"My Boyfriend" breaks rapport.

[es_mer8]

From my experiences, most girls that go to parties alone and all that do not have boyfriends. In fact, I know of a lot of girls that use the imaginary bf excuse. The girls in my grade are weird in a way. As Freshmen and Sophomores, they were dating/****ing Juniors and Seniors. As they became Juniors and Seniors, they hooked up with college guys. I remember the 2nd half of my 11th grade, every girl had a college boyfriend. It was like some school only craze. As it turns out, the mass majority of them had imaginary college boyfriends. As in 90-95%. It was that summer where most of the girls either gave up or got caught lying about it.

One reason why I believe many girls say they have boyfriends when they really don't is that they are insecure. They need to feel validated in their life. In their mind they may be thinking '****, everyone has a bf except me. What is wrong with me?' and then they create a fake boyfriend because they don't want to feel left out. I know for a fact that a lot of girls did this. Sometimes there were these cliques of girls that prided themselves on dating college boyfriends. There was on clique in particular; they were all hot as in 8s, 9s, and arguably a 10 or two. Later on it was revealed that out of the 12 or so girls in this group, only 2 were actually dating college boyfriends and I knew their boyfriends and they were getting ass from girls in college. 1 was fooling around with a kid my age from another school and the remaining 9 were lying out of their asses.

IMO, the boyfriend excuse when a girl is alone most of the time is BS. Most girls should never be that dumb where they believe they can go to a party with men, with alcohol, and expect not to get hit on. I've approached a few girls that claimed they were dating but I nabbed their numbers anyway. Either they were BSing and decided to give it up because I was appealing enough to them or they do have boyfriends and just didn't care.

 

[becker]

I think that applies when you don't know a girl, but what about when a girl has a BF and you've met them? I think that changes things.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by becker
I still can't quite tell whether a girl is mentioning her BF out of interest or as an "I'm taken" thing. Could you elaborate?

NO. Because there is no way in hell you have even attempted to learn and observe what we are talking of, not in this short time span........I go meet some buds for a beer, and already you are giving up?

Suck it up, quit looking here for a definite answer (as there are none), and use the info as it should be used, that being ingested and applied.

I wish you best becker, but don't fall in the trap of thinking your answers are ALL HERE. Good Luck.

 

[becker]

Actually, crowes22, I'm thinking about past instances where this has happened to me, so I'm trying to see what you guys are talking about based on what I've experienced in the past.

I just wanted to know what your experience has been as far as differentiating the different types of "I have a BF" meanings. To me, it all means the same, and even when the girl is complaining about the BF, it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested in you.

 

[SexPDX]

becker, I get the feeling you are thinking of the situation where you ask her out or try to get her phone number and she says "I have a BF". That's different because it's being brought up as an objection. What we are talking about discussing relationships and relationship situations as a rapport building conversation.

To acknowledge krd's concern it's worth pointing out that you have to be careful about being too on guard against things that this board says may lead to LJBF-zone. That's been a problem around here. Just because you talk about relationships when you meet her does not mean you are on a slippery slope to becoming one of her girlfriends.

Also, just as important is that you share your own relationship experiences and your relationship situation. Depending on your ethics, you have the option of lying to match your own relationship situation with hers. If she just got out of a relationship 3 months ago you "broke up with someone a while back", if she has been dating someone for year you "have been seeing someone about that long", if she is dating a married man you are dating a married woman, etc., etc.

-PDX

 

[becker]

SexPDX,

Actually, I'm talking about when you've known a girl for a while, and the BF has never been brought up. I know this girl who never spoke about her BF, and didn't ever act like she had one, then, I asked her to do something on Valentine's Day (nothing mushy, just asked her to go hang out) and she said she couldn't because she had plans with her BF. Then, after that, the BF was hardly brought up again except for certain random splotchy times, like "BF got a new car" or something like that.

Anyways, to me, mentioning this stuff seems to reek of disinterest, since it seems like she wouldn't go there if she was interested since it is certainly more of a conversation killer between members of the opposite sex than anything else.

 

[SexPDX]

Originally posted by becker
SexPDX,

Actually, I'm talking about when you've known a girl for a while, and the BF has never been brought up.

Well, if you have known her "a while" you should be able to tell if she is into you or not anyway.

-PDX

 

[becker]

Even with a BF? I think that the problem is that she's very loyal and not the type of person who would cheat on her BF, so that makes it less likely that she's going to take any actions that would show she's interested even if she is.

She certainly acts interested at times, but she seems to have drawn a line, probably because of the BF thing. That's probably why I feel that a girl seems more likely to be less interested when they say they have a BF than if they don't.

 

[Y Trallwng Am Byth]

Originally posted by -Zero_h0uR-
... the Don Juan Bible , of course.


-- Zero-

The number of fucking twats on this board is sadly growing.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by becker
Even with a BF? I think that the problem is that she's very loyal and not the type of person who would cheat on her BF, so that makes it less likely that she's going to take any actions that would show she's interested even if she is.

lol....becker I'm not picking on you bud, but one day you'll look back on that statement above and be like, "WTF was I thinkin?"

The past two posts Nick made were great IMO, especially about some of the 'slopes' you MUST avoid that seem to be etched in stone in the minds of some here.

This one chick becker, test it, try to fvck her, make no fvcking excuses for it. BOLD. Make it known to her you want to fvck her, not romance her or be her friend or hang out. Work the kino, and more than once, never show her you are afraid of her 'knowing' you want to fvck the hell out of her, be sure she does know it, but that you won't be on your knees begging for it either.

If you bang her, cool. If not cool. At least no more time wasted. And you will have picked up some answers. Any way I think part of your problem is not letting this girl know you want to fvck her, and trying to fvck her of course, that is always the best way to 'let them know'.