Hi,
This is my first post in the forum, hope my post topic is in the correct place. I have been reading some stuff about seduction and I tried to apply this, however I still have to learn a lot. Let my tell you my story:
Background: I am a 31 years old guy, I am in very good shape (I play sport in semi-professional league), I am handsome, tall, have studies (phd and master) and I'd say people consider me as a "high level guy". As a drawback, I still live with my parents and I am somehow a nice guy. I have been with several girls, however I have not had too much serious girlfriends.
And here my problem comes: I met a girl the 9 months ago, I got in love with her, she is really independent and have one relationship of 7 years, after that she was dating (and ****ing) with a guy 3 months, and then myself. Everything was going well. She introduced me her parents, her family and all her friends from different cities. We have been together six months. I always noticed things like "I cannot go today, what about tomorrow", but she was in love with me. She works a lot and has some stomachal problems, that made me think I should adapt to her, and that is what I did. Starting from this january she begun to be more distant and I noticed that. Then, after a weekend where she went with her friends outside, I told her what was the problem and she told me "the relationship was rising, but now is freezed", then I said "Ok, this is the end I guess", after talking a little bit more I hugged her and I have to admit I cried.
The next days I felt really really bad and i wrote her that I think I should tell her some things. I told her that I love her and bla bla, and she told me it was not my problem, it was about her. And I said ok. Starting from that day I begun my no contact, she wrote me just once "how are you?" and i asked very dry "im fine thanks". So, as the days were passing I could not leave my thinking about her, I always asked myself "what would have happened if i wasnt left her". Then I could not afford this situation and 2 days ago I wrote her about meeting her, she accepted.
What surprised me is that she did not care about meeting in her village (she lives in a village) and "show me" there with her. Surprisingly to me, it seems she is not dating no one. After some conversations about our families, I told her "Ok, i guess you know why i am here, first: we have been with no contact more than two months and I think now you will have clear your mind, have you missed me?", she answered "yes, i have missed you a lot, and i have thought a lot about it. It's me, I passed from a situation with my previous bf where I have to adapt him to everything, now i want to be free, I feel stressed when someone wants to do something with me". Then I said "Ok, then just tell me Ethann, this is the end, there is nothing else to do", and she doubt , she said she is confused and she need time, I told (not directly) that we would deal with time, but she said no, that was not good for her nor for me. Then I insisted "then say to me this is the end" and she told me "this is the end". She also told me she left her bf. So I walked with her to her house and I insisted "tell me NO again, and she told me NO".
So, on the positive side I feel much more better now. Just a small advice to you all that are suffering: If you feel you have to do something, DO IT, face it. Go and tell her what you have to tell, don't cry and don't beg. Then, next days your mind will tell you "Ok, you got a NO but you tried". And try just once. Now I am beginning again the no contact.
And my questions: I really felt she was telling my the truth, this may be an exception, but 99 % i'd say she is not dating with any guy, strange, but true. She even told me "my mother says i will be alone." ¿Why do you think guys she lost interest on me, do you think she has a problem due to her past relationship?, also, what do you think my behaviour should be starting from now? and, how would you have behaved with her?
Thank you for reading my post, any suggestion will be very welcomed.
-E
This is my first post in the forum, hope my post topic is in the correct place. I have been reading some stuff about seduction and I tried to apply this, however I still have to learn a lot. Let my tell you my story:
Background: I am a 31 years old guy, I am in very good shape (I play sport in semi-professional league), I am handsome, tall, have studies (phd and master) and I'd say people consider me as a "high level guy". As a drawback, I still live with my parents and I am somehow a nice guy. I have been with several girls, however I have not had too much serious girlfriends.
And here my problem comes: I met a girl the 9 months ago, I got in love with her, she is really independent and have one relationship of 7 years, after that she was dating (and ****ing) with a guy 3 months, and then myself. Everything was going well. She introduced me her parents, her family and all her friends from different cities. We have been together six months. I always noticed things like "I cannot go today, what about tomorrow", but she was in love with me. She works a lot and has some stomachal problems, that made me think I should adapt to her, and that is what I did. Starting from this january she begun to be more distant and I noticed that. Then, after a weekend where she went with her friends outside, I told her what was the problem and she told me "the relationship was rising, but now is freezed", then I said "Ok, this is the end I guess", after talking a little bit more I hugged her and I have to admit I cried.
The next days I felt really really bad and i wrote her that I think I should tell her some things. I told her that I love her and bla bla, and she told me it was not my problem, it was about her. And I said ok. Starting from that day I begun my no contact, she wrote me just once "how are you?" and i asked very dry "im fine thanks". So, as the days were passing I could not leave my thinking about her, I always asked myself "what would have happened if i wasnt left her". Then I could not afford this situation and 2 days ago I wrote her about meeting her, she accepted.
What surprised me is that she did not care about meeting in her village (she lives in a village) and "show me" there with her. Surprisingly to me, it seems she is not dating no one. After some conversations about our families, I told her "Ok, i guess you know why i am here, first: we have been with no contact more than two months and I think now you will have clear your mind, have you missed me?", she answered "yes, i have missed you a lot, and i have thought a lot about it. It's me, I passed from a situation with my previous bf where I have to adapt him to everything, now i want to be free, I feel stressed when someone wants to do something with me". Then I said "Ok, then just tell me Ethann, this is the end, there is nothing else to do", and she doubt , she said she is confused and she need time, I told (not directly) that we would deal with time, but she said no, that was not good for her nor for me. Then I insisted "then say to me this is the end" and she told me "this is the end". She also told me she left her bf. So I walked with her to her house and I insisted "tell me NO again, and she told me NO".
So, on the positive side I feel much more better now. Just a small advice to you all that are suffering: If you feel you have to do something, DO IT, face it. Go and tell her what you have to tell, don't cry and don't beg. Then, next days your mind will tell you "Ok, you got a NO but you tried". And try just once. Now I am beginning again the no contact.
And my questions: I really felt she was telling my the truth, this may be an exception, but 99 % i'd say she is not dating with any guy, strange, but true. She even told me "my mother says i will be alone." ¿Why do you think guys she lost interest on me, do you think she has a problem due to her past relationship?, also, what do you think my behaviour should be starting from now? and, how would you have behaved with her?
Thank you for reading my post, any suggestion will be very welcomed.
-E
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