My brother is caught

[nice_guyeh]

in the middle of my mother and father.
Parents split time ago, my bro and i spent prob 60% of time with mom 40% with dad.
School was in moms city, dad was half hr away (still is)

So last year my dad wanted my bro (A) to switch schools. his grades were garbage, and dad wanted to see A more obv. It didn't go over well with mom, obv she wanted to have A live with her and go to school there.

He was caught in the middle of my rents, over their stupid self righteousness or some ****. It was like dad wanted to have A to piss mom off and vise verse. It was about A as well but not as much it seemed..

Went to talk to a 3rd party counselor lady few times. helped cause the 3/4 of us were getting no where, and it was only putting stress/tension/anger on everyone.

Ended up that A went to dads for 2011/2012 school year. his grades were better. he made new friends, enjoyed himself imo..didn't complain much after month or 2. New school and such, no faces you know w.e...

So again the bull**** started this summer. Mom went and without telling anyone signed up A for his OLD school for this coming year. told dad,A, myself week or 2 later..

fawk here we go lool, more stress/drama/bull**** all over. A is caught in the middle again. torn between 2 parents, 2 schools, 2 towns, 2 different sets/groups of friends etc...
don't get me wrong, i love my bro. but he doesn't speak up when he should, he is not as opinionated or firm footed as i am. il tell you to "fvck off, iv had enough." he wont, he tells you what you want to hear kinda, cause he doesn't like to see hurt feeling. up set mom but make dad happy etc..

i can tell he is stressed/angry af. maybe a bit depressed? i dunno what to do here. i dont like seeing him like this, im pretty close to him and try to tell him to stand up tell em both to fvck off. he needs to make his own decision.

he wont even talk bout it now, heard so much i think hes gonna snap soon.


What do you guys think?
How can i help him help himself?
try to stand up for him but rents be snapppping sayn its not my business and ****. wtf

help?

 

[nice_guyeh]

advice?

 

[Purefilth]

dude, id like to help but i have no idea about this stuff, im fortunate enough to have a pair of happily married parents.

 

[Alvafe]

dude only thing here I can say is, ask your bro what he want? go back to his old school or just stay on the new, if he don't say anything, you can't do anything, some people are like that do whatever others tell then just to make others happy. also I don't know if she is also you mom or not, but you can very well just say to her to stay far from him and let him learn and growth on the new school since his score are better, and tell her if she really is a good mom would choose waht is better for him and not for her ego

 

[Fly By Night]

Well, for one, I don't know if this is the right forum section for this.

Two, it's your parents decision since, well, they are the parents. If you seem to realize that he is happier and better off with your dad then you need to step in and let them know. But ultimately, it is not your decision since you are not the guardian.

I hope you do know for a fact that he is happier with his dad because your post sounded biased, almost antagonizing.