SynapsyS
Don Juan
(I'm not really sure where to put this, but Tips seems to be the best place, seeing as this is more of a theory post, rather than a direct question. If a mod thinks it deserves somewhere else, feel free to move it 
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Over a long period of time, I've been observing the trends in popular styles of music. And one morning, as I was listening to the radio, I noticed a very worrying aspect.
A lot of popular music today promotes being an AFC!
Of course, there is the emo stuff like Linkin Park, Simple Plan, Dashboard Confessional (i can't keep typing these bands, my fingers are peeling away from the keys!), which is self explanitory really. A lot of it is showing guys are puppies and etc. And young guys assimilate these values and attitudes into their beings!
But, then, I noticed that more mainstream music was promoting it, perhaps not as blatantly, but still effectively. I can't think of examples, as I don't have any on hand that I can conveniently listen to, but there are a lot of phrases flying around which basically say "I love you, take me back."
Ergh.
After some time, I realised that a lot of the AFC'ness that exists in the world may be directly linked to the music that they listen to. Lets have a look at a few examples (because my friends are perfect examples)
Let's first look at "Adam" (not a real name, for privacy's sake). He listens to Linkin Park, Greenday, Lost Prophets, Simple Plan, Dashboard, and etc. He is absolutely terrible with girls. He is occasionally whiney and depressed, and when we sarge with him, girls don't get attracted easily. He's fairly good looking though, so I guess that's what works for him.
Now, observe "Ben". Ben listens to 70's and 80's classics, and a lot of prog, such as The Beetles, Pink Floyd, Deep Purple, King Crimson, Dire Straights, and etc. He also listens to a lot of prog metal, like Dream Theater, Ayreon (well, I won't go into that genre, but it'll be placed here), Symphony X, and etc. None of this music promotes anything to do with AFC'ness. Hell, a lot of it is just about tripping out, or fighting dragons, or whatever. Now, this guy is a legend with the girls. Me and him are like, the team. He managed to get 10 numbers in an hour at the shops once.
There are other examples that I can call on, but those are the best ones. We see example A, who reflects the values of his music, as does example B. However, only example A's music has any direct reference to dealing with girls, whereas B's music is entirely unrelated.
Which lead me to thinking, is there any music out there that promotes everything we learn here on sosuave? I can't find any.
So, where I used to listen to A's music a lot, I know listen to B's music. Obviously, it's not that simple, but, it certaintly helped me get out of the AFC ideals, as I wasn't having them forced into my head. Now, I can enjoy my music (check out anything in B's list) with passion, and this shows through when I deal with girls. Because I find prog metal/rock to be so brilliant and inspiring, I reflect that. As such, I'm always being told that I'm a "fun guy, but a bit weird" I guess that comes with it, but the girls who say it mean it as a compliment, and so I work with it.
So guys who are working on their game, stop listening to emo music, or anything with any reference to AFC'ness, and I think you'll find an improvement in your game
Syn.
(I hope that was cohesive).
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Over a long period of time, I've been observing the trends in popular styles of music. And one morning, as I was listening to the radio, I noticed a very worrying aspect.
A lot of popular music today promotes being an AFC!
Of course, there is the emo stuff like Linkin Park, Simple Plan, Dashboard Confessional (i can't keep typing these bands, my fingers are peeling away from the keys!), which is self explanitory really. A lot of it is showing guys are puppies and etc. And young guys assimilate these values and attitudes into their beings!
But, then, I noticed that more mainstream music was promoting it, perhaps not as blatantly, but still effectively. I can't think of examples, as I don't have any on hand that I can conveniently listen to, but there are a lot of phrases flying around which basically say "I love you, take me back."
Ergh.
After some time, I realised that a lot of the AFC'ness that exists in the world may be directly linked to the music that they listen to. Lets have a look at a few examples (because my friends are perfect examples
)Let's first look at "Adam" (not a real name, for privacy's sake). He listens to Linkin Park, Greenday, Lost Prophets, Simple Plan, Dashboard, and etc. He is absolutely terrible with girls. He is occasionally whiney and depressed, and when we sarge with him, girls don't get attracted easily. He's fairly good looking though, so I guess that's what works for him.
Now, observe "Ben". Ben listens to 70's and 80's classics, and a lot of prog, such as The Beetles, Pink Floyd, Deep Purple, King Crimson, Dire Straights, and etc. He also listens to a lot of prog metal, like Dream Theater, Ayreon (well, I won't go into that genre, but it'll be placed here), Symphony X, and etc. None of this music promotes anything to do with AFC'ness. Hell, a lot of it is just about tripping out, or fighting dragons, or whatever. Now, this guy is a legend with the girls. Me and him are like, the team. He managed to get 10 numbers in an hour at the shops once.
There are other examples that I can call on, but those are the best ones. We see example A, who reflects the values of his music, as does example B. However, only example A's music has any direct reference to dealing with girls, whereas B's music is entirely unrelated.
Which lead me to thinking, is there any music out there that promotes everything we learn here on sosuave? I can't find any.
So, where I used to listen to A's music a lot, I know listen to B's music. Obviously, it's not that simple, but, it certaintly helped me get out of the AFC ideals, as I wasn't having them forced into my head. Now, I can enjoy my music (check out anything in B's list) with passion, and this shows through when I deal with girls. Because I find prog metal/rock to be so brilliant and inspiring, I reflect that. As such, I'm always being told that I'm a "fun guy, but a bit weird
" I guess that comes with it, but the girls who say it mean it as a compliment, and so I work with it.So guys who are working on their game, stop listening to emo music, or anything with any reference to AFC'ness, and I think you'll find an improvement in your game
Syn.
(I hope that was cohesive).
