My brain can't handle this stuff

[handle]

Seriously. I've been absorbing knowledge from this site and going over it again and again for maybe 2 weeks and it's driving me ****ing insane. It's like I'm directly on a borderline and I can accept this or I can go live my life as what you call an "AFC". I have serious quams about what some of this site perscribes and it's confusing the hell out of me. Becoming a "DJ" is a total, complete 180 for me and now I'm totally divided on what I want to do with my life and how I want to live for at least the next while.

Yeah, I know, I haven't asked any questions or anything.

 

[penkitten]

baby steps...

 

[JonJack]

Well, first of all, are you willing to do what is prescribed to get girls? Or are you willing to get girls the way you want to? You've got to believe that it will help you and make your life better first. If you can't internalise and do the things that are stated on this site, it just means that you are not comfortable or you cannot accept it. That's perfectly fine. Just don't fall in the trap of wanting something but not being able to bring yourself to do the things that will get you what you want. You'll just come across as being a spoiled brat who wants everything to fall on his lap.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

handle, I was the same way, I was just reading and reading, Was even reading stuff that wouldnt apply to me yet. Eventually I read it all, and i left this site for a few weeks, then i was like ohhh !@# i couldve applied some of theese principles in theese situations, came back and began reading. ITs time for me to leave again cause i need a reason to use some of the sex tips in the bible :cheer:

 

[seroph]

think about your life as it is now. do you enjoy it? if you like it as it is, if you're havin' fun.. then screw this site, keep doing what you're doing.

if not. try this stuff. it's a lot to swallow, esp. if it's a 180 like you said. stick with it, because it's worth it.

godspeed, either way.

-JP

 

[Luveno]

There's a reason why there are way more fat people than fit people:

its easier to be fat.

In parallel to that, it is also easier for a born and bred AFC to stay that way and live like a chump. Changing this is hard - you are basically changing an entire faculty of who you are, but it is ALWAYS for the better.

Start reading and start going out into the field and putting it into action. It takes years.

 

[Roobs]

This site hasnt just helped me get girls man....its changed my entire outlook on life... i cant begin to describe the massive confidence boost ive had in all aspects of my life since ive started practising what sosuave is preaching....

 

[MikeyBoi]

What you're feeling is resistance to being brainwashed.

Whenever there is an adamant group of people who prescribe an all-or-nothing devotion to THEIR system, hairs should raise on your neck, and your skepticism reflex should kick in.

I recommend you get some female friends, and start listening to their stories, comments, etc. Not that their advice is all that good...sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't...but you'll get a sense of all the different types of girls there are, and all the different types of behaviors.

Plus, if you keep them as good friends, they'll start to pull their weight for you. There's no more convincing motivator for a girl to have sex than her friend being okay with it. It's my hunch that girls "would do" much uglier guys than they admit, if only only their friends approved. But I digress.

It's not all as cut-and-dried as people here make it seem. Do you what you can, and if you can, find a mentor who you can talk to about everything

 

[TACH]

It helps if you look at it as improving your lifestyle instead of just doing it to get the ladies. If you do it for women then its for all the wrong reasons. That's the thing about finding this site, in order for anything to work here, YOU have to be willing to make the necessary changes. If you think its something worth trying, test it out little by little. No one expects you to change wholly over night.

 

[BrotherAP]

Originally posted by MikeyBoi
What you're feeling is resistance to being brainwashed.

The only resistance to being brainwashed that he's feeling is his reluctance to ignore what he's read and go on living a boring, textbook life. We are brainwashed every day by the media and our societie's mythos that we are inadequate and insignificant. Almost all of our bad habits have been influenced by bad TV shows, movies where the hero wins the girl by becoming a chump, and commercials and reality TV where everyone is model-perfect (sending the message that the rest of us are abnormal). Questioning what you've always believed is a refreshingly healthy practice.

You cannot be brainwashed by a website. Anything he adopts from here is strictly voluntary.

 

[MikeyBoi]

We only call it being "brainwashed" when the ideas seem outlandish, and when it causes a sudden, drastic change in a person's attitude, often to the point of alienating friends or family or changing job performance, etc.

Brainwashing is just a quickened version of conditioning. And all throughout life, we participate in our own conditioning. But what we take in depends on what's available to us.

This site presents us with rules and ultimatums...do this or you won't get chicks...think this way or you'll never have a fun, fulfilling life...and if you have any difficulty or anything you read here seems wrong...well, that's just because you've been conditioned by society! So don't trust your instincts, learn ours.

I'm just here to say that that's usually wrong, there are usually options, and this site is not a life support system, but a nifty tool every now and then.

 

[eLMac]

A few of my baby steps:

Eliminate porn
Eliminante computer games
Eliminate AFC films, music and TV
Eliminate TV in general
Eliminate as much clutter in your life as possible

Start a physical discipline - I chose Boxing and yoga.
Get adequate sleep
A computer is a tool for work and learning, nothing else.
Watch Alpha films - Oceans11, Top Gun etc
Get balls
Have a beer or two regularly with your buddies whenever you can
Work on developing your Body Language, Voice tone and content/repertoire

This is a few of many...

 

[So pimp its scary]

Handle... find 1 area that you can improve on that you know that you are lacking.

If you can't look people in the eyes, do that.
If you just can't approach, work on that.
If you approach but it never works, work on your voice tone and body language.


Regardless of what it is, chunk things into more digestable pieces, and just worry about 1 thing at a time.

Consider a person that is alcoholic smoker, that eats too much... they could drop everything and start eatig healthy in one shot, but that will backfire when they have all these urges that need to be met but are holding out on. Where if they take a look, ok I smoke when I drink, and I eat all the time when I'm bored. If first they quit smoking, and work on that, then work on stopping drinking, then change the diet will have alot better chances.

Give a post about your story, why you are here, where you are from (situationally speaking), etc... we'll be more than happy to guide you... and give you a much needed b!tch slap from time to time to keep you on track.

Remember though, we are not the end all and be all about women... we don't know the truth, but generally speaking we have a clearer picture of the truth than the AFC.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by eLMac
A few of my baby steps:

Eliminate porn
Eliminante computer games
Eliminate AFC films, music and TV
Eliminate TV in general
Eliminate as much clutter in your life as possible

Start a physical discipline - I chose Boxing and yoga.
Get adequate sleep
A computer is a tool for work and learning, nothing else.
Watch Alpha films - Oceans11, Top Gun etc
Get balls
Have a beer or two regularly with your buddies whenever you can
Work on developing your Body Language, Voice tone and content/repertoire

This is a few of many...

Scrapped my comment.

 

[MikeyBoi]

No offense to eLMac, but kindly disregard his "baby steps." They're dumb.

 

[eLMac]

'Dumb'?

How specifically?

Sincerely, I really want to know your take...

 

[isotope]

original poster: DO THE DAMN BOOT CAMP

you need to take small steps

 

[MikeyBoi]

eLMac, my take on this is you shouldn't have to become a monk to get laid.

Porn is awesome, so are video games, there are LOTS of great AFC songs (the Beatles and Led Zeppelin have quite a few), TV in general is an entertaining and sometimes educational boredom remedy, and some people thrive in clutter.

It's like you're saying "sex is worth every other luxury in life, so I better sacrifice every other luxury in life."

You're just afraid of taking rejection personally, so you've created a way to be able to blame the fact that you wacked off to that porno, or stayed in to play that video game, or filled your mind with AFC ideas via music.

How about you convince yourself that you have plenty of time and don't need a woman, ANY woman, to give yourself validation
?

 

[FOL!!!]

I agree to mikeyboi... Eliminating everything but being a DJ seems more of a psycho-way of living imho. Why do you want to be a DJ? Because you have succes with women. Why do you want to have succes with women? Because that is what you like (ie: fun). why do you want to have fun? Because that is the basic principle of a human life. Why eliminate all the 'fun' except the fun you get from women? Doesn't make much sense to me.

edit: I'm with the TS here....it's weird to read all this...completely different than what I thought 24 hours ago.

 

[Visceral]

Maybe not once you get your life on track, but when you're first starting out, things like porn, TV, and computer can only distract you from your real life with their instant and mindless gratification.

They are the rut you're in.