I'll try to keep this as short as possible, but background info is necessary: CLIFF NOTES would be: dated a girl for 4 months, she moved home for summer, comming back this fall. Most everything she's said I honestly can't believe. We stopped communicating, but just recently she emailed me. What should my plan of action be?
Dated a girl from Jan-03 till University was done in May-03. We had a great time. Amazing girl. Never fought. When school was done she was moving back home (8hrs away) for the summer + wanted to break up with me.
She didn't know what would happen in the fall. Didn't want to tell me anything. I finally got this out of her: I am the most amazing guy she ever met + she knows she'll never find a better guy. She'd pick me out of all other ppl on earth to live on a desert island with, BUT, she also said as hard as she tried she could never fall in love with me. I never told her i loved her, but said with time, it *may* happen. She gave me all sorts of excuses like she thought she still might be in love with her ex, she was confused about life (school, family, guys), but she also claimed she never said she'd *never* fall in love with me. It sounds like i might have been pressuring her, but i was not at all. I personally think she was holding back our whole relationship b/c she knew she'd be moving home for the summer.
I also find out just 2 days before she moved, she hung out at a party with some guy all night, drove him home, and he went to kiss her but she backed off and said she couldn't do it (b/c of me). I feel she was trying to find someone to get her mind off me, but couldn't go through with her plan.
For 3 weeks we argued over the phone + email, things got pretty nasty, then we finally made up. I apologized for being an ass. She emails me back and says she's sick of fighting too. That was late May. No contact has been made until 3 days ago.
She just wrote me a friendly email, tells me how things are going with her, says she hopes things are going well with me, and wishes me well and says she'll see me in the fall.
I have no idea why she wrote this email.. Could be b/c she was lonely (it was on a saturday night), could miss me, could want to start being friends again, or more, or trying to make me miss her, etc. I have been trying hard to get over her. So far i've had no other serious girls, and as hard as i've tried, i miss my ex. She was amazing.
My plan of action right now is to email her back a friendly, but brief email + see what happens from there. If she thinks we'll get back together like nothing ever happened she's wrong. *If* she tries to get something going with us again, the first thing i'm going to tell her is that she has ALOT of explaing to do and ALOT of trust to rebuild, and she can start working on it from there.
What do you guys think? She caused me alot of hurt, but i really can't believe or disbelieve anything she told me. I do believe that she was super confused about things + I do believe she was holding back from me, which may have caused alot of the problems. Many times she told her friends that she wished she would have met me this fall, instead of towards the end of last school year.
I don't want to line myself up for more hurt. I'm not getting my hopes up with her. I'm trying to go on other dates, but so far its not going that well.
Thanks.
Dated a girl from Jan-03 till University was done in May-03. We had a great time. Amazing girl. Never fought. When school was done she was moving back home (8hrs away) for the summer + wanted to break up with me.
She didn't know what would happen in the fall. Didn't want to tell me anything. I finally got this out of her: I am the most amazing guy she ever met + she knows she'll never find a better guy. She'd pick me out of all other ppl on earth to live on a desert island with, BUT, she also said as hard as she tried she could never fall in love with me. I never told her i loved her, but said with time, it *may* happen. She gave me all sorts of excuses like she thought she still might be in love with her ex, she was confused about life (school, family, guys), but she also claimed she never said she'd *never* fall in love with me. It sounds like i might have been pressuring her, but i was not at all. I personally think she was holding back our whole relationship b/c she knew she'd be moving home for the summer.
I also find out just 2 days before she moved, she hung out at a party with some guy all night, drove him home, and he went to kiss her but she backed off and said she couldn't do it (b/c of me). I feel she was trying to find someone to get her mind off me, but couldn't go through with her plan.
For 3 weeks we argued over the phone + email, things got pretty nasty, then we finally made up. I apologized for being an ass. She emails me back and says she's sick of fighting too. That was late May. No contact has been made until 3 days ago.
She just wrote me a friendly email, tells me how things are going with her, says she hopes things are going well with me, and wishes me well and says she'll see me in the fall.
I have no idea why she wrote this email.. Could be b/c she was lonely (it was on a saturday night), could miss me, could want to start being friends again, or more, or trying to make me miss her, etc. I have been trying hard to get over her. So far i've had no other serious girls, and as hard as i've tried, i miss my ex. She was amazing.
My plan of action right now is to email her back a friendly, but brief email + see what happens from there. If she thinks we'll get back together like nothing ever happened she's wrong. *If* she tries to get something going with us again, the first thing i'm going to tell her is that she has ALOT of explaing to do and ALOT of trust to rebuild, and she can start working on it from there.
What do you guys think? She caused me alot of hurt, but i really can't believe or disbelieve anything she told me. I do believe that she was super confused about things + I do believe she was holding back from me, which may have caused alot of the problems. Many times she told her friends that she wished she would have met me this fall, instead of towards the end of last school year.
I don't want to line myself up for more hurt. I'm not getting my hopes up with her. I'm trying to go on other dates, but so far its not going that well.
Thanks.