its obviously taylor swift by the way.
but yes, frame is huge here. you need to treat her like you treated her back then. i always think its funny when guys deal with models, or stars, and don't get me wrong, its very easy to slip into it, but as an actor i've learned how to avoid it i guess.
Stars like that don't walk around thinking in their head, I'm a ****ing star...Well maybe kanye does. She walks around like a normal person.
If you come back into her life, in a confident, manly fashion, she will not think, i bet he wants my money. After all the reason you left was noble, you were defending our country. It's not like you nailed her, left then came back for her fame.
So come back in the frame. Swing by her house and say hey, i'm back, and we're going to dinner to catch up. I'll give you 5 minutes to get ready. Treat her like you'd have treated her before she was a star, because that's what she wants.
Any other questions feel free to ask. Of course this is just my two cents, but I think you'll find it will help.