Working out and women is always a bone of contention.
The nay'sayers cry "I see skinny boy over there with hot women, therefore working out is redundant when it comes to matters of love"
The bodybuilders cry "I am muscular, I am man, I am alpha, the more muscular you are the more women you get."
At 16 I was 150lbs, 5 ft 9 12% body fat and strong for my weight. I wasn't overly muscular but I had a good physique. I would say in the top 10% of males in that age group in my area. I got a lot of attention off women on a constant basis, these women range from very hot through to not so hot
Fast forward 7 years later I am 180lbs and 20% body fat. I would say my physique is just above average for my age. My face is rounder and clothes don't hang as well on me. I get some attention however this is mainly from average women.
There is a huge difference.. I am much more successful now than I was when I was 16, I have more money, higher status job, however the women I am getting has gone down in quality and quantity.
For me, the key is this... It is not the working out and the body what makes the difference. It is the mindset which is demanded of me through being in the gym and improving myself.
I started working out and got women, I linked these 2 together as cause and effect. The cause wasn't the body, it was the mindset of self improvement which was the cause of getting women.
The more I progressed careerwise the more women I got, again it wasn't so much the status as much as the mindset of self improvement which got the women.
When I was 16, I had a sense of self, I didn't know which way I was going with my life, I just wanted to improve myself in every way. How I dealt with women, how I handled career prospects, how i looked physically were all things I wanted to improve upon, and I did. I got where I wanted to go, I had the hot women and I had the status of being a company owner. My status and the women I'd been with/was going with became who I was.
I stopped improving for myself and started trying to improve myself for other people and how I was viewed in society.
Every time I got back into the gym or got the motivation to work harder, I found after a short period i wound up sat at home, feeling down and eating dominoes. This is because I had stopped improving myself for me, I had got back on the hamster wheel of pleasing other people.
I became a slave to social media, looking at how many likes pictures had and getting my phone out at every opportunity to try and improve my social proof, break that cycle, delete the apps off your phone and focus on you.Having all the cool posts on facebook in the world doesn't mean jack sh1t if you are doing it for other people's validation
I am an advocate of working out, if you are massively overweight, working out is a good thing. I do think women are attracted to athletic muscular guys initially, just like men can't help but stare at a great rack! That being said, there are many levels to how women are attracted which are subconscious as opposed to the direct "sh1t he's hot". I can appreciate that hitting the gym all the time isn't everyone's cup of tea and if you have other goals, pursue them!
Self improvement for yourself is the key to acheiving your goals.
The nay'sayers cry "I see skinny boy over there with hot women, therefore working out is redundant when it comes to matters of love"
The bodybuilders cry "I am muscular, I am man, I am alpha, the more muscular you are the more women you get."
At 16 I was 150lbs, 5 ft 9 12% body fat and strong for my weight. I wasn't overly muscular but I had a good physique. I would say in the top 10% of males in that age group in my area. I got a lot of attention off women on a constant basis, these women range from very hot through to not so hot
Fast forward 7 years later I am 180lbs and 20% body fat. I would say my physique is just above average for my age. My face is rounder and clothes don't hang as well on me. I get some attention however this is mainly from average women.
There is a huge difference.. I am much more successful now than I was when I was 16, I have more money, higher status job, however the women I am getting has gone down in quality and quantity.
For me, the key is this... It is not the working out and the body what makes the difference. It is the mindset which is demanded of me through being in the gym and improving myself.
I started working out and got women, I linked these 2 together as cause and effect. The cause wasn't the body, it was the mindset of self improvement which was the cause of getting women.
The more I progressed careerwise the more women I got, again it wasn't so much the status as much as the mindset of self improvement which got the women.
When I was 16, I had a sense of self, I didn't know which way I was going with my life, I just wanted to improve myself in every way. How I dealt with women, how I handled career prospects, how i looked physically were all things I wanted to improve upon, and I did. I got where I wanted to go, I had the hot women and I had the status of being a company owner. My status and the women I'd been with/was going with became who I was.
I stopped improving for myself and started trying to improve myself for other people and how I was viewed in society.
Every time I got back into the gym or got the motivation to work harder, I found after a short period i wound up sat at home, feeling down and eating dominoes. This is because I had stopped improving myself for me, I had got back on the hamster wheel of pleasing other people.
I became a slave to social media, looking at how many likes pictures had and getting my phone out at every opportunity to try and improve my social proof, break that cycle, delete the apps off your phone and focus on you.Having all the cool posts on facebook in the world doesn't mean jack sh1t if you are doing it for other people's validation
I am an advocate of working out, if you are massively overweight, working out is a good thing. I do think women are attracted to athletic muscular guys initially, just like men can't help but stare at a great rack! That being said, there are many levels to how women are attracted which are subconscious as opposed to the direct "sh1t he's hot". I can appreciate that hitting the gym all the time isn't everyone's cup of tea and if you have other goals, pursue them!
Self improvement for yourself is the key to acheiving your goals.
