Joe-
You make a good point because I personally stood back and asked myself whether or not it was "appropriate" or not, and to be honest I could see her taking it the wrong way. Maybe as you said I misread how far i could push the envelope with this one. I should have known better since she had given me such a mixed impression in the past.
One thing I didn't mention was the other two comments she made before hand.
The first one was when we were talking about this other chick I didn't know from last weekend who made an offhand comment to me. I said "I don't like her because she didn't even know me and walked right up to my face and made a man hating comment". My friend agreed with me that that chick was obnoxious, but her friend said "I do that stuff all the time". I was like "Yea, but not to a stranger", which she agreed was inappropriate. It just annoys me when women feel the need to spout this stuff around men. On a message board or when you AREN'T in mixed company, but don't talk down about men in front of them. It's a turn off. I don't bash women in front of women.
The second comment was when I brought up something about a picture joke my friend and I have between us. I told my friend "Good thing you were drunk cause I grabbed your boob....you probably don't remember!" (it's an inside joke, but I did grab her boob). She laughed and said she did remember me doing that, then her friend chimes in, "Well it's a good thing you didn't do that to ME". Maybe that should have been my clue that she can't take what I throw out.
She obviously didn't mean anything by what she said, but it gave me a closer glimpse at her personality, and I didn't particularly care for it.
Man, all I do is point out examples of how women tend to lack integrity, basically calling a spade a spade. I say women tend to be this way or that way but I never say they suck! I don't hate women, I just have a bad taste in my mouth about how today's society works.
But I hold firm to my belief that dateable women are becoming increasingly rare. More and more I read things or hear a woman say something to the effect of "Don't you know? Women rule the world now". I had one chick say it to my face last weekend (see above), I read it on a craigslist post last week, and I even read it somewhere else online awhile back. It's sickening to hear a woman say that. Too many of them have this same attitude, even if they don't vocalize it. It's evident in their actions.
And as far as dealing with women I do actually "date", I am very careful to project the right attitude even if they do something that might be a little out of line, cause I know it doesn't do any good to show that they are getting under your skin. they take it as WEAKNESS, and I refuse to project that to people, even if it means biting my tongue and keeping my game face on.
You make a good point because I personally stood back and asked myself whether or not it was "appropriate" or not, and to be honest I could see her taking it the wrong way. Maybe as you said I misread how far i could push the envelope with this one. I should have known better since she had given me such a mixed impression in the past.
One thing I didn't mention was the other two comments she made before hand.
The first one was when we were talking about this other chick I didn't know from last weekend who made an offhand comment to me. I said "I don't like her because she didn't even know me and walked right up to my face and made a man hating comment". My friend agreed with me that that chick was obnoxious, but her friend said "I do that stuff all the time". I was like "Yea, but not to a stranger", which she agreed was inappropriate. It just annoys me when women feel the need to spout this stuff around men. On a message board or when you AREN'T in mixed company, but don't talk down about men in front of them. It's a turn off. I don't bash women in front of women.
The second comment was when I brought up something about a picture joke my friend and I have between us. I told my friend "Good thing you were drunk cause I grabbed your boob....you probably don't remember!" (it's an inside joke, but I did grab her boob). She laughed and said she did remember me doing that, then her friend chimes in, "Well it's a good thing you didn't do that to ME". Maybe that should have been my clue that she can't take what I throw out.
She obviously didn't mean anything by what she said, but it gave me a closer glimpse at her personality, and I didn't particularly care for it.
I never said women suck!joekerr31 said:
Man, all I do is point out examples of how women tend to lack integrity, basically calling a spade a spade. I say women tend to be this way or that way but I never say they suck! I don't hate women, I just have a bad taste in my mouth about how today's society works.
Does my state of mind have a bearing on my ability to attract women? Possibly. It all factors in.
But I hold firm to my belief that dateable women are becoming increasingly rare. More and more I read things or hear a woman say something to the effect of "Don't you know? Women rule the world now". I had one chick say it to my face last weekend (see above), I read it on a craigslist post last week, and I even read it somewhere else online awhile back. It's sickening to hear a woman say that. Too many of them have this same attitude, even if they don't vocalize it. It's evident in their actions.
That would have been a kneejerk reaction and it was only a thought that I didn't act on.
See, the funny thing about all of this is that I still have women calling me up every week to do stuff,and I go out with them and have a good time once a week or so. A few different groups of women actually. If I really came off as having such a "bad attitude" do you think for one second these women would be calling ME and asking ME to go have drinks or dinner or brunch or whatever? Hell no! Women HAVE to be stimulated. They need to be entertained. Most of them are a huge ball of insecurity and self doubt. They gravitate toward men (or people in general) who make them feel good, and a guy who comes off as a "woman hater" wouldn't get the time of day from these chicks.
And as far as dealing with women I do actually "date", I am very careful to project the right attitude even if they do something that might be a little out of line, cause I know it doesn't do any good to show that they are getting under your skin. they take it as WEAKNESS, and I refuse to project that to people, even if it means biting my tongue and keeping my game face on.
