My BETA story - Tell yours !

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The purpose of this thread is simple , to show struggling and new embers that some of us giving out the advice also went through hard times and we were not magically gifted all the wisdom we are spilling. I will start with mine.

I never really struggled with women , I had plates in highschool and decided to give a relationship a shot. Long story short after a 4 year relationship I caught her cheating so I broke off the relationship. Now here is where I went full retard. I basically put my whole life on hold for her , I even decided to forgive her after 1 months of continuous begging on her part. We got together and we talked about everything so we set another date , then during that second dates she told me she went on 2 dates with a new guy and she really liked his company. I was upset but I didn't say nothing and eventually she decided she will date this new guy instead so I backed off and sulked like a little boy that I was. Two months into their relationship, we met at a party and she was alone so we talked a bit and I ended up taking her to my hotel and having sex.
After that happened we kept talking for about 3 weeks straight and she seemed really into me again & again the dumb me who was love blind still wanted to be with her.
Anyways , throughout the blissful 3 weeks of talking to her again , I decided to reactivate my Facebook and when I did the first thing that popped up was a picture of my ex and her new man and her praising him as the love of her life and she will love him forever.

That was the breaking point for me , it's like God personally sang his hand from the heavens and biiitcch slapped me in my face. I didn't get confrontational , I just did what I should've done months ago ... I blocked her number and never looked back. She tried calling me 5 times throughout the month of January I never returned any calls. She called my parents for me to call her and I never did. Last 3 months I started getting random calls from different numbers on my phone , so I simply changed phone numbers.
During this nightmare of a time in my life , I stuck to the same message been preached her daily ; focus on your life and your goals. I got a new job that doubled my salary , bought a new car , planning to buy my fit house a year from now hopefully. Met some new friends from work with my new attitude , I also cut some friends off because I figured they were also using me. I've met some new women but I really don't fancy a relationship right now , simply work and fun on the weekends. As to the ex , I think the honeymoon phase is over for her , she is now posting depressed statuses and excessive pictures on Facebook just to boost her ego :cheer:

Honestly to conclude , just enjoy your life because if you decide to worry about the little things you will end up forgetting the important things in life ....YOU & YOUR WELL BEING!
 
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Yeah everyone here thinks they wete beta until they met me. https://youtu.be/K9BtLa35nDQ

More beta then this? I tried to pickup a girl who brought me here knowing 0 about seduction and kissed her ass for months being pathetic thought her interest she showed at first was some type of evil or morse code.
 
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It was funny i went off on her sent million text called her biggest name i could think of oh man thinking about it now i die laughing. I opened up and a weird paradoxthing happend to me something out of a movie i swear like my brain was turning upside down i was having some type of anxiety panic attack then when she said i didnt wanna be with you it went away so weird anyone know why? Then Met another girl ****ed her on 1st night then told her everything possible spilled guts to her she lost interest snap fingers i was pleading with her made cd and gave her flowers being creeper then got in car wreck and learned in my year off what the hell to do
 

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I was full on beta from up until I turned 26.

I got raised in the typical family that breeds this, emotionally unstable mother, emotionally void dad. I had the worst self esteem, and I could never figure out why I couldn't get a girlfriend I wanted, I'd see girls I liked and they'd get with guys who weren't as good looking as me, didn't have good jobs, just loser stoners etc.

I could get girls I wasn't that keen on no problem but the ones I liked, no chance whatsoever. If I did manage a date I'd be awkward as and not hear from them or get friend zoned.

Things I used to do:

Think I had "no chance" with girls who were in most cases actually beneath me, due to chronic low self esteem. (In many cases these girls actually persued me at the start but I'd think "she can't possibly like me like that" even though she'd be texting me over and over that we should "hang out", and I was "so cool" etc etc so I'd go along and friend zone myself. Hahaha

Be way too fvcking nice to them, kiss their ass etc

Become phone/text buddy

Overpersue

Show butthurt

Acting nervous on dates, talking about myself too much, trying to impress

Oneitis, over and over

Not learn from my own mistakes and blame them for being *****es for not wanting to go out with a guy who had so many issues.

You name it, I did it haha
 

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Absolutly awesome post. Definitely an advocate of not sweating the small stuff when there's a much larger painting to be seen. In the long run 1 girl, 1 job, 1 lay, means nothing when compared to the big picture.

My beta story begins freshman year of HS, I was fat and was regularly made fun of just because I was myself. Fast forward to end of sophomore year of HS and my buddy shows me this book on being "an alpha male" after that it was game over. That book changed my life, I'm so glad he showed me that book just at the perfect point in time, right when I needed it

I lost weight, got my grades up and read that book cover to cover 10 times, always refreshed every month. My lay count steadily increased and I met a bunch of awesome girls after that.

Of course I met my one bpd girl senior year and she snapped me in half.

Back to beta years freshman and sophomore year of college. Junior and senior year I got my **** together again and it's been a great ****ing ride since then. Graduated with honors, great job, and great close friends. Just recently I've had time to occupy my phone with plates

That's where my story is at so far
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
Virgin at 29.

Met a girl online.

Spent a weekend with her at my place.

Spent the next weekend at her place.

When I knocked on her door, she answered.

I walked in, hugged her full on, buried my face in her neck, and said this...

"I missed you sooooo much!"

...in the most unmanly voice ever.

holy crap that made me cringe! !!!
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
Virgin at 29.

Met a girl online.

Spent a weekend with her at my place.

Spent the next weekend at her place.

When I knocked on her door, she answered.

I walked in, hugged her full on, buried my face in her neck, and said this...

"I missed you sooooo much!"

...in the most unmanly voice ever.
Lol man, thank god I was never this bad :rolleyes:
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
Virgin at 29.

Met a girl online.

Spent a weekend with her at my place.

Spent the next weekend at her place.

When I knocked on her door, she answered.

I walked in, hugged her full on, buried my face in her neck, and said this...

"I missed you sooooo much!"

...in the most unmanly voice ever.

I've done some beta crap in my time... once even told this chick in a faggoty whimperish voice 'i don't want to lose you'

But you sir... hold the crown here!!
 

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Last of the Alphas said:
Virgin at 29.

Met a girl online.

Spent a weekend with her at my place.

Spent the next weekend at her place.

When I knocked on her door, she answered.

I walked in, hugged her full on, buried my face in her neck, and said this...

"I missed you sooooo much!"

...in the most unmanly voice ever.
This is a really funny one... did you at least fück her?
 

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Another msg from her again today.

Her : "Hey,how are you doing. Are you home ? "
 

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Oh good god I’ve done bone cringing sh*t with women in my younger years stuff i would be too ashamed to repeat now but thankfully everyone was young and stupid back then and it was easier to be forgiven and forgotten

Im fortunate to be “above average” looking and never had trouble getting a woman’s attention despite this ,I was one of the last ones in my group to lose my virginity i don’t know why i waited so long because id had plenty of opportunities to bang multiple girls but when i finally did i was glad i waited as the girl i lost it too was pretty special

As i then got older i got colder and started giving 0 fvcks this provided a lovely stream of pu$$y for about 7 months straight and allowed me to get a good wealth of experience in sex i was starting to get really good at ONS often ending a session with “oh my god where did you learn that”

But then things changed i got hung up on a bpd cocaine wh0re which ultimately was going to be my undoing and it of course lead me to this site

Since being on SS ive learnt more about women then i could ever imagine , i knew how to deal with them before but now i understand why they do the crazy stuff they do

Ive also chilled out a lot with chicks , i used to go all guns blazing trying to get theyre panties off as quickly as possible now i build the tension way before we even get in the taxi

My goal is eventually to find a quality woman that f1ucks me good , has eyes for me only and always has my back but you wouldnt believe how hard it is too find this combination these days lol
 

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21 years old.

Worked at Best Buy, had crush on hottest girl in the store.

Got her number, tried to text her sparingly but convey confidence and get her to go out with me

1 month later asked her to go to the bar with my friends.

I drive her and 3 of my other friends to the bar (1 of those another girl)

See other dude from the store that works in the same dept as me. Thought he was there by coincidence.

10 mins into being there, Lil Wayne - She will comes on and she starts grinding on him. I was kinda mad cause I thought i waited too long. She hooks up with him 30 seconds later..

Devestated, I realize she only came with me cause she needed a ride and his car was full.

Bright Side was I was so mad and motivated I hooked up with 3 girls infront of her and left her there with no ride home.
 

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I don't think I was really ever TOO beta, I just don't understand people who don't use logical thinking day in and day out, as I am an ENTJ personality type. Once I started to learn about emotions a bit I started to come around & was better with women overall.
 

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When I was 19 I was dating a solid 8.5/10 hot thing. She had orbiters galore and I was a total AFC.

One night after a fight when we were out at a bar I texted her ''Are we still together?''

A few months later I wrote her a page long dribble about my feelings for her.

So bad but didn't know any other way..Problem with having a beta Dad.
 

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Sophomore in college.

This past January I got a hot girls number, and she pursued me at first.

Went on a few dates and we started seeing each other 4-5 times a week outside of college.

I started getting too comfortable, and let my ego drift away and that's when things went downhill.

She acted distant, less hanging out, then the break up came.

Ultimately, I figured out what had to be changed and the outcome was bedding her best friend.
 
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