My DJ results so far, dissapointed

[pyros]

Hello.

After I finished my relationship with my gf one year ago, Im not happy with my my DJ results, in short they have been:

May 2012, girl 1) Chick I met on a trip three years ago,I really really liked her, but we were from different cities and she had a boyfriend at that time, so we kept conctact via FB. Then this past May she came to my city for 2 days to visit a relative. We met and we made out one night. The next day she was going back home, so we met again, made out again, really clicked, she was into me, but she had to leave; it was sad...and nothing more happened. She is dating a guy now from her city.

June 2012, girl 2) Met her at the library. Got her number. Texted her two times, and she never replied.

July 2012,girl 3) Foreigner I met in a club. We made out in the club. She was visiting my city with two more girls and just had two more days to spend. The next day we all met. I took them to a nice club, we danced, made out again...and she suggested to meet the next day. THen I texted her and she replied that she actually came to visit her ex bf and that she still had feelings for him, andthey went back home the following day, so nothing else happened.

July 2012, girl 4) I was in a club with my buddies. I went to a group of girls and started
talking to them. I really like one of them. I got her number etc
Then by the end of the night, some of my buddies who were waisted said annoying things to these girls while I was away dancing. Then I found out about this incident. Texted the girl some days later, she never replied. ****ing *******s...

September 2012, girl5) Met her in a exchange language event. Got her number. We met once she declined my kiss. We met the second time and we made out. We met three more times, always making out, but I felt her interest level was so-so.
I invited her over to have dinner at my place. She came but we kind of argued because of silly stuff and we both got upset, so I took her home. We met two more times but there was still tension between us, so we ended it.
Lesson learned, do not argue untill you bang.

October 2012, girl6) Met her online. She was very into me, but I was not so much into her. We banged, and were FWB for four months, I ended it.

December 2012, girl 7) Met her at my salsa class. I felt stong chemistry between us. Texted her after a couple of weeks to go for a drink, she kind of declined saying she just got out of a very serious relationship blah blah. I see this girl once per week every week so now we're friends. After a month, I tried again and she declined again. The weirdest thing about this chick is that everytime we meet, she gives me all signs that she's into me, laughs at all my jokes, touches me, hugs me, looks deeply into my eyes... but for now I'm not gonna suggest to meet again. Two attempts is more than enough.

February 2013, girl8) Met her in a club, got her number. Very weird girl, really weird but she's a HB7.
Asked her to go for a drink, she said she was busy but she was free next week. Next week I texted her and she replied that she had plans but that I should ask her again in two days. I did not. Then bumped into her in the streets. I suggested to go grab a coffee, she agreed. We had a nice and fun time and after the coffee, we went for a walk. I confirmed she was nuts, the weirdest girl I've ever met. Anyway I went in for a kiss and she kind of turned her face but just a bit, so I kissed the side of her mouth. We kept talking and laughing and I tried again but she turned her face again and said that she felt bad but she was not over her ex.

March 2013, girl9) Met her at salsa class. Got her number. Then met her in a salsa club. We talked for a while, danced a bit she seemed nice. I asked her some questions but she did not ask me anything.
Then I texted her one day, she replied and had a small funy convo. Then some days later I suggested to meet and she said she was really busy because of uni work, blah blah. She did not counter offer or anything.


What the ****?! Im getting tired of this ****. It seems after I broke up with my ex Im cursed or something. For me is a big effort to go talk to a girl, get her number etc, but anyway I do it, but Im not getting the results I'd like by far.
I dont really think it is my fault or it is that there is something wrong with me, Im fun, fit, dress well, have friends and hobbies but...
The only thing that makes me feel better is that my friends do not have more success than me.

I've read that this is a numbers game, and that normally a DJ gets rejected a lot more than gets *****, but what the heck?
Suggestions? Opinions?
Im 26 by the way.


Thanks.

 

[pdx1138]

Welcome to the club!

I've had similar results after breaking up with my last gf a year ago too.

Remember, it never rains but it pours.

 

[Demonpenz]

Welcome to the game.

 

[Sandow]

Work on your game so they choose you. This way you know they're clearly interested thus you're meeting girls that are very interested rather than just intrigued.

I know, easier said than done.

I would also suggest being less agressive early on. Girls hate hate being rushed into things. Perhaps appear more busy, cancel some dates, be less inclined to quickly meetup and make out.

Your cold approach is solid though!

 

[Demonpenz]

Take something away from each slore. These interactions will eventually take you to be the number 1 player if you keep growing.

 

[coochieman]

Couldn't read all.

9 girls? A whole year!
That's low.

So far as you are not under restrictions, you shouldn't even be able to easily remember the amount of girls you've dealt with over a year.

Only if game is your talent would you get tangible results from only 9 girls. Or maybe if you've got some thing that clearly sets you as a better mate compared to other men.

You should be talking 90 girls!!!
Hey I get it!... 90 would have to comprise of virgins, skanks, randies, morons, passive, & cursed whoores.... But, that's the point here, the more you deal with them in numbers, the more likely you get better.

As long as you are not gaming numerous women in the same area, school, etc ['cos, that could really hurt your image].... Increase that number!

Broaden your horizon. Game the ones you are not even really interested in... It can only make you better. Enjoy game. There are no restrictions on this biyaches!

Prosper.
GO DJ.

 

[Sandow]

10 dates out of 50 girls = 20% success rate

3 dates out of 10 girls = 30% success rate

More isn't necessarily better.

 

[Vidrio]

10 dates out of 50 girls = 20% success rate

3 dates out of 10 girls = 30% success rate

More isn't necessarily better.

It's sill more girls though. Percentages don't really matter, its how many girls you get a shot at.

 

[Purefilth]

@OP - how does this compare to other years?

Just curious, since we're the same age and roughly the same time single - Its been a tough year womanwise for me too.

Havent really focused on chicks though. Ive far too much going on.

Just thought maybe its a difficult age all-round?

 

[pdx1138]

for me the year prior was much more successful.

 

[coochieman]

10 dates out of 50 girls = 20% success rate

3 dates out of 10 girls = 30% success rate

Get smart. Or enroll in a school.
We are talking results (ie. numbers) not success rate (ie. percents).
10 greater than 3.
10 puzzies plentier (hence, most likely better albeit more stressful I must admit) than 3 puzzies.
10 Puzzies don't care if it took a aim at 1000000000 puzzies to have them (as long as you don't mention it anyways!)

OP wants more snatches so he needs to go for more snatches.

He thinks he should be doing better? Good, improve what you can but the constant remains: you need more if you want more (assuming status-quo).

Why does he need to? His results speaks for itself and he is clearly unsatisfied.

Again nobody cares how much your trial number is unless it is within a some-what interactive vicinity where girl's network will sniff you out and brand you ass a no-vaggina-gettin', want-any, standardless, stay-afar-from, soon-to-be-rapist, almost-my-turn-to-be approached, desperate, loser.

 

[BeDJ]

If dating were easy, there wouldn't be as many desperate men. Women our age can solicit sex from most of them, it is important that you realize their options far outweigh yours. You are in your mid-20's, merely entering the sex market. Believe you are CAPABLE of generating options and you will. The previous 9 women were experience with lessons. See what you did well and where you can improve from those interactions. This just the beginning of the venture most men aren't given the opportunity to have.

Be excited man!

 

[pyros]

Hi.
Thanks for the support guys

Lets see. Before my ex, I knew little about Game. Now that I know more it does not make sense because I try a lot (for me this is a lot) and I get little to no success.
Now that I know more Game, I try to pick up girls a LOT MORE than before, lets say Im with this 'radar' on all the time. Before this, I actually did pretty much nothing, and now that I do a lot Im just getting rejections sooner or later, and getting frustrated. I mean, I meet girls that do not end up in sex, the majority do not end up even in a date, and I think to myself...
is this the way?
is this what guys do?
I know guys from this forum do, but I do not see that any of my buddies go around trying to pick up girls anywhere, they just limit themselves to clubs (I do not like clubs so this is why I joined salsa classes) and they get risible success, in other words almost no success. They ones that have/had girlfriend is just by accident or because they lucked out. My buddies just heard something about what Game is, but think it is stupid.

I see couples all around (or FWB or whatever), and I think:
was he trying to pick up girls when he met his current girl?
or he did nothing and just lucked out?
how many times did he fail before finding this girl?
does he now about Game?
why does he have such a cute girl and I dont if I've been trying and there is nothing wrong with me? God dammit!

Before my las gf I was not even trying to pick up girls around, but now that I do try I get this damn results, so I can not even imagine what it would be if I did nothing as I used to.


I have this question for you:

the last girl I met during my salsa lessons, I talked to her twice, lets say 15 mins total, I got her number, and after two days I suggested to meet, and she nicely declined.
Should I change my strategy? I mean, when dealing with girls I meet during my salsa lessons ( I go twice per week), should I maybe just get to know them more, talk to them maybe 4-5-6 times before I ask them out instead?
Im thinking that it may pay off more if I get to know them more and just wait to see if they show some interest in me and THEN I ask them out. Dont you think?

Thanks.

 

[pyros]

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[pyros]

pyros, i'm proud of you buddy you're making excellent progress!

You're getting out there and meeting lots of girls And, as you get rejected more, you are slowly becoming more desensitized and immune to their rejection. You will get better, I promise. Just keep at it, and don't let it discourage you.

After all, what else are you going to do, just give up? I mean, you're not gay are you? Of course not! So keep going out there and trying new techniques. Perfect what works, get rid of what doesn't. And don't forget to keep trying to improve how you look, ie your hairstyle and clothes.

Good job and keep at it!

Thanks Brad

 

[pyros]

@OP - how does this compare to other years?

Just curious, since we're the same age and roughly the same time single - Its been a tough year womanwise for me too.

Havent really focused on chicks though. Ive far too much going on.

Just thought maybe its a difficult age all-round?

I've had two serious relationships. Since the last one ended one year ago Ive tried to pick up girls more than in my whole life. In other words, before my last relationship I had this snipper mentality, just when the 'perfect' girl appeared by chance is when I focused all my energy to get her. Silly mentality obviously, I was too naive.

 

[visions]

Hi.

number, and after two days I suggested to meet, and she nicely declined.
Should I change my strategy? I mean, when dealing with girls I meet during my salsa lessons ( I go twice per week), should I maybe just get to know them more, talk to them maybe 4-5-6 times before I ask them out instead?
Im thinking that it may pay off more if I get to know them more and just wait to see if they show some interest in me and THEN I ask them out. Dont you think?

Thanks.

yeah, try to build rapport. a customer is less likely to buy if the salesman spends too little time showing off his product.

and your game will get better with time, so keep approaching! and lastly, the success rate for cold approaches is pretty low (although many men will lie), so don't beat yourself up

 

[irocknike23]

You're being too hard on yourself. You are getting numbers, making out with females left and right...you got a good foundation. All you have to do is build it more, improve your looks, game and intelligence.

But from what I read from your post you're doing good, you are just coming up slightly short each time