When I look back at the way I have used to get girls it's pretty much the same way all the time, and here it is. Please excuse me for getting technical and stuff like this in this post. This may give some inspiration to some but it's not meant to be a complete system. If you have any thoughts or questions about this, go ahead and ask.
I usually find myself in the setting of partying with a small group off like 6-15 people in generell terms of speaking. So this is aimed for this.
STEP 1 - Saying hello
I check for interest in the girl by greeting her and saying my name (and smiling slightly), maybe exchanging some pleasentries. If she seem somewhat lit up to meet me I know it's a green light.
Otherwise I next or pull back.
Step 2 - building rapport
Now people usually talk alot and I start to talk with the girl I find interesting. The general tone of the convo here is to keep it really light and being funny as well as I try to touch her if I can. I improvise alot when it comes to making jokes and give some compliments which would seem ghastly (both jokes and compliments) if I would retell them here. The compliments are not like "you are sooooooooooo hot" but instead very low key ones which imply more of a friendly compliment. In this phase I give alot of intense eye contact while at the same time I only joke with her or keep the conversation very simple and friendly. I find it to be a very effective combination.
When I get the girl to laugh I might tell something funny which has happened to me yet not very pleasant. Most often she'll laugh and It'll give me a chance to give her a push, pull her in the hair or something like that. Like "Ohh, so you find it funny when stuff like that happpens to me.. you are mean! *pull hair*" in accussing but non-serious tone. Games like this is good, like teasing her and challenging her. Deep down I believe that women like it when you are a little mean to them in a joking way like push her so she falls in the snow or throwing a paper which is made into a ball in her head. The response is all in the rapport you've got.
People might interupt this convo and start to talk to her, in this case I steer the convo so the other person will seem boring in comparison ie. talking about topics which are more interesting for her. If there is a ****block i will pull back and return later.
IMPORTANT: At no point should you try to "prove" yourself to her. Instead you should feel you are in control and invite her to you thus giving her no chance to reject you, only to refuse to enter your world. It's very hard to describe. But you'll feel it when it's right.
If she seems boring I next
Step 3 - heating herself up
When I have got ENOUGH rapport with her and she shows signals of attraction to me I start to talk to other people. My friends and really enjoying myself. I do not completly ignore her and respond when she talks to me. If I would name this period I would almost call this phase a "thinking period" where she will think about what has happened and she will have time to think about me and what she feels. When she interacts with me she will not have enough time to think because she usually is very stressed and nervous since it's a new person she meets, if she talks to her friends she can do that automatically without fear.
This phase occur after I have rapport and some attraction, like you know there are some attraction but according to societies standards it would not be enough to go in for any close without looking like a slut.
Here I have had two things happen. Sometimes she initiate and try to seduce me. I've had girls starting to touch me when others do not see and go hardcore flirting to regain my attention, one even said. "When I get back from this party I want to have sex with you." and when she returned she held her promise and I had fun during the time in between too.
Most heat up themselves and respond really well when I go intimate fast with her later.
Step 4 - Return my attention
After a while I will return my attention to her and like some magic pill that almost works she has more attraction to me and it's a lot easier to initiate stuff here. Here I try to touch her and get closer to her (with my body), at this time it's really not that hard. The main things that should be concerned is to understand how she feels. Many girls are afraid to be played with or looking like sluts so having this in mind is good. Do not go too fast either.
The main principle of my "seduction style": I do not use many fancy words like most people. Instead I talk to her always keep the convo light and simple and deepening it to understand what she is all about, not actually deepening the mood like some people will. Now alone this would end me up in friend zone and I talk like I want too and still there is some sexual undertone. I say something but I tone the words so it end up being ambiguous. Also I use my body to project what I want, I look intensly into her eyes, I may talk about something trivial but I move my body closer to hers. My body language does most of the seduction of her. But it's important she is attracted in the beginning else you'll just look like a fool. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT, LOOK GOOD! Complement this with an attitude of power where the girl is not important to you (this DO NOT mean to be unfriendly!!!), this is easy if you do ADs machine in some way because you will be rejecting and force the girl to prove herself to you. Yet this should now be shown in your attitude towards her, but in your detachment, be friendly, be funny and all that, but do not accept her too fast.
I think it's bad to go overly sexual, women respond HELL OF ALOT BETTER to have it lying under the stuff you say. Like saying stuff "I really know what I want to do with you tonight..." or "I have an idea what we can do tonight..." saying it flatly to her face and then saying something trivial to do but what is still fun to do. Just an example. The point is that I never tell her that she should want to **** me. I leave that up to her to figure out. The words sex, **** and stuff like triggers something bad in most women you'll talk too. They are almost offensive and will be responded to as this.
I believe there is a power in having a moment where you do not interact with the girl you are interesting with. Be it an hour or a year as long as she remembers you she will remember the best off you as long as it was a pleasant first time you met. This will save time, I've had many times to prove this fact, one especially beside the other one who flat out told me she wanted to ****. This other girl said withing 10-15 minutes she wanted to have sex with me too, and this was after having not meet each other for 6 months. This is the power of leaving the girl alone. It will instantly build you good rapport when you met her the next time.
I started to think about this on the train to Stockholm this morning and I understood that unconciously I have a style of seducing women, actually I'm looking for a nice girl to share some time with. Anyway, lucky me. :]
Lifeforce
I usually find myself in the setting of partying with a small group off like 6-15 people in generell terms of speaking. So this is aimed for this.
STEP 1 - Saying hello
I check for interest in the girl by greeting her and saying my name (and smiling slightly), maybe exchanging some pleasentries. If she seem somewhat lit up to meet me I know it's a green light.
Otherwise I next or pull back.
Step 2 - building rapport
Now people usually talk alot and I start to talk with the girl I find interesting. The general tone of the convo here is to keep it really light and being funny as well as I try to touch her if I can. I improvise alot when it comes to making jokes and give some compliments which would seem ghastly (both jokes and compliments) if I would retell them here. The compliments are not like "you are sooooooooooo hot" but instead very low key ones which imply more of a friendly compliment. In this phase I give alot of intense eye contact while at the same time I only joke with her or keep the conversation very simple and friendly. I find it to be a very effective combination.
When I get the girl to laugh I might tell something funny which has happened to me yet not very pleasant. Most often she'll laugh and It'll give me a chance to give her a push, pull her in the hair or something like that. Like "Ohh, so you find it funny when stuff like that happpens to me.. you are mean! *pull hair*" in accussing but non-serious tone. Games like this is good, like teasing her and challenging her. Deep down I believe that women like it when you are a little mean to them in a joking way like push her so she falls in the snow or throwing a paper which is made into a ball in her head. The response is all in the rapport you've got.
People might interupt this convo and start to talk to her, in this case I steer the convo so the other person will seem boring in comparison ie. talking about topics which are more interesting for her. If there is a ****block i will pull back and return later.
IMPORTANT: At no point should you try to "prove" yourself to her. Instead you should feel you are in control and invite her to you thus giving her no chance to reject you, only to refuse to enter your world. It's very hard to describe. But you'll feel it when it's right.
If she seems boring I next
Step 3 - heating herself up
When I have got ENOUGH rapport with her and she shows signals of attraction to me I start to talk to other people. My friends and really enjoying myself. I do not completly ignore her and respond when she talks to me. If I would name this period I would almost call this phase a "thinking period" where she will think about what has happened and she will have time to think about me and what she feels. When she interacts with me she will not have enough time to think because she usually is very stressed and nervous since it's a new person she meets, if she talks to her friends she can do that automatically without fear.
This phase occur after I have rapport and some attraction, like you know there are some attraction but according to societies standards it would not be enough to go in for any close without looking like a slut.
Here I have had two things happen. Sometimes she initiate and try to seduce me. I've had girls starting to touch me when others do not see and go hardcore flirting to regain my attention, one even said. "When I get back from this party I want to have sex with you." and when she returned she held her promise and I had fun during the time in between too.
Most heat up themselves and respond really well when I go intimate fast with her later.
Step 4 - Return my attention
After a while I will return my attention to her and like some magic pill that almost works she has more attraction to me and it's a lot easier to initiate stuff here. Here I try to touch her and get closer to her (with my body), at this time it's really not that hard. The main things that should be concerned is to understand how she feels. Many girls are afraid to be played with or looking like sluts so having this in mind is good. Do not go too fast either.
The main principle of my "seduction style": I do not use many fancy words like most people. Instead I talk to her always keep the convo light and simple and deepening it to understand what she is all about, not actually deepening the mood like some people will. Now alone this would end me up in friend zone and I talk like I want too and still there is some sexual undertone. I say something but I tone the words so it end up being ambiguous. Also I use my body to project what I want, I look intensly into her eyes, I may talk about something trivial but I move my body closer to hers. My body language does most of the seduction of her. But it's important she is attracted in the beginning else you'll just look like a fool. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT, LOOK GOOD! Complement this with an attitude of power where the girl is not important to you (this DO NOT mean to be unfriendly!!!), this is easy if you do ADs machine in some way because you will be rejecting and force the girl to prove herself to you. Yet this should now be shown in your attitude towards her, but in your detachment, be friendly, be funny and all that, but do not accept her too fast.
I think it's bad to go overly sexual, women respond HELL OF ALOT BETTER to have it lying under the stuff you say. Like saying stuff "I really know what I want to do with you tonight..." or "I have an idea what we can do tonight..." saying it flatly to her face and then saying something trivial to do but what is still fun to do. Just an example. The point is that I never tell her that she should want to **** me. I leave that up to her to figure out. The words sex, **** and stuff like triggers something bad in most women you'll talk too. They are almost offensive and will be responded to as this.
I believe there is a power in having a moment where you do not interact with the girl you are interesting with. Be it an hour or a year as long as she remembers you she will remember the best off you as long as it was a pleasant first time you met. This will save time, I've had many times to prove this fact, one especially beside the other one who flat out told me she wanted to ****. This other girl said withing 10-15 minutes she wanted to have sex with me too, and this was after having not meet each other for 6 months. This is the power of leaving the girl alone. It will instantly build you good rapport when you met her the next time.
I started to think about this on the train to Stockholm this morning and I understood that unconciously I have a style of seducing women, actually I'm looking for a nice girl to share some time with. Anyway, lucky me. :]
Lifeforce
