My day2. need some advice.

[mustfirstregister]

what would you do on a day2 when a girl doesn't speak much, gives you short answers "yes", "no", "its ok", she rarely ask any questions. Should I have just kino escalated or build more rapport?

 

[Prometheus Pyrphoros]

It is necessary that you escalate as soon as possible,

But never do it before the previous steps have been taken and achieved.

Step 1 is to generate attraction. Spark her interest.

Step 2 is to establish a connection. Relate to her on a meaningful level.

Then you should escalate when the signs are right.

Being that she is disinterested on day 2 means you didn't do it right on day 1.

Back to the drawing board and do it right next time.


Regards.

 

[mustfirstregister]

she was not desinterested, she was shy and provide nothing to the conversation. How would u open her up? Do i need to open her up? or should I just kino escalate?

 

[Prometheus Pyrphoros]

You definitely need to open her up before escalating.

First you need to make her feel relaxed and comfortable. The best way to do this is to make her laugh. When she thaws and gets out of her shell, flirt a little. Once you get the signs she is interested, connect to her on a meaningful level, vibe on the same page. Throw in some sexual innuendo, tease her mind a little.

She will in her mind want you to lead and escalate from there.

Regards

 

[mustfirstregister]

yes, This is common sense. I tried to open her up. But if she gives u short answers 'yes', 'no', 'it's OK'. what do you do? what do you say? give me examples?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Come on man, what have you learned in your 98 years of life? You must be a slow learner. =P

Either she's really into you and you make her nervous and doesn't know how to get over her butterflyes and is wishing you would understand this and not hold it against her, but really digs you; or, she is really not interested, or was, but then didn't feel it, or your convo styles are just not initially compatible.

I suggest you make sure you become a better communicator/interviewer, not in the sense where you pop a bunch of questions, but in a way where you get her to open up, and build from that. YOu will know you are good when she starts answering and you build a thread, then it quickly becomes another conversational thread, and another, and you feel you can always go back and resume a previous one; at that point you've connected and could talk about a number of things.

As prometheus stated, you cannot skip steps. I would only attempt escalation when she's being responsive, for example, right after she is laughing or has touched you in an affectionate way, as in touchign your arm, shoulder, or responding to a tease.