My approch / opener / interactions with females thread

[slitherjef]

AKA, get over my shyness and fear approching and talking to more women whom I find attractive thread. Co-workers / Customers and Cold approches / opens or interactions I will post here to try to keep things neat and not scattered and hopefuly give me motivation to open my mouth.

Comments and suggestions welcome...






Day: (12/8/07)
Location: Work
Type: Customer / open
Discription: Was tired the whole day from only having just 2 hours of

sleep and I did miss a few chances to open other chicks. I did plan on just doing no opens because I mean, I just did not feel like it. Near the end of my shift I am stocking up some bannanas and see this cute 6 walk up behind me. I see her and say to my self the heck with it and I opened her:

Me: Hey, hows it going?
Her: its going okay, how about your self
Me: Im very tired (this worked better then okay, because a short convo started)
Her: Long day?
Me: yeah, and night, Im sure you know how that goes
Her: Yeah, well I hope you don't have too much longer to go before you're off
Me: Only about 10 minutes to go
Her: Thats good
Me: Yeah, I am going to go home and crash
Her: *says something else, I can't remember*
Her: *walking away* Have a good night
Me: You too
Her: Thanks

WOW. That was hard Actualy, there was nothing really to it Felt pretty good even if it was just a casual short conversation.

Hope to post more soon

 

[slitherjef]

Wow. I have done a whole lot of nothing the past couple days...

 

[The Scoot]

Hey man, good job. You and me are in the same boat. I frequent hot spots such as the mall, coffee shops, or book stores, where a lot of girls are at, and just say "how you doing." It works well. Good luck man. Just look at it as if its a video game. If you mess up its no big deal, you'll get another shot with another girl, and you can learn a lot from your mistakes.

 

[slitherjef]

Hows about this. I got something, albeit a minor interaction, its still something.

Date: 12/20/07
Location: Work
Type: Co-worker
Description:

Went in early to work today to get my paycheck and cash it and another one so I was in my street cloths. I guess the chick at the counter was new as she was still having trouble running the checks and had to ask for help. Anyway during the long interaction, there is a bit of talking, nothing much.

While she is running my 2nd check, I press a button which interups her register. So Im like oops, she gets it fixed and tells me not to touch anything, no buttons or anything, so being being a smart ass, I say okay, took a step from the desk and place my hands behind my back and tell her okay, and smile. She giggles and says thats not what she ment.

The whole interaction I had with her was pretty positive and fun. The bad part though is, she was really not that attractive to me. Oh well, got more practice in.

A while later I was back at the store working though I had a to help a couple good looking customers, that was more work related then anything. I did ask some guy how he was doing. Might as well talk to everyone.

I spend the day trying to project a positive frame, you know just be in a good mood, and happy to help customers and such

 

[j0n024]

Good luck !!! I love FR"s so try to update regularly ok! Good luck your on your way!

 

[slitherjef]

Hey, guess what? I got another couple openers

Said "Hey" to a couple women today. Once again nothing major but I suppose its another small step forward. Only one "Hey, hows it going" got me further and that was with a cute blond who had a good looking rack. It was short, but all good.

I was putting some onions up and she came up to grab some onions from another bin, so she is standing, I mean about 2 foot in front of me. It was wierd because it felt awkward NOT saying something to her, so what the hell, I opened her with a, "hows it going" Which got an answer while she was searching for that perfect onion. Then an onion rolled onto the floor, she says sorry, asking if it rolled off. I said it was under my table, then lightly teased her about trying to break my onions.

She then asked if I seen what it was doing out side. I said I had not, but it was starting to snow when I came in. She told me it was snowing. Me, trying (not too hard) to keep the flow going, tells her, "I seen it walking by, it looks like its snowing sideways out there. She said yup, and starts to head away. I tell her to have a safe trip home, she thanks me and that was that.

Another open was I was doing some something and a woman comes up to get something while I am shuffling things around. I look up and say, "hows it going" as she said, "sorry" about being in my way. Then she runs off to talk to her friend. LOL

So, this seems to be getting easier

 

[slitherjef]

More of the usual small stuff today.

First up, right before I punched in at work, I was walking along the front in and see a cute chick stading at the bank (the bank was actualy open on a Sunday!?). As I walked by, I looked at her, she looked back, our eyes connect, then her face goes down to the floor and left and I catch a quick smile.

Nice. To bad I kept walking and did not even smile back.

Later in the day, I get a "Hi, how are you tonight?" out. The chick says, "okay, you?". I tell her Im burned out, we where short handed. The conversation burned out right there too... she just walked away.

EDIT >>
I went to grab some lunch at taco bell (I know, but the store was busy as hell) There is a cute girl that takes my order, so I try to be friendly with her. I place my order, set at my table realize I forgot something, so I go back and order what I forgot. When I get back up to the counter, she gives me the usual generic work script, "Hi, can I help you" So I said, "Hi, again" and smiled. She did not play along so I just placed my order feeling a tad like a jack ass but not really giving a rip. My order came up, so I grab it, go back to my table and continue eating. A few moments she comes to my table with the sour cream they forgot to give me. She sits it down and says, sorry about that. Im like what!?

Oh well

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Tonight I noticed that a lot of the chicks that work in the store don't even f**kin look at me. I walked by one tonight and I swear, she did her best NOT to look. We where walking toward each other


I take that back, I did notice a cutie looking at me from a distance while I was working. I think we where playing eye hockey.

 

[Rashad]

as far as girls not looking at you, that is their self image. nothing to do with you.

Oh and a suggestion: When someone asks how you are, they DO NOT want to hear how bad your life is. I used to work at a grocery store and i hated it, but you have to be more positive. AFCs tell everyone who doesnt care how bad of a job the new stockboy is doing, and how the U-scan machine broke so you had a rough morning..

Talk about THEM.

 

[slitherjef]

as far as girls not looking at you, that is their self image. nothing to do with you.

Oh and a suggestion: When someone asks how you are, they DO NOT want to hear how bad your life is. I used to work at a grocery store and i hated it, but you have to be more positive. AFCs tell everyone who doesnt care how bad of a job the new stockboy is doing, and how the U-scan machine broke so you had a rough morning..

Talk about THEM.

Thanks for the tip.

 

[slitherjef]

Got a couple more "hey, hows it going's" in today. Getting a bit easier each time. This time, they where not hot chicks, but random people.

I need to start keeping count of how many of these I actualy do. I still need to actualy have conversations and do this AWAY from my job

 

[slitherjef]

Been a slow few days.

A couple days ago, I gave some chick at the counter of a food joint some eye contact. She smiled back looking toward the floor.

Last night some girl came up to me 3 different times asking me for stuff. Twice in about 10 minuts and again about 20 minutes later

Today at work I had a chick introduce her self to me, one who I am a bit interested in. She is a cutie too. She actualy made the effort, I did nothing. I was doing my thing in my department, her and another person came over to put some things away. She asked me where something went, I told her. The next thing I know she says, "I don't believe we ever met, Im HB" and extends her hand to shake mine, but my hand is all wet from work so I tell her I would shake her hand if my hand was clean. She understood

Yeah. Big deal, but it may get interesting since she works there and knows my friend (who happens to be good with chicks).

I figure cool, now I got someone new to talk to

 

[Mr. Ballz]

ya its hard bud, but youve got to build it up. start slow if you have to but always dare yourself to move deeper. dont quit, you can always go back to your old bad habits, but for right now, this day, this moment feel the rush of improving.

 

[slitherjef]

In a slump right now. I mean, I have talked with a couple people, but nothing that would possibly lead to anything

 

[slitherjef]

Well, hey, would you look at that... I got a couple

Today at work, first up, a cute co-worker (this is the same one who introduced her self to me a short while back). Well, I guess this don't count for crap because I did this one to deliver a message from a buddy she worked with. His phone broke, and I guess she was interested in him, but he lost her number, so he wanted me to tell her to give him a call.

I did NOT want to do this, he is the one who wanted to talk to her, he should be doing this crap, but he pissed me off, kept asking for me to, so finally I said eff it and ended up getting the chance. I had to help sack grocery since the store got hit with a rush, so I found my self sacking for this chick for about 15min, keeping things professional with customers and stuff. After she was done ringing people up, I stopped her and asked if she knew my friend from the store whe worked at previously. She asked a few questions, which was understandable, I picked up a bit of a "WTF" type vibe. Geez, I wonder why, this chick barely knows me and I am doing crap like this for my friend. This is WHY I did not want to do this in the first place, but oh well. If he wanted it done right, he shoulda came down to the friggin place and did it him self.

Anyway, she figured out who my friend was, I and told her what was up. I was a bit nervous, well, because I sort of like this chick myself. My friend is seeing some one else and wants to keep this chick as a friend (my ass, he has already felt her up and made out with her).

Yeah, what a good start with someone I barely know. On the plus side if she does start to hang with my friend, there is always I chance I may be around her away from work, but Im not going to hold my breath.

Maybe I will start saying hi to her at work when we cross paths

I was able to look at her face most of the time and not the floor, her chest or what not like I used to do. Actualy I notice my self doing this to others Im talking to as well

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I also got a couple hello/hows it goings in today, Nothing special. Right before the end of my shift, I seen a chick, she was alright, a bit thick, an okay face, in my book, probably do-able, so I open her. Had a small conversation with her...

Me: Hows it going tonight
Her: Fine, how about you?
Me: Im doing okay.
Her: yeah, *I don't hear the rest*
Me: Im sorry?
Her: You would be even better if you where not at work, though huh?
Me: Yeah, probably, but I would probably just be bored
Her: yeah, and at least here you are getting some money,
Me: Yeah,
Her *walking away* well, have a good night
Me, you too!
Her: Thanks

I am starting to get the feeling I probably could have turned this into a little something more The line she gave me about being a bit better if I was not at work, was that a cue I missed?

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I seen a woman walk in, I spot her as my eyes go back to what I am doing and I noticed, she just flashed a smile. Too late now to flash her one back.

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I have found that after saying hi to one person, doing it the next time gets easier

 

[slitherjef]

Not a whole lot today. Just a customer/empoyee interation (as usual). Asked some guy how he was doing, he said fine then ask me how I was.

A bit later a cute chick gets close enough for me to ask her how she is doing tonight. She said pretty good. Asked me the same.

yup

 

[slitherjef]

Got a couple more in today. Nothing too exciting, but I am starting to losen up more.

I did notice an older woman at work, by older I mean, older then I am. Possible MILF. She usualy says hi to me everytime I cross her path. Things don't go past an "hows it going" though I am sure I could actualy have a conversation with her.

Said hi to a few people today (customers), being friendly. Once chick was a mom, did not seem to interested in talking, but I got a hi back.

As I left work, I had to cash my check, the chick at the service desk was not too interested in talking too much. Oh well.

This is starting to get easier. The next step it to do it for real... not with training wheels as I have been doing...

 

[slitherjef]

Been a while, but got a couple more hows it going's in... at work today. I also played keep-a-way with a female customer briefly. It was fun

 

[slitherjef]

Been quite for a while now, not saying much to anyone. The otherday, however I had a small run-in with a cute customer. I was doing some work another person and I had an area blocked off, so I moved (needed to anyway) and let the cutie pass. She said thanks, so I said, "sure, that'll be 5 bucks" She giggled so I said, "dang, that never works" she tells me it may work on someone" I tell her, I hope so, then I proceed to ramble a little bit. LOL
Oh well.

 

[LegendaryGame]

Damn good read man, GOOD THREAD!

Let me be first to tell you a few tips. I think after all this minor interactions, you are getting warmed up and have moved forward. I think you should try to see if you can practice extending conversations a tad bit. Not super long or anything just a bit more than 2 to 3 sentences. AFter all thats the only way to improvement, if you push yourself and see what you are able to do.


In regards to the girl saying, "you'd be better if you were out of work." that could've meant she was interested in you. You can extend that convo like saying "well, i get off at so and so time, what are you up to tonight?" super casually. You can build and build off that, but just move slow. That extra line would make you be moving things forward and boosting your convo skills. Lets know how its goin. Keep postin up man.

 

[slitherjef]

Said "how's it going" to another cutie today. A customer. She said, "fine" then thanked me, and asked how I was. I told her okay.

Had a small conversation in the back room with the florist, asking her if she was sick of flowers yet. It was an okay mini conversation, of corse I have zero interest in her.

A bit later, I came back in from break and notice my u-boat was missing. I figured it was the donation guy. A bit later, I spot my u-boat and the person who took it. It was a cute chick. I run into a bit later in my back room, she mentioned she took my boat, I tell her, "okay, I thought I was loosing it, I come back in from break and my boat is gone" she said no, she stole it, I had not lost my mind after all." I say thats good to know Never spoke to her before tonight. It was a good interation. She went to the phone right after so I could not continue, but now I can mess with her a little bit about stealing LOL