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Don Juan
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- Jan 15, 2006
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No wonder I'm an alcoholic.
The girl who's been giving me the runaround for the last year and half, and despite repeated LJBF's speeches (and subsequent "but I'm confused" speeches), and numerous "NEXT"ing on my part, and just as many "I'm so sorry, I need you in my life!" conversations on her part two months after those, and just about every headgame in the book, and I, had sex a few weeks ago. Yes, it was awkward, and no, it wasn't worth the wait, but I still wanted to continue on that path. I don't think it's even possible for something like that, given the circumstances, to have not been awkard and unrewarding at this point, but it should get better later, right? She (and it sounded relucatant, as though she thought she'd beat me to the punch) pulled another "I want to stay friends, because it just seems awkward." line, and I countered with a "No deal, ma'am!" rebuttal. Well, actually I just said, "I don't want to be just friends with you, because we've been down that road, and it just doesn't work for me.".
She said "Let's get together and talk about it.".
Well, five get-togethers later, and we've broken no ground. Just a lot of awkwardness. It's like it's too much for either of us to deal with. All I've learned is that she still had/has feelings for her ex, although I think she had a reality check when she realized that he HAS in fact moved on, that she doesn't understand why anyone would be so interested in her, as every guy just wants a one night stand, an f-buddy, or to just be friends, and that she thinks I've had a thing for her going back 6 years. That last part is actually the other way around, because she was the one flirting with me all these years, even when she had a bf, she was the one to persue me when she was single, she was the one to ask for my phone number, she was the one to tell my friends that she wanted to fvck me/that she liked me/that she thought I was cute, whatknot, ect.... I only really began to have any feelings for her after she made these things apparent.
So, the last time I saw her was last friday. She was out with her friends at the bar, and I was out alone. It was the usual wierd night. Some fat lesbian came over, put her hands all over her, and invited her and her friends over to their table, and she flat out said "No. I don't want to.". She noticed me laughing to myself.
Then various dumbasses kept trying to hit on her, despite my presence. None of them seemed to get anywhere, and she turned to me and said the wierdest thing. "I don't know why I even bother with men... besides you." What? "Well, they're all a bunch of meatheads, and you're not. You're smarter than they are.".
I guess she was calling me a woman.
Anyway, by the end of the night it looked almost certain that we were gonna go off to fvck, but sure enough, when we got outside she went absolutely cold and said she was going home. Granted, she had to drive her friend home, but I'm sure she could have gotten a ride home with the random guy she was making out with in the parking lot. I just stood there, like a confused child who recently had his teddybear taken away. I could have gotten more aggressive, but instead I half-arsedly went in for a kiss after we hugged. I think I got the side of her mouth or something, and she told me to stop being wierd. Oops and stuff.
Then I got into my car, drove over to hers, made a further ass out of myself, and she told me again that she was going home. Keep in mind, I wasn't begging or anything, just kinda sat there and looked at her. So I went home and b1ched to my roommate. Another fun filled friday night complete.
I don't really get it. She's all over me one minute, then cold as ice the next. Her friends all like me, so that's not a problem. The one she was driving home even said to me that she would have a talk with her about it. Obvious drunk talk, but even so, she hits on me too. Nobody understands it. There's so much obvious sexual tension between the two of us that it's suffocating. It ends up going nowhere. I'm tired of people telling me that they don't understand our relationship.
The other day I received this email:
"hey there. what's good? i haven't been ignoring you...i just needed a little break (*1). we should probably get together soon. there are some things we need to talk about. not bad...just things (*2). huh...guess who's talking to me again? 3 guesses...first 2 don't count...(*3)
sincerely
MM"
*1- I didn't notice that she might have been ignoring me. I only saw her 3 days prior.
*2- What?
*3- Umm... I sorta fvcked one of her friends a while back, and they're on speaking terms again. Am I supposed to care?
So I tried getting together with her last night. "Long day at work, call me tomorrow."
She ended up calling me first, and cancelled.
"I'm sick.... feeling a little better than I did earlier... but not feeling up to it... maybe tomorrow, but I'm going out with a friend around 4, and you know how that is."
4 doesn't work. I work too late. I kept trying to pry it out of her, what it is she wanted to talk about and why she's being all serious, and I kept getting long periods of silence, and finally a "It's nothing."
Why must you be so confusing?
"I dunno... I confuse myself. Maybe we can still get together at some point tomorrow. I'm really not sure what's going on. We'll play it by ear. TTY."
I think she's on her period anyway (she's about on time with my roommate on this matter... don't ask me why I know this), so that's no fun.
Whatever. I don't understand women. I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this here either. Everytime I've gotten anywhere with girls has been when I completely ignore all these "DJ rules", and that damned bible everyone's always talking about. I'm expecting a few "NEXT her"'s and a couple "You're in the friendzone" replies. Too bad that gumball machine advice never gets me anywhere. I'm not looking for one-night-stands or the like. I honestly don't want anyone else, and she still shows signs of interest.
The girl who's been giving me the runaround for the last year and half, and despite repeated LJBF's speeches (and subsequent "but I'm confused" speeches), and numerous "NEXT"ing on my part, and just as many "I'm so sorry, I need you in my life!" conversations on her part two months after those, and just about every headgame in the book, and I, had sex a few weeks ago. Yes, it was awkward, and no, it wasn't worth the wait, but I still wanted to continue on that path. I don't think it's even possible for something like that, given the circumstances, to have not been awkard and unrewarding at this point, but it should get better later, right? She (and it sounded relucatant, as though she thought she'd beat me to the punch) pulled another "I want to stay friends, because it just seems awkward." line, and I countered with a "No deal, ma'am!" rebuttal. Well, actually I just said, "I don't want to be just friends with you, because we've been down that road, and it just doesn't work for me.".
She said "Let's get together and talk about it.".
Well, five get-togethers later, and we've broken no ground. Just a lot of awkwardness. It's like it's too much for either of us to deal with. All I've learned is that she still had/has feelings for her ex, although I think she had a reality check when she realized that he HAS in fact moved on, that she doesn't understand why anyone would be so interested in her, as every guy just wants a one night stand, an f-buddy, or to just be friends, and that she thinks I've had a thing for her going back 6 years. That last part is actually the other way around, because she was the one flirting with me all these years, even when she had a bf, she was the one to persue me when she was single, she was the one to ask for my phone number, she was the one to tell my friends that she wanted to fvck me/that she liked me/that she thought I was cute, whatknot, ect.... I only really began to have any feelings for her after she made these things apparent.
So, the last time I saw her was last friday. She was out with her friends at the bar, and I was out alone. It was the usual wierd night. Some fat lesbian came over, put her hands all over her, and invited her and her friends over to their table, and she flat out said "No. I don't want to.". She noticed me laughing to myself.
Then various dumbasses kept trying to hit on her, despite my presence. None of them seemed to get anywhere, and she turned to me and said the wierdest thing. "I don't know why I even bother with men... besides you." What? "Well, they're all a bunch of meatheads, and you're not. You're smarter than they are.".
I guess she was calling me a woman.
Anyway, by the end of the night it looked almost certain that we were gonna go off to fvck, but sure enough, when we got outside she went absolutely cold and said she was going home. Granted, she had to drive her friend home, but I'm sure she could have gotten a ride home with the random guy she was making out with in the parking lot. I just stood there, like a confused child who recently had his teddybear taken away. I could have gotten more aggressive, but instead I half-arsedly went in for a kiss after we hugged. I think I got the side of her mouth or something, and she told me to stop being wierd. Oops and stuff.
Then I got into my car, drove over to hers, made a further ass out of myself, and she told me again that she was going home. Keep in mind, I wasn't begging or anything, just kinda sat there and looked at her. So I went home and b1ched to my roommate. Another fun filled friday night complete.
I don't really get it. She's all over me one minute, then cold as ice the next. Her friends all like me, so that's not a problem. The one she was driving home even said to me that she would have a talk with her about it. Obvious drunk talk, but even so, she hits on me too. Nobody understands it. There's so much obvious sexual tension between the two of us that it's suffocating. It ends up going nowhere. I'm tired of people telling me that they don't understand our relationship.
The other day I received this email:
"hey there. what's good? i haven't been ignoring you...i just needed a little break (*1). we should probably get together soon. there are some things we need to talk about. not bad...just things (*2). huh...guess who's talking to me again? 3 guesses...first 2 don't count...(*3)
sincerely
MM"
*1- I didn't notice that she might have been ignoring me. I only saw her 3 days prior.
*2- What?
*3- Umm... I sorta fvcked one of her friends a while back, and they're on speaking terms again. Am I supposed to care?
So I tried getting together with her last night. "Long day at work, call me tomorrow."
She ended up calling me first, and cancelled.
"I'm sick.... feeling a little better than I did earlier... but not feeling up to it... maybe tomorrow, but I'm going out with a friend around 4, and you know how that is."
4 doesn't work. I work too late. I kept trying to pry it out of her, what it is she wanted to talk about and why she's being all serious, and I kept getting long periods of silence, and finally a "It's nothing."
Why must you be so confusing?
"I dunno... I confuse myself. Maybe we can still get together at some point tomorrow. I'm really not sure what's going on. We'll play it by ear. TTY."
I think she's on her period anyway (she's about on time with my roommate on this matter... don't ask me why I know this), so that's no fun.
Whatever. I don't understand women. I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this here either. Everytime I've gotten anywhere with girls has been when I completely ignore all these "DJ rules", and that damned bible everyone's always talking about. I'm expecting a few "NEXT her"'s and a couple "You're in the friendzone" replies. Too bad that gumball machine advice never gets me anywhere. I'm not looking for one-night-stands or the like. I honestly don't want anyone else, and she still shows signs of interest.
