My dad is a lucky man.

[edger]

My dad is a lucky man because he doesn't care about women; he doesn't care about dating them, he doesn't care if he has sex..he just doesn't care..it doesn't bother him. Me on the other hand, if I'm not getting sex on a regular basis, my whole world is turned upside down. For me, I need to be pleasured by women on a regular basis in order to keep myself level-headed and happy, like most guys. But I look at my dad who is 58, and say, "He's so fortunate not to be bothered by this". He is blessed like that. In all my years of knowing my dad since him and my mom split back in 1992, he has never once dated or hung out with another woman. At least according to what I know and have seen. And I believe it. For all the yrs I've known him, he's always gone to work and come home. In his spare time, he's always watching TV or on the computer, or fixing something, or taking care of something around the house. If he does go out, it's to shop. You guys might be saying, "Well, he might make it seem like he's going shopping, etc., when in reality he's off banging some broad", but I can tell you I'm almost 100% sure that isn't the case. I believe I know my dad pretty well, I had lived with him since I was a kid. I mean, perhaps my dad bangs escorts to satisfy his sexual urge, but I really, really doubt every bit of that. Number 1, he's a pretty hardcore Catholic. Number 2, he has never had a woman over since all the yrs I've known him, or has gotten calls from women...so I think it's more sufficient to say, he doesn't deal with or care about having women in his life.

My dad is just lucky he can live life without women and without the sex. I really wish I could do the same.

I'm actually at a similar point right now concerning the females. I just don't want to be bothered playing the game anymore. I've done it for a looooong time. My first girl experience was at the age of 11, my first girlfriend of 4 months, Kara...what a horny hottie, first time I ever made out with a girl. Seen her about 5 yrs ago, and daaam does she look fine! I've learned a lot along the way, got my game to where I wanted it, and am happy with the man I've become. I truly am. But I'd rather deal without it, because it's such a hassle. This game can really kill you if you have nothing to claim from it, it really can. The fact that a man puts all this energy into trying to pick up attractive women, takes a big toll on the body both mentally and physically, especially when the guy doesn't yield results too often. Why put yourself through that? I'd rather indulge in strippers, the ladies of the 'Red-Light District'(Amsterdam), etc. Bam, I'm getting what I want, when I want, FROM GORGEOUS WOMEN, without a vicious hassle, that I'd normally get otherwise playing the game. It adds more yrs to your life and keeps you in better health. Solution, problem solved. From this point on, I just want to enjoy life.

 

[The Bat]

Soooo...how is that porn star dream coming along?

Anyway, maybe your dad is batting for the other team? :crackup:

I simply see dealing with women as another hobby, something I enjoy doing. Maybe it's my thirst for understanding human nature and behavior, or maybe it's my curiosity to learn different ways to sexually satisfy myself and beautiful women, but whatever it is, man I just love talking to, hanging out with, seducing, and sexing women.

Perhaps if you stop thinking that dealing with women is some kind of burden, then you might be able to enjoy them more. But I will say that, first, you need to have a life of your own that doesn't require women. After this, you can decide if you want to meet women solely via your social circle or via approaching them at bars/clubs/bookstores etc.

 

[edger]

Soooo...how is that porn star dream coming along?

Yeah, I'm workin' on it...lol. I'll definitely report back on that once I get the ball rolling, if in fact a company wants to take me on.

Anyway, maybe your dad is batting for the other team? :crackup:

Hahaha, you know, I've thought about that too before, but I just can't see it(yet I could be wrong, afterall, gays don't have a face). If he's gay though, that's fine, that's his preference, I still accept and love him with all my heart.

 

[amoka]

This is not normal. Are you saying your dad has not had sex since 1992? He either jerks off or his credit card bills are high on escort services.

 

[DJDamage]

Sorry to burst your bubble but I think your dad just gave up and decided to make the best out of his situation like millions of other men who decided to just give up. By the sounds of things, if all he does is watch tv/computer, fixes things and goes shopping, he might be despressed. I mean if he's got any testosterone left in his body then he has to once a while jerk off and by settling to just jerking off and not going for a pvssy, deep down you just know you are robbing yourself of something.

My grandfather was boinking 65-75 year olds in his apartment building right up to his death at the age of 86. He was a happy guy and even though he knew his health was deteriorating, he still love the chase and bedding those old b1tches and then have them cook dinner for him.

Someone on youtube once named it: "True force loneliness" and that is the saddest and angriest bunch of people you ever seen.

 

[Juando]

Yeah, I'm workin' on it...lol. I'll definitely report back on that once I get the ball rolling, if in fact a company wants to take me on.

Do you like kids?
You know that a big porno house wants to take on the OctoMom- groom her,
get her in shape, finesse her image; what do you think? :nervous:

I like it that you have a good relationship w/your dad and admire him; why not sit down with him, crack open a few cold ones and talk to him. There's ways to do it without creating embarrassment. Start off gently and indirectly if you want and see how it goes. You can always drop it or change the subject if warranted.

I was horny as hell and at a loss what to do after my breakup a couple of years ago. I'm still sorting it out but in the meanwhile... just today while I was painting my place got some calls; 28 yo very pretty Asian wanted to come over. Late twenties Brazilian called to set up a date. Another Asian, 33 yo musician, missing me. Not bragging- and not necessarily taking credit, because I'm still working on this, but one way or another I approached each of these ladies and told them I was interested. The only difference between now and when I was in my twenties is that now I am usually more direct.

Not using myself as a template for your dad- if he's not interested, case closed. Also I do have a pref for younger, my choice for obvious reasons plus the older ladies I've met come with heavy baggage and are not as much fun.

If he's healthy and vibrant a push in the right direction could give him a new lease on life.

 

[vitor]

Dont take this the wrong way but your dad is a loser. I mean a loser in terms of relationships. Its great he is your dad, pays his bills, goes to work, and does what he wants. But he is the prime example of who we do not want men, espically men who come to this board are.

What is the diffrience bewteen your dad and say some 20 year old on here who works, eats pizza and plays world of warcraft all day? He does not care about chicks or getting laid?

Your dad is avoiding relationships with women and for all intensive purposes lives a sex free /relation free life.

DO you really think he is happy? He has no partner or anyone?

 

[Night Owl]

Seen it before many times, sorry but your dad is gay man trying to hide.... Not your fault either.

You are not your dad, we are all unique, so why are you talking yourself into walking the same path?

 

[decades]

actually your story does not surprise me in the least. it's the guys who can take sex or leave it, and who don't chase tail, don't beat it, who pour their sexual energy into other things, those are the happy men. I've experimented on and off with all of it and can safely say that something magical happens when you retain your stuff and use that energy to live better. Don't get me wrong, finding a great woman to share your life with is fantastic and I would welcome it. But for me it's not a Have to have. But you can't have the mindset of "I need it", or it will drive you crazy and make you uber frustrated. You can get beyond it. It's possible but it takes constant attention and effort.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Sounds more like menopause to me, but....

 

[TheFlyOne]

Seen it before many times, sorry but your dad is gay man trying to hide.... Not your fault either.

You are not your dad, we are all unique, so why are you talking yourself into walking the same path?

I agree. Your dad is gay. Maybe not.

Does he have buddies he hang out with and fix stuff with? Have you ever looked to see what he does on the computer out of curiousity?

If he's not gay maybe he's uncomfortable/awkward about letting you know about his relationship with women. He may feel that you wouldn't like the idea of his being with women other than your mother. If I were you I would just ask him straight out.

 

[KontrollerX]

The guys dad is not gay you knobs.

"Number 1, he's a pretty hardcore Catholic."

That right there is likely the problem.

There is a biblical rule true Bible believers follow that one partner is all you get and divorces don't count in the eyes of god and that if you go and sleep with other people you are committing the sin of adultery.

This guy's dad likely is so loyal to JC and the godstreet band that he has blue balled himself all of these years for fear that if he didn't he will go to hell when he dies.

Ahh needless repression just another of religion's evils.

Though I will say that if this is the real reason why edger's dad hasn't been fishing for poon all these years then this indeed makes him a true Christian as opposed to your typical youth group kiddy of today that claims that they are a Christian but goes and just does whatever they want when they aren't in the religious environment.

Pre marital sex? Binge drinking?? Drugs??? You betcha!

And these morons still think that they are truly Christians when they live a life like this which according to their own religion's doctrine is living in sin and as any real Christian believer knows living in sin leads to death ie hell when that sinner dies.

So ultimately its admirable if edger's dad has actually lived his belief unlike most Christians but at the same time its also pathetically and horifically tragic as Christianity like all man made religions is a total and complete farce.

In other words if he's not indulged in sexcapades with other women all these years since the divorce due to his strong religious beliefs then he has wasted many years of his life that he will never get back.

Things like this for those who wonder is why I hate religion and Christianity in particular.

It robs people of all they could get out of life by manipulating their mind filling it with terrifying lies and ridiculous rules.

Bible reference proof for those interested:

Matthew 19:3-12

19:3 Then some Pharisees 1 came to him in order to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful 2 to divorce a wife for any cause?” 3 19:4 He answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator made them male and female, 4 19:5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 5 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 19:7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command us to give a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her?” 6 19:8 Jesus 7 said to them, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of your hard hearts, 8 but from the beginning it was not this way. 19:9 Now I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another commits adultery.” 19:10 The 9 disciples said to him, “If this is the case of a husband with a wife, it is better not to marry!” 19:11 He 10 said to them, “Not everyone can accept this statement, except those to whom it has been given. 19:12 For there are some eunuchs who were that way from birth, 11 and some who were made eunuchs 12 by others, 13 and some who became eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it.”

Gotta love how the supposed "holy" and "righteous" book rambles on and trails off onto some weird sh!t about eunuchs...

 

[edger]

why not sit down with him, crack open a few cold ones and talk to him. There's ways to do it without creating embarrassment. Start off gently and indirectly if you want and see how it goes. You can always drop it or change the subject if warranted.

I've spoken to him about it many times before. It seems he makes excuses though. He says, "I don't have the money to date". I mean, he has a good paying job, along with a monthly pension rolling in each month. But maybe all that money goes quickly, afterall, he lives in a very wealthy area where he pays a lot in taxes.

 

[edger]

DO you really think he is happy? He has no partner or anyone?

That's the thing, he seems really happy with his life. He never looks miserable. He's always singing. It is said, when you're happy, you sing and when you're sad, you don't.

 

[ketostix]

That's the thing, he seems really happy with his life. He never looks miserable. He's always singing. It is said, when you're happy, you sing and when you're sad, you don't.

I agree that your Dad is a lucky man Edger. Think about it. He's in his late 50's, been married and had kids and most likely had all the sex he wanted in the past. He's financially secure now and doesn't waste his time and money on women, yet is happy anyway. He's not exposing himself to the financial risk that women can potentially create, the std risk of having sex nowadays etc. I think it would be great position to be by the time you're 50-something and to have had kids and all the relationships with women you need out of your system.

And Edger, I replied to your PM, but your mailbox is full. I'll try to save the reply and if you clean out your mailbox, I'll resend it.

 

[Juando]

I've spoken to him about it many times before. It seems he makes excuses though. He says, "I don't have the money to date". I mean, he has a good paying job, along with a monthly pension rolling in each month. But maybe all that money goes quickly, afterall, he lives in a very wealthy area where he pays a lot in taxes.

Dating is too big a leap for him. The trick is for him to go places and be in social groups, perhaps organizations, that are mixed, where he can meet women. Nature does the rest.
If his engine starts then you can bring him to sosuave...

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Edger,
Your Old Man sounds a great guy,enjoy him while he is around.Some of the responses you have had are very interesting,from homosexual to religious puritan....he is none of these,just one of those people born with a low libido,this wouldn't have been helped with a divorce probably preceded by a long term of abstinence....use it or lose it,being a good Catholic would give him guilt feelings about pleasuring himself and so what desires he ever had,would gradually have atrophied.....Most religions push the line that the true path to happiness is to give up desires and carnal pleasures,and there is something in this....Looking back I must say that in terms of material wealth,position and respect in the community I would have been better studying my holy books than chasing skirt,but when you are the opposite end of the libido bell curve to your Dad,then you have a Devil riding on your shoulder.you certainly have lot more fun,but like everything else in life it comes at a cost....I think the most amusing of your responses came from DJDamages,reminiscing about his Old Man....What a charming old rogue....So many people die mispent philanderers,never having allowed themselves to indulge their deepest longings and needs,sad really.

 

[edger]

And Edger, I replied to your PM, but your mailbox is full. I'll try to save the reply and if you clean out your mailbox, I'll resend it.

Fixed, I cleared some space.