is very rare.....you get weak in the knees. SO it is my fault for letting myself get like that. Never again.

Steve

 

[iwant]

don't be an idiot follow the advice above....why the fcuk would you want to see her or email her listen to what socialreject said .... you said you have a thing for this girl now ask this question... do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this psycho immature btich? I can tell you she will probably put cyanide in ur coffee or somthing before you know it. find someone else ****head....:trouble: