My ex and girls she used to tell me about.

[Fixmylife]

Here is my situation, and also, something I'm interested to know about...

I haven't seen my ex in a month, I purposely ended it badly so she would not contact me. (She lied and cheated.) Lately I've been missing her like crazy...and I have no idea what to do about it, we dated for a year and a half. When I was with her, it seemed like every new girl I met was interested in me. Now I have trouble just meeting girls (lame I know). She also had this whole list of girls that she saw at her work (popular local pizza place) that she said asked about me. Girls I went to highschool with and stuff like that.

My main question is, would she make all of that up? And I know I'm not supposed to see her again...but if I decided I wanted to, what would be the best way to go about it?

(Sorry for the AFC post, but I feel like all the options I had have run dry....)

 

[sinnerman]

if you went no contact and she hasn't contacted you ever since then there's nuthing left to do. if you still want to go which I wouldn't recommend then you don't need a plan. Just call her up ask her hi watsup bla bla bla...see how she responds and then take it on from there.

 

[Fixmylife]

Honestly, I am really worried about her, she seems to be doing a lot of stupid things, like moving in with a guy...I would like to put a stop to it, I know she's not good for me, but I want her to be safe, a year and a half is a really long time...

 

[Iceberg]

Honestly, I am really worried about her, she seems to be doing a lot of stupid things, like moving in with a guy...I would like to put a stop to it, I know she's not good for me, but I want her to be safe, a year and a half is a really long time...

A year and half is not a really long time.

You're not going to save this girl from being stupid. Move forward with your life. There's no reason to contact her. Especially when she's already lied and cheated on you. I mean, I wouldn't recommend returning to a GOOD ex....and this ex isn't good.

 

[luckster]

Here is my situation, and also, something I'm interested to know about...

I haven't seen my ex in a month, I purposely ended it badly so she would not contact me. (She lied and cheated.) Lately I've been missing her like crazy...and I have no idea what to do about it, we dated for a year and a half. When I was with her, it seemed like every new girl I met was interested in me. Now I have trouble just meeting girls (lame I know). She also had this whole list of girls that she saw at her work (popular local pizza place) that she said asked about me. Girls I went to highschool with and stuff like that.

My main question is, would she make all of that up? And I know I'm not supposed to see her again...but if I decided I wanted to, what would be the best way to go about it?

(Sorry for the AFC post, but I feel like all the options I had have run dry....)

I'm guessing when the breakup happened, you had eyes wide-open to the world, possibilities were endless. You thought "this ***** cheated on me, I don't need her. I can do better." As time progressed, you thought more and more about the break up, and this brought you down. This would explain the initial increase then decrease of attention you saw from women. Of course this is all speculation. I went through something similar in one of my breakups and I presume something similar might have happened here.

Frankly, think back to why you guys broke up. She cheated on you. Why are you missing her? Every time you miss her, just remember why you guys broke up. She effectively "betrayed" you, no?

A year and half is not a really long time.

You're not going to save this girl from being stupid. Move forward with your life. There's no reason to contact her. Especially when she's already lied and cheated on you. I mean, I wouldn't recommend returning to a GOOD ex....and this ex isn't good.

100% agreed. Everyone will tell you "Stop thinking about her and move on," me included. It's not that easy, you just have to. How? DO NOT CONTACT HER. What in the world do you have to gain? She is out of your life as far as you are concerned, you do not need to see or speak to this woman.

 

[Johnnyventana]

I'd focus on this every time you get the urge to contact her: (She lied and cheated.)

And if she's moving in with a guy... ummm. You can't stop her. You'll only make her want it more.

She's his problem now, not yours. Don't be captain save-a-ho. Let her crash and burn. It's the only way she'll learn. Also, she cheated on you.

 

[Fixmylife]

Thanks guys, I really like the "Don't be captain save-a-ho." Thats good stuff. She is definately a ho, and the guy she cheated on me with is a little *****. She wasn't that good to begin with, and honestly I wanted her more when we broke up. She was prepared to have me move in with her, and keep sneaking around. She is a bipolar b*tch and not worth my time. Focusing on the bad is a good idea. Its just been back and forth in my head. First real relationship, first kiss, first sex...Its just a lot to take in that a girl would do that to me.

 

[DarkShade]

All aboard the Next train. Leaving the station now. Destination: Vaginaville. This is a non-stop ride and jumping off this train means never making it to town.

Or you can pine over 'firsts' when you should be focusing on 'seconds, thirds' and so on. You get what I'm sayin'.