My date

[escaleraroyal]

Usually I dont come here for advise...
Had date with a girl. She was initially shy but then warmed up a little. Made her laugh, talking about myself and getting to know her. I felt it was time to hold hand and I go for it. After 5 seconds she lets go. Then the mall is about to close and she says she has to go buy something and go home. We say bye and we split.
Came home texted her If she got home safe, she happily replies back. I asked her to meet tomorrow. Then after 40 min She rejects my offer.

What do you guys see on my date?

 

[LP700-4]

She doesn't like you.

 

[Cremasta]

In that first seven seconds, she wondered whether she'd shag you and decided she wouldn't. You were friendzoned before you had a chance.

Delete her number.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Yeah man, delete the number.

Holding a girls hand to me for some reason seems awkward at first, I would rather hold a date any other way except the old hand holding. I save that type of thing for her to initiate. Just seems childish, or like i'm too eager to have a girlfriend. I dunno I might be crazy...

Don't commit first.

Don't say I love you first.

Don't try to hold her hand first.

 

[pdx1138]

I felt it was time to hold hand and I go for it.

on a first date?

way too soon.

 

[trent_afc]

I asked her to meet tomorrow. Then after 40 min She rejects my offer.

Too much, too soon, too clingy. I would have waited 3-5 days then asked, especially since she didn't seem too keen about the hand holding.

Now that the damage is done, and you like this chick, wait a week, then call her up for a second date. If she declines with no counteroffer, delete her number and chalk it up to lessons learned/experience gained.

 

[escaleraroyal]

I just feel like I wanted to ask her out. Remember logistic is about location and sometimes time.

 

[trent_afc]

Cool. How did that strategy work out for you?

 

[SgtSplacker]

Trying to hold hands on a first date is a mortal mistake my friend...

With me holding hands is something that happens when my girl is trying to clean up our act after what we did last night. You know so she doesn't feel so dirty anymore and a little more innocent. We'll go eat somewhere and she'll try to hold me hand and be all cutsey...

 

[BeHappy]

There is really nothing wrong with holding hands on the first date. However, it is the way you do it. Depending on the environment, I would hold her hand to lead her through crowds. Retail stores would be a good way to have her follow you. It's subtle and opens the door for later physical contact.

My good first dates have an unpredictable flow. Action to sitting to action. It helps reduce the moments of awkwardness. Regardless, you should have went for the kiss at the end of the date. Whether she kisses back or not, her reaction to it will tell you everything you need to know. I've had women get stuck in a trance and others have been dying to get it over with. I've had ones that turn their head and ones that pushed me away. You always want to know where you stand even if it means you have failed.

As for contact after the date, let her contact you first. If she doesn't there you have a woman with low interest (most of the time.) About 75% of the ones that text me first after the date, there was another date. When they don't even bother to text you 'Thanks, I had a good time,' CUT BAIT ASAP. It's either low interest or lack of respect for peoples' time. You don't want to deal with these women anyways.

You became too eager after the date and she senses it. Nothing turns women off than a desperate/available man. You should come here for advise more ofter, it seems like you can learn a few things or two.

As always, generate more options.

 

[user name]

Usually I dont come here for advise...

what have you been coming here for in the 6 years you've joined?

 

[escaleraroyal]

Cool. How did that strategy work out for you?

dunno yet. it's been only one date. Cannot see the future.

 

[sylvester the cat]

dunno yet. it's been only one date. Cannot see the future.

did you not read your op, OP? you don't need to be a clairvoyant to know there isn't going to be another date...

 

[escaleraroyal]

only time will tell. I will keep u updated

 

[escaleraroyal]

This project got cancelled.

 

[Phxxx]

project canceled?

Guess you dropped this plate? wouldn't really call this a project but to each their own.

on a first date?

way too soon.

Do you realize how many actually score on the first date?

Most of the time I dont wait for day 2's or whatever, but at the same time Im not pushing the interaction really its more of an organic progression.

I do agree however about not ecalation holding hands... normally allow her to make that move, usually on the ride/drive home afterwards.